Amy- Connor and Bella are NOT Tom’s biological kids. Tom and Nicole adopted them together when they were still married.

Colby- After all she went through to have a biological child, can you blame her? Also, this isn’t her first child, or even techincally her first pregnancy, but it IS her first pregnancy to progress past the first trimester (I’m assuming that the miscarriage she had was in her first trimester, and her ectopic pregnancy was probably removed in the first trimester as well). Therefore, this is a new experience for her. Naturally she’s going to be gushing about it.

Seeing all these comments about Nicole’s relationship with Connor and Bella actually makes me want to chuckle a bit…Because people are complaining about pretty much the exact opposite that they complain about about Angelina Jolie’s relationship with Shiloh. People (more the media in this case) are constantly complaining that Angie “must not love Shiloh as much as her adopted kids” (with some people even claiming that she never wanted a biological child.) and, until recently, that she was seen with her adopted kids more than with Shiloh (now that Shi is older, she is seen out with her parents and siblings more often).

With Nicole, people are constantly criticizing her for not being seen with her adopted kids very much and basically not loving them as much as her biological baby-to-be (no one has come right out and said so, at least here on CBB, but comments such as “she talks about this baby as though it were her first” clearly imply that). Honestly, some celebs are just “d**m’nd if they do, d**m’nd if they don’t”!

All of that said, I noticed that it says the photo of Nicole is by Annie Leibovitz. Annie is the one who took Suri’s first photos. I wonder if she will take the first photos of Nicole’s baby as well.

Stephanie, taking them to the kids choice awards is a perk. Taking them on a harbour cruise is a day out with the family and it doesn’t happen all the time. The rest of the time that Bella was there, she was rarely seen apart from when she went to the salon and there was a very blurred picture of her and her mom on her movie set. The only time Conor was pictured when he was in Australia was when he was on her set and was seen riding the horses. The rest of the time that he was there, he was not papped doing anything else. That is the difference and I don’t think that they stayed in doors all through their stay. That is what we mean by protecting their privacy. Their day to day activities are not recorded as events in tabloids as we have seen happening in the last 3 years. The LA paparazzi have followed them long enough to call out their names and talk to them.

They have 2 families that they should be a part of. The comparison with how she and her hubby aren’t apart for long holds no water considering that all Keith has to do is travel back home to Nashville when he is on tour anywhere in the States. The times that she goes on the road with him are very few, if she is not working then she is at home in Nashville. I certainly don’t think that Cruise travelled to NY on a regular basis when she had them, they went to him. It is like people who see pictures of her in LA sometimes but because they don’t see pictures of her out and about with the kids, they come to the conclusion that she didn’t see them, I mean, seriously. Whatever Cruise says or doesn’t say about Kidman is another matter, I certainly didn’t believe him when he told Oprah that he and her share custody “whenever” whatever that meant. Why would he say a bad word about her anyway, wasn’t it his bashing of other people that put him in the pickle he is in right now PR-wise?

You also have to consider that she needs to protect herself and other members of her family from scientology and since the children are scientologists, she and her family are at risk because even without the kids knowing, they may be asked to divulge things about the Urban family when they go through something scientology calls “security check”, more than 100 questions are asked covering their family life. I have read the questions and they are invasive and threatening for non-scientologists. And Kidman should know having taken the course and taken up scientology for awhile.

Like I said, the children are old enough to fend for themselves, they don’t need mummy to wipe their bums.

I don’t see any reason why she shouldn’t show joy about her pregnancy and why she should even have to talk about her adopted kids. I think at their ages, they already know she is their mother and whether she wants them or not. For those who say she never talks about them, I wonder if you have actually been listening. She has mentioned them in every interview she has done even since they moved to LA. And considering that she is about to enter her 9th month, I think that all she has said about the baby would barely fill half the page of an A4. This has been a most private pregnancy.

If she had her biological kid first and then adopted and started talking up a storm about the adopted kids, people will applaud her. I want to hear about this miracle she has growing inside her and how it makes her feel. It has been a long time coming, almost 20 years infact.

