Tori Spelling and Kids Make a Target Run

In her first public outing with both children, Tori Spelling, 35, toted 16-month-old Liam Aaron while making a Target run on Wednesday in Los Angeles. She was accompanied by friend and baby nurse Patsy (not pictured), as well as a nanny. Tori’s reality show, Home Sweet Hollywood, aired 8-week-old daughter Stella Doreen‘s birth this past Tuesday, with the season finale airing next week.

Photo by ATM/Flynet; LIMELIGHTPICS.US

Liam is wearing a West Side Woodstock t-shirt by MINI FINE ($20).

Stella rides in an Orbit stroller system in black/slate ($900).

Over the carseat is an Luna Lullaby Soothing Swaddle Blanket in monkey around ($42 for 3).

Comments

ekaterina on August 7th, 2008

I find it funny when celbs are wanting to have more kids ( as she has stated)- when the nannies do most of the care! but then again if I had as much help as she does i could have four times as many!
why do they need a nanny with them to shop?? i dont get it- but then again i dont have one so mabe that is why! LOL

Mom of boys on August 7th, 2008

I love them! They are such a happy family! Tori and Dean’s relationship reminds me of the relationship I have with my Hubby.

So sweet.

Pamelaa on August 7th, 2008

ekaterina I think most of them have nannies because its hard to protect your kids and dodge the paparazzi.

jacky on August 7th, 2008

any info. on tori’s necklace? i am dying to buy a necklace with my son’s initial or name on it, but one i don’t want to break the bank and two i don’t want it to look too cheap.

liam is such a cute little boy! he looks so much like his daddy

Melissa on August 7th, 2008

If you watch her show, nannies do not do most of the work. Tori and Dean do everything for Liam (Stella was just born on the show on Tuesday) She hasn’t even had Patsy this season or a nannie that they have shown. Maybe they got one now that they have two babies.

tink1217 on August 7th, 2008

well, when I had 2 children under 2, when I went out shopping I usually had my grandma or mom with me. No they aren’t nannies but they helped me out just the same. And Tori doesn’t seem to have a double stroller so maybe she wanted to carry Liam and someone else push Stella in the stroller? I don’t know Tori and Dean personally but the nanny they had when Liam was born is no longer employed by them although they remain good friends and she was there for Liam’s birthday and for Stella’s birth helping the friends get their house ready. From what I have seen on the show Tori and Dean do most everything for Liam. When they are working (like her book signings) Liam is with them sometimes and sometimes he is not. having a part time caregiver is not a big deal is it? I could see saying something if they always had someone out with them or a live in, but as far as I have seen they don’t.

I think Tori looks great! I absolutely love their show and Liam is a cutie as usual. Hope we get to see more of Stella soon!! I thought she was a gorgeous newborn and I bet she is even more gorgeous as she grows!

Mom of Boys, I was just saying the same thing to my husband the other day about Tori and Dean reminding me of me and him. It is sweet how they are with each other.

Stacy on August 7th, 2008

To Ekaterina, Though some celebes take advantage of being able to have nanny’s care for their children all of the time. It is also a safety measure to have more than one person out with the children. Because they are famous they have people coming up to them in the street distracting them for an autograph and then who’s going to be watching and keeping an eye on the kids to make sure they are safe? Also there is always the worry of a child being taken by some mentally ill person who has a fasination with the celeb. And paparazzi with camera’s flashing lights in the kids faces. It can get dangerous for them and be scary. We all know that she chose this life but her kids didn’t and she has every right to go out in public with her children without being followed but because she is who she is that’s not going to happen and she and her family need a little extra help for the safety of her kids. I don’t think Tori is doing it because she can’t handle both of her children like we non celeb moms do, but we don’t have a few of the extra worries to think about. She’s protecting her children and I say good for her.

But still don’t we all wish we could have a nanny to help us moms out on those extra hard days. Or just to get a few minutes alone without someone screaming for you lol

MB on August 7th, 2008

Well it was really only one nanny, right? Because the other woman was her friend. I think the # of nannines debate is a little funny; it was just the Heidi/Seal in Italy story.

