Kevin Costner Happy to Be Dad for Fifth Time

07/24/2008 at 04:00 PM ET

Costner For many years, Kevin Costner says he spent his days avoiding love. Fearful that he "couldn’t be an effective father," the 53-year-old actor had given up on the idea of ever having any more children. But when longtime girlfriend Christine Baumgartner made it known that she wasn’t willing to sacrifice her dreams of motherhood in order to stay in their relationship, Kevin tells Parade magazine that he had a decision to make.

One day, I woke up and thought, ‘Am I going to lose a beautiful woman who is willing to be with me to my very last breath because I am afraid to say yes to a child?’ That’s all it took.

The couple married in 2004, and three years later welcomed son Cayden Wyatt, 14 ½ months. In the process, Kevin feels he learned that "the thing you’re most afraid of in life is the thing that will save your life." Having fully embraced fatherhood for the fifth time, Kevin says "I don’t think you should close off your life from your children." He adds,

If Cayden were 5 years old, he could sit right here in the living room and listen to us talk. If he started interrupting, I’d say, ‘No, that’s not how talks go between people. We’re talking, and if you want to ask a question, you wait and ask during the gaps.’ I think you should include your children in everything you can, even if they are too young to absorb it all.

In addition to Cayden, Kevin has three children — Annie, 23, Lily, 21, and Joe, 20 — from his first marriage, and Liam, 11, from a previous relationship.

Source: Parade; Photo by Gerardo Mora/Getty.

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Bancie1031 on

I love Kevin Costner … I wish we could see a better and bigger picture of Cayden as well as more pictures of him on here! Not to mention that I love Cayden Wyatt’s name ….. From what I can tell from this picture he looks like daddy and he’s a handsome little boy. And it helps that his dad’s HOT … and I never would have guessed that he was 53!!!!!!

Laura on

Sorry, but I think it’s a little sick that men old enough to be grandfathers (like Kevin Costner, Michael Douglas and Donald Trump) are having babies in their 50’s, just to please their much younger ‘trophy brides’. I’m a 30 year old woman and would never consider asking a 50-something-year-old man with grown children to give me a baby. I think it’s unfair and pretty much blackmail: “Give me a baby or this relationship is over”. That’s not love. While I agree that Cayden is a cutie, there’s no doubt in my mind that he was born because his mother, Christine Baumgartner, (who is more than 20 years YOUNGER than Kevin Costner) pushed for it, not because Kevin wanted another child so much.

phoebe on

Cayden is adorable, a total mix of both gorgeous parents and usually looks like such a happy child and I would definately welcome more photos of him! I must say that I really don’t like the name, it’s cute and trendy on a child by I don’t think it suits an adult. But it’s personal choice I guess and he is sweet :)!

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