Kate Moss Puts Daughter Lila On Top of Priority List

Getting older doesn’t mean slowing down for Kate Moss. The 34-year-old model and fashion designer happily declares that she hasn’t "become middle-aged," and says that although she’s "got a house and a daughter and all that" she still likes to "have fun." That daughter — 5 ½-year-old Lila Grace — is still at the forefront of Kate’s list of priorities, however, no matter how much fun she’s having.

In a new interview, Kate reveals that she’s often thought of moving full-time to her farmhouse in the country so that Lila can grow up in a slower-paced environment. In the meantime, the mother-daughter duo spend the bulk of their time in London, where Kate frequently hosts playdates for her friends, telling Vogue "we all have fun with the children — together." She adds,

I’m a mum. All the time. Every day. I put my daughter to bed.

Lila is Kate’s daughter with ex-boyfriend Jefferson Hack.

Source: Vogue; Photo by BIG PICTURES/Bauer-Griffin.

Comments

Before I give my opinion, I want to say that I am being honest and would absolutely be comfortable saying this to Kate’s face:

Putting her daughter at the top of her priority list??! Please!
I think a first step to putting her daughter at the top of her “priority list” would be stopping her hard-partying lifestyle. We’ve all seen those pics/videos of her doing (or talking about doing)drugs and we’ve seen the people she hangs around with (Pete Doherty etc)….
She says that eventhough she’s a mum, she still likes to “have fun”…having fun is fine, being self-destructive and a bad role-model is not.
When you become a parent, you give up your right to be selfish. Parenting is about more than the ability to buy a fancy house or the fact that you “put your daughter to bed.”
I guess all I’m saying is that for all of her proclamations about what an involved mum she is, she certainly doesn’t appear to be living a child-centered life.

- *Lulu* on August 6th, 2008

Please.. that little girl lives with Kate’s Mom. I feel for that little girl!

- Shelly on August 6th, 2008

Lulu, Shelly…Agreed 100%. I’m not sure who would believe Kate on this one. Didnt Kate;s nanny tell the press last year that she quit because she was working 24 hours a day? That Kate was never there for her daughter and that she was not paid enough?

- dsmom on August 6th, 2008

As if she puts Lila to bed every day… Kate Mis certainly seems like an example of someone who just didn’t want to adapt her life to fit her child.

She, Jordan and Kerry Katona are often in the ridiculous ‘Celebrity Mum of the Year’ lists here in the UK. What a joke…

- Ruthella on August 6th, 2008

Um, yeah… I find it difficult to believe that she feels as though she’s being a responsible parent by moving a known drug addict (Pete Doherty) still abusing into her home with her very young child. And then to be subsequently caught on camera – more than once – doing drugs and being sloppy drunk doesn’t read like a responsible parent.

I understand where she’s coming from – still wanting to have fun, go out without worrying about what tomorrow will bring… Which is why I’m childless at 33 and will likely remain childless. I recognize my deep-seated selfishness and desire to have a lifetyle that will let me drop whatever I’m doing and run off to Greece or the Bahamas or get tipsy after a few glasses of wine and stay out all night. (No drugs, tho. If I can’t be a slave to a child, I definitely don’t want to be a slave to an addiction.)

I’m glad that her profession allows her the luxury of paying others to pay attention to Lila or to provide a good life for Lila with her grandmother. At least the child *has* her grandmother to rely on… In some ways, this does make Kate a “responsible” parent, but not quite responsible enough.

- Jen DC on August 6th, 2008

Just to add…in Kate’s slight defense, at least she doesn’t constantly sell Lila out to the press. She’s still nowhere near a committed Mum, IMO, but at least she tries to give her daughter a little privacy.

In magazines in the UK, Lila’s face is almost always blanked out. In stark contrast to Jordan and Kerry’s kids being dressed up for hundreds of posed photoshoots and having the contents of their every nappy discussed in OK mag.