Just a funny rumor though, somewhat related. I *think* after JLO had her twins she said they weren’t using a nurse, but then listed a bunch of other nurse-sounding staff. Right? Well I was reading an article on one of the sites CBB linked to today, and it said that JLO and Marc are on their 3rd nanny. I guess they were paying $9,000 a month for 1 nanny to watch the twins and work 16 hours a day with “no breaks” and that is outside the scope of what many nannies are willing to do, so they’ve been qutting. BUT the article cited National Enquirer (!) so who knows if this is actually true or not. It was just interesting to me.

Maybe nannies for big celebs *want* to work in pairs. It’s got to be a lot of work caring for high-profile children because of the security concerns and potentially overly fussy parents, plus parents who may both have insane work schedules, if they are both stars. I’m not trying to say that being a nanny for “regular” kids isn’t difficult, just that there are some possible added concerns and maybe that’s why celebs seem to have a lot of nannies.

dsmom on August 7th, 2008

If tori was worried about the paps taking pictures and being to aggressive then why even take the kids? Why wouldnt she rather keep them )or one of them) at home with the nurse,and nanny? I think that would make more sense…

Bella on August 7th, 2008

I COULDNT IMAGINE MISSING OUT ON MY GRANDKIDS LIFE!!! HER MOM WILL REGRET IT…..TORI, YOU HAVE A WONDERFUL FAMILY!!WE LOVE YA!!BLESS THE BEAUTIFUL BABIES!

dsmom on August 7th, 2008

BTW I must say I have never seen Jennifer Garner with a nanny. I know that she only has 1 child but she is a much bigger star than Tori. She makes it work rather well with the paparazzi.

mafg on August 7th, 2008

I must admit that I thought it was funny that someone who can employ a baby nurse and a nanny was at target…but honestly, think that that’s in keeping with who she is, think she is someone who knows who she is and hasn’t bought into the “image” that she has. She doesn’t seem to get all riled up about what’s out there about her, but has a healthy sense of humor about the “Fame Thing” – Good For Her

Liz on August 7th, 2008

Wow, I never realized how critical people are of other parents choices. I am not a celebrity and work part-time (teaching), have one child and I have a part-time nanny. I’m happy to have someone help me with my toddler and I am able to run errands etc. I live in NYC and this is considered normal for middle/upper class families. And for working class families, it seems to be the norm to use daycare during the day or have your mom/sister help with your children. If my mom or my husband’s mom had time and lived close by, I would gladly use their help. In all cultures and historically speaking, childcare was a family affair–in other words, multi generation families lived under one roof and helped out with the children and the wealthy hired outside help. Instead of my mom or sister, I employ a nanny. Why should Tori try to manage her toddler and newborn by herself in a store like Target. And even if she wanted to leave the newborn at home, she would still need someone to watch the baby!

kristen on August 7th, 2008

I do not have an issue with anyone having a nanny. A lot of people have them because of odd work hours. My issue is when a celebrity has a day nanny, night nanny, weekend nanny, and a travel nanny. When are they with their own children?? I guess that for those nanny’s it is better than being the ONLY nanny.

kristen on August 7th, 2008

Can anyone tell me what this stroller does for $900.00? I see so many pictures of celebrities and they all seem to have this stroller. I wonder if they have to pay for them or if the company sends them one. Imagine all of the free publicity from the pictures!

kristen on August 7th, 2008

dsmom- I would assume that Jennifer does have a nanny for the times that her and Ben are out. They travel with Violet and go to events, someone must be with them. Of course it could be family. But that family would be filling the same spot as a nanny. She is a great example of someone who is not abusing the use of a nanny.

Can anyone explain the problem with using a nanny? Most of us use childcare of some sort. Maybe it is just the term “nanny” and what it implies?

