I wish them much happiness with their new baby.

I do agree that perhaps the vasectomy was hasty. Kids grow. It’s hard to have a 1 year old and a newborn. But a 6 year old and a 5 year old are much more independent and an 11 and 10 year old can be practically self-sufficient.

I wish they had given it a tad more time, but I do wish them well.

momofthree – I’ve heard that the 2nd child tends to be the “karmic opposite” to the same sex parent. I’ve heard that those children tend to have more issues with that parent – sounds like you are doing great.

I also know someone who is thrilled to be enjoying maternity leave after having a very successful vasectomy reversal. Seems like the very wonderful thing about personal choice is that people take their decisions seriously and either deeply appreciate or deeply regret their decisions. I am grateful that SOME decisions are reversible.

I had my tubes tied for medical reasons…i.e. I could die if I got pregnant again. Does that make me a bad person?? I only have one child and don’t regret my decision at all. At least I will be around for my daughter. I don’t think anyone should judge others on their decision to have permanent birth control. It’s their business and you may not know the whole story.

For all those who are rethinking their vasectomy decision: reversal doesn’t have to be the only option… talk to your OB-GYN about REI or IVF both are covered by most health plans. I know because it’s what I do…get women pregnant. I’m an infertility/IVF nurse. We see alot of couples in just this situation….its just another idea!

Michelle; no-one said babies are like cars! How ridiculous. I had a stillborn son in between my second son and my daughter and I am eternally grateful that we were able to go on and have our daughter after he was born asleep. Of course, it still hurt that he wasn’t meant to stay with us, but the knowledge that we could go on to have another baby was one of the only things that got me through the loss. If my husband had had a vasectomy while I was pregnant I would have been even more heartbroken.

i’ve got two, and i had one of the Angel babies first (a boy), while my daughter, 2.5 years later, could have come from the devil himself, like someone else said. lol, she is something else!

and i am naturally very thin, perhaps underweight, even~ though i gained 50 lb. in my first pregnancy and 65 in my second. i don’t know why, and i tried desperately the second time around, to keep the weight gain down, to no avail. i lost it all very quickly, both times, so i came to figure it’s just what my body needed to do.

I agree with the poster that would be nervous doing something like that while pregnant. I would wait until after delivery. Congrats to them on their second baby.

I don’t see any comments on here that are callous in saying that babies are replaceable like a used car. Everyone who brought up the point was just saying, well, you never know what’s going to happen, and having a vasectomy is a pretty good guarantee that you won’t be able to have any more biological kids with your husand. Of course there’s no replacement for a lost baby but I do agree with Kate. After a miscarriage, stillborn, or death of a baby the yearning to be a parent and have kids is still there. Yes, you grieve for the lost ones but you still want to be a parent.
I saw a story years back about a mother who lost her 4 kids in a car crash and she ended up having 2 more kids late in life. She used that reason – she was a mother with no kids, and while she missed her kids, she still wanted to be a mother.

Wow, I have to say I’m surprised by the number of people who’d had vasectomies or their tubes tied!
I’ve never considered a ‘permanent’ fix and after reading your comments we (me and huby) are even more sure we don’t want anything that set in stone. How can you know how you’ll feel in say 5 years? And to do it while you’re still pregnant! The worst time EVER to make this decision, imo!

CelebBabyLover, no-one is “acting” like a a baby who dies in infancy is replacable AT ALL. Ruthella and I made a point of why the doctors advise holding off on vasectomies in the UK and Australia, but at no point have we or any other poster insinuated that you can “simply” replace one child with another. And I completely agree with Kate, the desire to parent is still there after the loss of a child; usually it is even stronger.