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Avahahn, you are 100% right.

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I don’t really care if it’s one nanny or 5. The point is that the boys aren’t being raised by their parents. They probably have no idea who exactly their parents are, or how a normal household runs with a mommy and daddy. Every time I see pictures of these boys they are with whoever, not K-Fed and not Britney. It’s just really sad to me. These young stars who have never been TAUGHT anything besides materialism by THEIR parents go out and get “married” and then just have these innocent kids because they think it’s cute. The kids suffer. Hopefully you’re right and K-Fed IS a devoted father because these 2 boys, who will be men some day, need every ounce of stability in their lives that they can get! I cringe when I think of how they’ll be in 20 years…and that’s sad. Small kids NEED their parents in these young formative years. And I don’t care how stable you try to make it with nannies, bodyguards, and money; they still need thier parents.

Anyway, all I was saying is that maybe Lynne Spears should have been spending more time as the “soccer mom” she thinks she was being instead of parading her girls around like objects to make more money. Britney and Jamie Lynn are paying for their parents mistakes. ANY young girl who is raised like that WOULD have a mental illness, would be unstable and spiral. I think everyone on here should consider Jamie Lynn and Britney’s upbringing by THEIR parents before getting on them about teenage pregnancies, not using birth control, etc, etc…

I have only read a portion of what has been printed here, mostly out of curiousity.

Kids have sex, people make mistakes, it happens. What really irked me is someone saying that people don’t get pregnate on the pill unless they “want to” and that is bull. I got pregnate on the pill, I was married and in college… NOT a good time for me. Who ever said you cannot get pregnate on the pill is dead wrong. You know, they never use to put those little stickers on the pill packs saying that some antibiotics reduce the effectiveness of the pill. Now they do (too late for me), however… who knows what else affects them that we don’t yet know about. Science is not 100% and every womans body is different… thank you very much. On top of that, some women are extremely fertile! I was only off the pill for less than a month when both my other children were concieved and yes, they were planned. Pills are not 100%. A pill or two missed and you could be really be in trouble. I do agree that condoms are a good thing but at the same time we have had those break. A combo of the two would be the safest route. Then again, generally when something is “suppose” to be 99.9% people don’t tend to worry about it. Unless they are worried about STDs.

None of us stand in this girls shoes, none can offer nothing but opinion. I in NO WAY think a teen should have children, only because they miss out on so much of being a child. However, I have known some teen moms that have been better mothers than some middle aged moms and I am sure there are many that do.

My mother had me when she was 16 back in ’72′. She was undereducated, broke and had a very hard life (and 4 other children but the time she was 23) but she did the best she could and I don’t think my life was all that bad. Thanks mom for being a horrible, foolish, unwed teen mom. You have given me a good life!

As far as talking to your kids (as someone asked about)… I have a 7 year old. Between Hanna Montana and Zoey she is an addict! I keep things real with her. We have not had the “sex” talk yet other than it takes a boy and a girl to have a baby. She knows how babies are born. We talk about things like this, yes at her age… often. When there are little 11 and 12 year old girls getting pregnate, prevention is at the top of my list with all my children (13,10 and 7). I am not big on “sex before marriage” simply because it is obsolete for the most part. I am big on prevention, open conversation and education when it comes to sex, relationships and pregnacy with my children. She is smart enough to understand that when you have a baby, that baby becomes number one. Period. We talk about the different things that mom and dad gives up willingly so they can have more than what we did when we were growing up. (Not that we were neglected by any means, but you always want more for your kids.) I keep things simple and clear for her. She is smart as a whip and she understands that people that live on TV are not the people they really are and that they have normal lives just like we do. Sure, they generally don’t have to worry about how they are going to pay their bills but they still have worries. I have explained to her that Jamies situation is not ideal and that having a baby is a HUGE responsibility. She sees the things I do day in and day out and knows that life it not all peaches and cream. However, it can still be good! She also realizes that even tho you have kids and give them a good life, there are still bad people in this world that do horrible things to children and when you have kids, you have to worry about things like that also. Children know and understand more than we give them credit for.

I guess I am done ranting now, thanks for listening. Kudos to Jamie for stepping up and trying to find some sort of normalicy in her situation.

avahan- First of all, Britney lost her kids because her bi-polar disorder wasn’t being managed and got out of control. Britney, unfourtnately, didn’t seem to want to admit she had a problem and certainly wasn’t doing anything to treat it (she may have also suffered from postpartum depression after the births of Sean and Jayden, which could have made the bi-polar disorder even worse).

Sadly, when you don’t treat a mental illness, it almost always spirals out of control. When that happens, it takes time to get it back under control again. Just because Britney is now on medication doesn’t mean that she is “stable” yet.