MB on August 7th, 2008

is that fair to the kids dsmom, for them to get left at home? but, one could also ask if it’s fair for them to go out with the paps too i guess. it’s a no win situation.

that is a good point about jennifer garner. i wonder though, if she uses help in other ways so that she can spend so much time with her daughter on her own. like, although we sometimes see pictures of her at the farmers market with violet, does she have someone who does the family grocery shopping/other errands? i also wonder if she will use a nanny when this baby is born.

either way, i don’t fault celebs for having nannies if they are still spending time with their kids. as someone said this week (alana?) kids can’t hurt from having too many people love them

Erica on August 7th, 2008

Kristen, yes the celebs are gifted the strollers. Off the top of my head, Tori, Nicole and Joel, Matthew and Camila, Marcia Cross, Chris Noth, Jessica Alba, Halle Berry, Melissa JHW, Poppy Montgomery, Maggie and Peter, Bridget Moynahan, Naomi and Liev, Jaime Pressly, Heidi and Seal etc have all been given them by Orbit. I love it and always look to see who has it!

Kresta on August 7th, 2008

I have to admit I used to struggle taking my eldest son out when he was a toddler and his brother was newborn. My eldest son was very active and always wanted to run off. I used to harness him into his stroller and carry the baby in a front pack and shop very quickly. It wasn’t a pleasant experience. If I could have afforded help I would most likely have hired a nanny to make life easier. Some people can afford it but most of us can’t and just muddle on the best we can. At least my second son was quieter and stuck by my side so when my daughter was bron going out with them wasn’t such a hassle.

Cait on August 7th, 2008

dsmom – Jennifer Garner has said in interviews before that they have a nanny, but that she’s more like a babysitter in the fact that if Jen is home and doesn’t have anywhere to go where she can’t bring Vi, the nanny doesn’t come to their house.

kristen on August 7th, 2008

Erica- If a celebrity does not have to pay 900.00 for a stroller, why would I? These people are more than able to pay for things, why get it for free? Simple answer, the company knows that there are those who will seek out the product that they see a celebrity using. Crazy, crazy, crazy…

Brittany on August 7th, 2008

I love this family, you can tell Tori is a great mom! Those swaddling blankets are great, my son has a few and they are so soft. You can also use them as sheets for a bassinet.

Also you never really see Tori and Dean without their children, i think if we all had the money we would have baby nurses too. I think some people just want a reason to complain about this family. I think they are great.

Charity on August 7th, 2008

Kristen – When I have a baby, the Orbit will be at the top of my list. I know it’s $900, but it appears to be the safest and most convenient stroller out there.

You can check it out on Amazon or their site. I think it’s orbitbaby.com

mommy2-3 on August 7th, 2008

I myself have 3 kids 9, 6, and 2 years of age and would never dream of having a nanny. I do understand in which a celeb would need someone to be out and about with them because of papps. But thats no need for a nanny.
I live over 12 hours from any and all of mine and my hubbies families. I didnt have anyone staying with me to help me when my second and third children were born.
So why do celebs need nannies? I just dont understand it. Now I know there are some Celebs that just have nannies for certain occasions and what not, but I have never needed one and dont want one. Why do they?
If you are wanting and willing to have kids then I say take care of them yourself not other people.
I know everyone has there own opinion on this topic, but I had to put my 2 cents in.

Candace on August 7th, 2008

Oh GOSH, I truly to NOT like shopping by myself with my two kids (age 3 and 1), but heck, if I had a nanny or two…that would make it a BREEZE!!

Christine on August 7th, 2008

My first reaction was “A friend, a baby nurse, AND a nanny? All for one shopping trip?” It just seems to be overkill. One person pushes Stella’s stroller, and Tori carries Liam. Easy.

I have 3 year old twins and I’ve done everything on my own, including shopping. So it can be done.

Now, if anyone wanted to be a nanny for me, I’d have been thrilled to leave them at home and spend some quiet time getting my shopping done.

Melissa on August 7th, 2008

i love tori, but i found my orbit to be a waste. it was very heavy and i had alot of problems carrying it. I recently bought the bug a boo which i love!!