- Ruthella on August 6th, 2008

I don’t think it’s very nice to bash Kate as a mum. None of us actually know her. We all see her life through pictures. No one knows what goes on between her and Lila. Kate loves Lila, there is no doubt about that. Because she goes out at night, that makes her a bad mum? It’s not right to say that. And Lila has a very great dad. Jefferson sees Lila a lot. He goes to Belgium with her and his fiancee, he goes to the country with her, he does a lot with her. Kate’s mum is not the sole caregiver. I just don’t think it’s right to bash her as a mum seeing as none of us know her.

- Amber on August 6th, 2008

Amber, I’m not questioning Kate’s love for her daughter. I’m sure she loves her. Love alone doesn’t make you a good parent. It’s about changing your life to best suit rearing a child, it’s about making that child the center of your universe. It is sacrifice, commitment, maturity, and good-judgement.
If you are leaving your child with others (albeit very responsible people) so you can jaunt off and live a very fast, very adult lifestyle, you are not doing the best you can for your child.
…and btw she is not going out at night and having a few glasses of wine, she’s using hard drugs…big difference!

- *Lulu* on August 6th, 2008

wow, um i’ve never really thought of Kate as not being a good mum. Because we rarely see Lila Grace, i can see why some people might see it as the little girl never being with her mum, but i’ve always thought how great it is that Lila isn’t constantly photographed.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion so fair dues Lulu. Personally though, i can’t agree because i couldn’t say that to someone’s face: i’d feel like a hypocrite as no doubt i’m not a perfect parent.

- Bb on August 6th, 2008

Amber: You are right, we don’t necessarily know Kate Moss personally, but I don’t believe that the press is out to get her and that all we see, read and hear about her lifestyle is false. By her own admission, she still lives pretty fast. Staying out all night does not make you a good mom, that is for sure. If you’re tired and hung over, well, you’re just not as available to your kid. Hell, I’m not as good to my dog if I’m tired and hung over. I understand you being a little uncomfortable with people making judgments about Kate as a mother, and giving her the benefit of the doubt, I think it’s just hard to see someone claim to be a good mother while smoking, drinking, and taking drugs; things most of us do not associate with being a responsible adult, let alone a caring mommy.

- Janis on August 6th, 2008

Oh, goodness. I totally LOL-ed when I saw this. I read all the comments, and, yep, Lulu still basically sums it up for me. I’m sure the reporter/interviewer had a hard time keeping a straight face during this.

- carie on August 6th, 2008

. . . Just want to clarify I don’t think there is anything wrong with drinking (just not to excess).

- Janis on August 6th, 2008

Does this mean she kicked her habit? If not, she should really check her priorities over once again.

- Hea on August 6th, 2008

She did at least kick Pete Doherty to the curb. I just read an article on MSN a few weeks ago where he was saying he still hasn’t seen her. I think that’s a good first step in cleaning up her act.

- MB on August 6th, 2008

I’m working on a summer project where I’m interviewing kids and their caregivers about violence. There’s one mom who is so deeply, and utterly vile that I just want to scream when she says that you have to give your kids love and “lead by example.” Meanwhile, she is verbally abusive to her daughter (even in front of me, a stranger) and openly states that drug dealers shouldn’t be arrested for their crimes. because they “have to” survive somehow. In a weird way, Kate reminds me of her.

She means well, but she seems to be blind to the realities of her position as parent. Just telling your kids to “be good” and putting them to bed every now and again will not make them blind (or deaf) to all the other negative things you do in their presence. I think Kate sincerely thinks she’s a good mom, but at least to the public, outwardly presents behavior that is not indicative of good parenting. While we may not know her daily routine with Lila, her bad press will affect her little girl now, or someday soon.

- Xan on August 6th, 2008

Shelly, Lulu and the other moms- I totally agree with you. I read this post thinking, what?? Are you kidding me??

Maybe this is a change for her and she’ll start making her daughter a real priority.

- Emaline on August 6th, 2008

I agree with lulu and the rest.

- Liv on August 6th, 2008

I saw the pair once in the East Village in Manhattan with a friend (she did not look like a nanny). They were walking down the street each holding Lila’s hand swinging her. She was laughing and giggling with Mom. I don’t know her as a person or parent, but thought you’d like to hear of my experience.

- Marissa on August 7th, 2008

I had absolutely no idea that Kate Moss had a daughter! News to me!

- Cali on August 8th, 2008