I bet that if they had two boys and said that Jools would do anything for a girl none of you would care.

You are all two faced – You say it doesn’t matter but 80% of the time you are hoping it’s a girl.

I’m a woman and will be having children in a few years and TBH, I hope that I get boys.

Just get over yourselves.

Re: taking the husband’s name. Here in Scotland it’s actually traditional to keep your surname upon marriage. Okay, say that to many Scottish women and they won’t realise, but really it’s only been the last hundred or so years where women in Scotland have changed their name. It was always the case long before that that the woman kept her name. Now that’s not to say that the children got her name of course, but it’s still interesting. So when people are surprised that my mum kept her name when she married she just tells them she’s actually the traditional one.

So Ali, I assume your husband took on your last name?

Do people really, truly think that there are just two kinds of people, male and female? I think it’s even sillier coming from someone who already has two children, as I suspect her daughters aren’t the same person. Why would a third daughter be? Why is a son so inherently different (antiquated notions of name-passing aside)?

Think of a man and a woman you know. Pretty different, I’d imagine. Now, think of that same man or woman, and someone else of the same gender. Are they miraculously the same because they have the same bits? I suspect the answer is no, and this is one reason, among many, that I think it’s bizarre to have a notion that it’s only a perfect family if there’s at least one boy and one girl. Having a girl doesn’t guarantee you pink, frills, and ponies. Having a boy doesn’t guarantee you blue, macho, and football (thank goodness, on both counts!).

So this is a kind of random post after re-reading my post above. I said that infertility was the hardest part of PCOS etc.. but then later I said but now that we’re not trying to conceive the other issues are harder to deal with. I didn’t mean they are harder to deal with than infertility. I meant now that infertility is not a focus the other issues become more apparent and I notice them more. So I meant now that they are more apparent they harder than they once were.. not harder than infertility. Hopefully that makes sense lol. Infertility was and is by far the hardest part of that condition. It’s heartbreaking and I really sympathize with anyone who is struggling with fertility issues.

Another PCOS sufferer, trying to conceive for the past 16 months – I’m happy Jools is publicly talking about how bad infertility is, and PCOS, and while I agree with Stef and Heather that I have more issues than just not being able to fall pregnant – not actually having a pregnancy or a baby is a lot harder to deal with right now.
I hope Jools and Jamie get their much wanted son soon.

I have to agree with you Ali. If I actually get married,which I doubt, I’m not changing my last name. Let’s not forget that men can take their wives’ last name if they want to. I have heard of some men doing this.

I also loved Jools’ book, ‘Minus Nine to One’, which I read before I fell pregnant, and am reading again! She seems so lovely, down-to-earth and honest, and she writes really well. I heard that she’s planning to write another book – maybe it will be about their current fertility struggles. I hope she falls pregnant again soon. I love her!

I really admired Jools after reading her book ‘Minus nine to one’ about the struggles she went through to conceive with Poppy. She also talks alot about her parenting style and what she feeds her kids. … I thought that was really interesting considering she’s married to a chef.