Silvermouse on August 7th, 2008

When my mother had 3 of us (we’re stairstepped) as toddlers and infants, she had to have a nanny to keep up with us. I think sometimes it is better to have one when you have children that close in age. It also enforced a close relationship with my former nanny for several years until I left for college. My mum still keeps in contact with her. However, I think having three nannies for three children is a bit much. . . lol

brooke on August 7th, 2008

I love the orbit and the bugaboo, and it’s something you can get good use of and not use it just once, so in my opnion it’s not a waste of money. Liam is so cute, he favors the spelling family a lot.

ang on August 8th, 2008

i think it’s stella’s first public outing so maybe tori was concerned about how it would go, especially since stella hasn’t been seen apart from OK! mag.i say it again and again but it’s important to remember tori is a nanny-raised child and knows first-hand the damage having such a carer can do to parent-child relationships.to think she would ever over-rely on hired help is utterly laughable.

Valerie on August 8th, 2008

I think Tori and Dean use A LOT of childcare and nanny help. What the public sees on the show is just a small, selected portion of their lives. I notice too that this season they seem more hands-on with Liam in the show, and I think it may be because last year, there were criticisms that the nanny did so much of the child care, while Tori and Dean often sat next to the child and nanny and watched.
On another issue, in a couple of the posts, it seems that the folowing 2 things are considered equal: childcare by a nanny and childcare by a grandmother/aunt. I don’t see these as equal in quality, especially if the parents are close with their own parents and siblings. I know in some cases, because of location and work schedules, it isn’t possible to have a lot of care done by grandparents or aunts/other family, but if I were in that situation and had to have a non-relative child care provider, I would recognize that if it was at all possible, I would have a family member provide care for my child and not just equate a nanny with a family member. At least for me, there would be no comparison. I would feel so much better with my child in my mother’s care! I know in some cases, nannies become life-long family friends, but this doesn’t seem to happen a lot, at least from what I hear. Also, a note to Liz, just because having a nanny is the “norm”, doesn’t mean it is right for everyone and should be done. It’s good to question the “norms” once in a while. It’s interesting that you distinguish between working and upper class families. I’m not sure you are right about that. I think there is a trend among midle class families who can afford it to not use any child care (except celebrity families who often have a whole entourage).

sadie on August 8th, 2008

I have a 7 month old son and am pregnant with twin girls, and if we could afford some part-time help I would snap it up!! There is no shame in having a nanny and it does not make a parent any less loving or hands-on. An extra pair of hands is all it is.

Rowling on August 8th, 2008

What are the advice round c-sections over there? Here your not suposed to carry that much (like Liam) 7 weeks after.

TheBaby on August 8th, 2008

I want that necklace…any info on it? Also, I love that diaper bag – you could use it for anything!

dsmom on August 8th, 2008

Silvermouse…She had to have help? Please…my mom was basically single for 3 years, my dad was traveling on business and she had 3 girls 5,3 and 1. She never had help and never needed it. She could take care of her kids. I think this is the reality of the situation- if you have a lot of money, like celebs, you are use to the hard things being done for you. The kids, the cleaning, all of the things regular moms do.They have help because they can and its not always right in my opinion but hey to each their own. Women for thousands of years have been able to take care of their homes, their families, etc…Its an interesting topic and lifestyle to say the least. Dont get me wrong I understand that woking mothers need help. My son goes to a private school part time. Im talking about people who abuse it. Believe me i know, I was a nanny for 3 years when I was younger.

tink1217 on August 8th, 2008

if Tori left the kids at home every time she went shopping or went somewhere she knew the paps would be(which is everywhere when it comes to Tori lately)…she would be criticized for never being with her kids. If she brings help along with her she gets criticized for having a nanny. With celebs around here and so many other blogs…its a no win situation. They get criticized no matter what they do.

skips on August 8th, 2008

what is the name of their show?