As for not being seen with her kids, when she and Cruise were married, those kids were very protected, you couldn’t pick them out of a crowd. When she moved to NY in 2003 and took them to live with her there, they were barely seen but they went to school, went home, went out with her, she went to their sports activities but pictures were very few indeed. Even when she was working, they went to school and joined her onset almost every day. From 2003 to 2005 (until the kids went to LA), she worked in NY making only Bewitched in LA during that time. It is only in 2005 when they moved to LA that things changed and the kids were seen everywhere almost everyday. That is not her style at all. Infact, I wonder if she is not angry a bit by all the coverage on them i.e. seeing them on the cover or pages of Star, Life and Style on a weekly basis when it never used to happen before.

Also, having a 13 and 15 year old following their mother everywhere is rather ridiculous. Don’t they have friends to hang out with? When I was those kids ages the only time I saw my parents was when I was at home and went out with them sometimes, if they are going out, I don’t have to. I was not sewn to their hips, if they were under 10 then I would understand but TEENAGERS? You don’t see Meryl Streep dragging her kids everywhere or other older actresses infact, they kept their kids very much away from the spotlight and even Kidman herself is rarely seen out and about compared to other celebs. How many pictures of her are here on CBB every month?

Bella will be 16 in December, Conor is 13 years old. They are too old to be following their parents about. They should have better things to do with their time.

Also, Kidman hasn’t been to Oz to make films, the only film she has made there since Moulin Rouge is “Australia”, filmed last year. She has worked primarily in the US and in NY, mostly since 2003.

Brooke, I understand what you mean but I wouldn’t call Nicole Kidman a cold mum at all. In the few pictures when she is with her kids, you will always see her daughter Bella holding her hand and smiling, talking up a storm and Bella will be 16 years old this year. When Conor was in Oz last year, he was a smiling, happy teenager to be, helping them get the horses ready on her movie set and got his first paycheck ever. If those kids have that kind of ease with her even when the paparazzi are taking pictures then I think she has a very warm and loving relationship with her kids.

As for being cold as a person, she is intensely private and I don’t think she really cares for all the friendly joshing “on the minute” with people she probably doesn’t care for but has to deal with because she is contracted to do so. All she has to be is courteous to people and she has always done that but I don’t think she wants to make friends with her interviewer or talk to them for longer than necessary. She is a pretty serious person.

Some things I noticed:

1. Fans said she’s not photographed with the children often because she respects their privacy. When she is photographed with them, they’re usually in incredibly public places, such as the Kids’ Choice awards and Darling Harbour. Not where I would bring kids if I want to shield them from paparazzi.

2. She said doesn’t see the children as much as she wants to because they live in LA and she travels a lot, yet this article said that she and Keith Urban have never been apart for more than five days at a time, even though he goes on tour and spent time in rehab.

I’m not saying she’s a bad mother or doesn’t care about her older children, I’m just saying, this happens in a lot of divorced families. You don’t see the other parents as much, it doesn’t mean you love them any less. And as much as a lot of you want to blame Tom, he never says a bad word about Nicole as a mother and they both always have nice things to say about each other as parents.

I think Nicole is trying to respect the privacy of her older children by not talking about them as much in interviews. Since she splits her time between Australia and Nashville, she probably doesn’t want to disrupt their schedules-I’m sure both kids are involved with school, sports activities, friends, etc.

I’ve seen pictures of Nicole and Keith with Isabella and Connor fairly recently — and I heard on the news that they just purchased another multi-million dollar home in Beverly Hills to be closer to Isabella and Connor whenever possible (even though their primary residence is in Tennessee). In all fairness, I think she sees the children more than we know — she is just a much more private person than Tom Cruise is and doesn’t seem to welcome publicity like he does. She seems to be a loving, caring mother to Bella and Connor from everything I’ve ever read – even though they live with him.

Allison, the reason her belly is so small, is probably because the photos were probably taken fairly early in the pregnancy (as she didn’t really ‘pop’ until these last few months).

I’m so happy for Keith and Nicole. Keith is my favorite musical artist and you can just tell he’s thrilled with all the things surrounding the birth of his first child. The stories (and video) of him learning the word ‘onesie’ always makes me smile now.

she talks as though this baby is her first….really bothers me.

I always thought nicole seemed like a cold mom, in interviews and you rarely see her with her kids, just weird to me. Compared to all the other celebrity moms who are divorced and always still with their kids, she always seemed very aloof and distant from those kids in my opinion