Also, from what I’ve read (on PEOPLE magazine’s website), the main reason Britney has not regained custody of her boys is because she is currently under a Conservatorship (her dad is her Conservator). When someone is put under a Conservatorship, it means they are not capable of making decisions on their own. Obviously a judge is not going to put children with a parent who has been judged to be unable to make her own decisions at this point in time.

Also, Sean and Jayden are NOT being raised by nannies. They are being raised by their father, Kevin Federline. He does have help…In the form of ONE nanny (again, I read this in PEOPLE magazine). His bodyguard also appears to help with the boys when they are out in public. However, that doesn’t mean the nanny and the bodyguard are raising them! I admit that, when the custody battle first started, I didn’t think too much of K-Fed. However, I have come to realize that, by all accounts, he seems to be a very loving, devoted father,

Saritta, I completely agree with your second paragraph.

I disagree with your first one though. Just because you don’t know anyone who has gotten pregnant while on the pill, does not mean that it does not happen. Because it does, I know several people, who have gotten pregnant while on the pill, and yes they were using it correctly. I’m not saying that Jamie Lynn used any because I have no idea, and don’t think it’s any of our buisness.

I know a few guys who’ve gotten girls pregnant, and it hasn’t altered their lives at all. All the mothers of their children tried to sue for child support, and that didn’t work at all. One guy is supposed to be going through the court to pay it on his son, he paid a $100, and nothing else. The son is six years old, and the “father” has not had to go to jail once for it. In another case, a guy owed quite alot of child support, and he’s spent less than a month in jail for it, and never paid it off, or made a regular payment.
I’m not saying anyone’t right or wrong in this discussion, I just wanted to tell my experiences with this, as I’m close with both the mothers, and children in these cases.I

Anais, once again, not all teenagers are the same. Have you met every single teen on the planet? I’m guessing you haven’t, which means you have no idea whether or not they are all immature. True, some are extrememly immature, but some are very mature for thier age. Once again, you sound as if you’re bigoted against them. I know people who did wait until their older years to have kids, and they are horrible parents. They were now where close to being mature and responsible enough.

My sister got pregnant when she was seventeen, and she was completely mature enough to be a mother. She is a very good one at that.

I know that sixteen year olds are not adults, and some teens are immature. You need to know that not all of them are. I know quite a few adults, who by your standard should be completely wise and mature, who act like little kids, (8 year olds).

I’m not saying that teen pregnancy is a good thing, just that some teens are mature and some are not. Just like in every other age group.

I’m not attacking teenagers and I don’t hate them, but I do believe that they are the most immature people on the planet, and they have every right to be – they aren’t grown up and they’re dealing with a lot of bleeping bleep.

16 year olds are still children. That alone means that they are not wise or mature. Sure they can be smart and beyond their years, but they aren’t ADULTS. And only adults should be raising children (responsible adults, that is). I hope she’s a good mom, and I don’t automatically think she’ll be a bad one. I think it’s sad that she has to miss her childhood and her young adulthood to raise a child. I fully support sex ed in school for this reason. I know kids have sex, I just wish she and all the other teenage PARENTS (that includes boys) would have practised safe sex so they wouldn’t have to deal with all of this. Yes I know children are a blessing, but there is a time and a point in your (semi) older years for children – when you are emotionally ready.

Loren, What is your point? We know men are’nt dying because they can’t have children. Its dumb to even mention that or use it as an argument.

YOUR COMMENT WAS “Even when a teenage boy impregnates a girl, HE DOES NOT ALTER HIS LIFE AND HEALTH NOR RISK IT FOR THE DEED.”

Sorry to inform you his life is altered. Maybe not his health….but eventually it can take a toll. All I’m saying is that our YOUNG BOYS need to be as educated as the girls when it comes to these matters.
His life is altered once they put him in JAIL for non-payment of child support if he doesn’t have a job. His life is altered when he receives a FELONY, which results in him not being able to VOTE anymore. THOSE are pretty high risks to me. Especially when I live in a country where jobs are becoming very scarce. WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT THE BOYS AS WELL! They may not carry or birth the child…..but they play a significant part in the creation!

I have yet to hear of a man dying during childbirth.
“If the girl decides to have the child even if the male counterpart requests an abortion they have to live with that females choice. The men are not stuck with the child but if they are put in the system (child support) it affects them greatly” All the way up to jail time and felonies.”
If the man even knows (which can’t happen to a woman she always knows or does not deny (Maury Povich “You are not the father”) The only thing that has changed since the 60′s is that women have the right to have sex without society saying anything;(too many still calling women names though) when things go wrong it’s still put the blame on Mame. What is sad is, its not the 60′s and women are looking to men for decisions about themselves. Women still blaming the girls and even their mothers. Read this thread I also don’t see any long threads criticizing the men. When a woman is pregnant it is a matter of life or death for HER and THAT has not changed. “You’ve come a long way baby” (slogan for women”s cigarette)
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