Lesha on August 8th, 2008

@dsmom: if she had left her newborn at home then someone would have criticized her for leaving the house without her baby and not bonding instead of shopping.

Seriously moms…do we need to criticize every other mother’s choice? Celeb or not, it makes a person feel so small when you belittle their choices. Maybe we should all try for a week to only give compliments to other moms. How beautiful their babies look, how alert, how smart, how much fun are they having! Moms have enough pressure as it is, hearing a compliment every now and then would be such a boost! Lift up moms, don’t knock them down.

IG on August 8th, 2008

Jacky –

Redenvelope.com has some great necklaces that are very reasonably priced. My hubby bought me a locket with my daughter’s initial for my first Mother’s Day from there and I love it!

http://search.redenvelope.com/search/controller_search.jsp?giftRes=yes&envSuff=&ipsResQlt=75&bct4=jewelry&bcp4=3&bcm4=1$$-12421&refPg=%2fproduct_display%2fsubcollection.jsp&N=12425

Ella on August 8th, 2008

Skips, it’s in the post caption. Home Sweet Hollywood, it’s a great show.

madison on August 8th, 2008

wow, 2 nice pictures of Tori and kids out and about and so much criticism. From these two pics, this comments section has questioned her on the following –

– Why bring the childcare helpers to the store?
– Why not leave the kids at home?
– Why not take just one kid?
– Why have more than one helper?
– Why use such an expensive stroller?

None of us know what its really like to live in her world. None of us know what her schedule is like or where her comfort level is in terms of taking the children into an environment with trailing paparazzi. I know its just harmless banter on a website and human nature to question others – but every one of us probably does 10 things each day that could easily be questioned or criticized by others. I come to expect this with breastfeeding or vaccination posts – but a trip to Target? GEESH

Beverley on August 8th, 2008

However did I survive going to Target and everywhere else alone with my 2 children and no help?

kelly on August 8th, 2008

Rowling- C-section advice is generally no driving for 2 weeks, but after the 6 week check-up, there generally are few restrictions. Tori’s baby is 8 weeks, so she should be fine.

leslie on August 8th, 2008

i thought it was funny when i read she was shopping with a friend, baby nurse, AND nanny. i can understand wanting a friend or someone alon got hang with and to help with all that baby gear but 4 adults for two children is a bit much. i think dean and tori look nice but for those of you defending them based on their show, just becasue reality show is in the name doesnt mean its reality. they could do “everything” while the camera is on and then pass them off as soon as camera is off OR its the way the film is edited to show them OR maybe they do all the work but then why would you need two nannies?

if i had more money i wouldnt say i wouldnt never have a nanny around but we have to admit the stars that use nannies are spoiled! nothing wrong wiht being spoiled as long as you arent a brat and you know you are spoiled

Lovely Pierre on August 8th, 2008

This is my first post. I live in a NYC suburb with my husband and 2 sons, aged 12 and 5. We have a living nanny from Monday to Friday. We are NOT rich, but we need living help. Why? We leave our home at 7am. The school bus comes at 7:05 am for the oldest and 11:30am for the 5 year old. What should we do? The oldest returns at 2:30pm and the other at 3:30pm. We arrive at 7pm due to traffic and distance. My parents are deceased and my in-laws live in another country. We must both work in order to afford the house and everything else hence the living help. We should respect other people choices.

Bren on August 8th, 2008

We should respect other people choices.
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Bravo Lovely Pierre! We should respect other mommys choices! So she has 1,2,3,4,5, or more nannies! who cares??? we are not paying for them, I love to see children be loved and taken care of by many different people.

mere on August 8th, 2008

What’s the difference between a nanny and a baby nurse — anyone know?

Just curious, because I noticed that the McDermotts’ friend/employee Patsy is described as a baby nurse.

MB on August 8th, 2008

mere, i wonder if perhaps a baby nurse is actually a nurse (LPN or RN) who specializes in taking care of babies? not sure though.

marg on August 8th, 2008

Liam is too cute…. What happen to them complaining on their show about being broke? A nurse and a nanny… Sounds crazy to me. Good Luck with the new baby I’m sure she is adorable.

Liz on August 8th, 2008

Valerie–I am not saying not to question the norm, I’m saying that is the norm in NYC. Now I don’t know what is middle class to you, but in NYC $150K per/year is middle class. In my circle, most people have part-time help. If they don’t have a nanny, they have a housekeeper. I admire people who take care of their children/household alone, my mom did (my parents were divorced when I was a toddler and I have a brother). I choose not to take that route and I have the money to make that choice. I’m sure many more would if they had the means.

allison on August 8th, 2008

Valerie…I so agree with you! It sure is nice to hear another person with some sense on this board. Very well said!

Jay on August 8th, 2008

Amazing how one picture can spark what Tori is doing and why she’s doing it. It’s a good thing she lives her life for her and not based on what people say or think of her.

sigh on August 8th, 2008

The last two times I pointed out (truly) excessive nanny-use in posts about the Klum-Seal family, I and other were immediately shouted down by at least 10 people. Apparently THOSE two nannies are family friends and it’s great!! that Heidi always brings them everywhere…. even when Heidi has her husband *and* her parents with them. And those kids are much older than Tori’s, so I don’t get it…?

It just seems like Tori is taking a lot more flak, even though her childcare help is much less excessive than someone else’s.

Kate on August 8th, 2008

Those swaddling blankets are awesome, I use them for everything with my 11-months old son.
People are sooo hateful, it’s really sad to read all these comments, and see the bitterness that comes through:) Who cares how much she spent (or didn’t spent) on the stroller, bag, etc., or that she took nanny and another person friend-nurse with her on her first 2-kids outing? I know I was very stressed when I had to take my 18-months old and newborn out for the first time by myself, and I’m sure she was too. So why not make it easier on herself if she can.
Oh, and those strollers are great, my friend has one, and there is HUGE diferrence between how it handles and turns, and how let’s say ,Graco handles. I have a Bugaboo for my 3rd child, and I just simply enjoy using it after 3 Gracos.

terri on August 8th, 2008

The friend and baby nurse are one person as I read it.

Amy on August 9th, 2008

That’s a Luna Lullaby Monkey Around muslin blanket, not an Aden & Anais blanket.

jill on August 10th, 2008

We have three boys and are expecting our fourth. This will make all of you anti nanny women go nuts, but I have a part time nanny AND I am a stay at home mom. Yep! She has been with us for four years, and as far as a nanny vs. family member caring for my child, both my children and I prefer the nanny. They can be in their own home with their own things for overnights, she knows what they like to do, where everything is, and they love her like a family member.
Having a nanny keeps me sane. There are days that she does the family shopping, errands, etc. so that I can hang with the kids. There are times that she stays with one or more kids so that I can spend time with one of the children alone. There are times that she stays with all of them so that I can have some time to myself or go to an appt. without taking kids. She is an extra set of hands on family trips, and while it may not be necessary, it sure is nice!
To those who want to criticize other mothers choices, I say mind your own business~!

Annabella on August 10th, 2008

Melissa: I have watched every season of the show, and just because they don’t show a nanny on camera does not mean that the parents are doing the marjority of the childcare. That’s something that we can’t possibly know just from watching a show that only features the highlights of their lives and not the day-to-day stuff. Season 3 takes place over a 3 month period of time, and yet there are only 8 episodes. Do you really think that it’s possible to tell what someone’s day-to-day life is like based on seeing only 8 hours of a three month span of time? I certainly don’t.

I notice that on the show they try really hard to act like they don’t have a nanny (mentioning that they’re going to have to look for a babysitter for Liam) and yet they obviously do have one. I’ve never understood celebrities trying to act like they don’t have a nanny. Why don’t they just say, “Yes we both work, and so we have a nanny to take care of our child while we do that.”

Deb on August 10th, 2008

I have the exact same Monkey Around blanket set. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE those blankets…so soft!