Carnie Wilson hoping for healthier second pregnancy

As she prepares to try for another baby "in a few months," songstress Carnie Wilson says she’s looking to do things differently the second time around. The 40-year-old famously lost 150 lbs with the help of gastric bypass surgery in 1999, only to gain nearly half the weight back during her pregnancy with daughter Lola Sofia, 3. Before conceiving her next child with husband Rob Bonfiglio, Carnie recently told OK! she has some work to do; She’d like to lose 30 lbs, to reach her goal weight of 150-160 lbs. 

I think this is God’s way of having me eat this way so when I do get pregnant, then I won’t be gaining weight and even if I did gain ten pounds, that weight’s going to come off plus more and I’ll be so healthy during this pregnancy and that’s going to be great.

Carnie said it’s important to her that Lola does not hear the term ‘diet.’ Instead, she said she’s talked with her daughter about making healthy food choices and how it helps to lead an overall healthier life.  To that end, Carnie revealed there are two "sections" of her pantry — one for Lola, and one for her. Snacking on her daughter’s leftovers is a constant temptation, however.

I used to give in and finish what she had on her plate. If I had nervous energy, I would walk by and pick up anything I saw. If there was food there, I would pick it up and eat it, for, I don’t know what reason! Now, I don’t even think twice.

Source:  OK!; Photo by PacificCoastNewsOnline.com.

Comments

It sounds like Carnie is making good choices and I love how she’s striving for a healthy life.

- Jen on the Edge on June 13th, 2008

Good luck to her, I know how hard it is to try to loose weight wiht a toddler around…I always use to eat my daughters left overs….now I just look the other way.

- Bren on June 13th, 2008

Carnie has been through such a rough time with her weight and I wish her the best. Wishing her good luck in her attempt at baby #2.

- carla at somethingaboutbaby.com on June 13th, 2008

As someone who struggles with her own weight, I say Carnie is delusional.

I wish her well, but she will always be on this rollercoaster. The next time she gets pregnant and overeats, she will rationalize it and say it is because she is eating for two and the weight will pile back on.

- Chrystie Delancey on June 13th, 2008

Well, that’s one way to put it (delusional) Chrystie. The power of positive thinking can do a lot. I didn’t read anything there that she she was trying to blame someone else…she said she used to eat her daughter’s food. I wish Carnie all the best. I think many of us knows how hard it can be to lose weight and keep it off and we should be supportive.

- MB on June 13th, 2008

She was on tyra the other day and she said that she over ate while she was pregnant and it was out of hand. She doesnt use it as an excuse though. Plus she did say it is hard to drop the pounds having a 2 year old all the time. She is a great person and It’s good to know she hasnt fallen back to her habits 10 years ago when she was over 300 pds. She is not in denial about anything and it is clear when she is being interviewed because she answers everything truthfully even if it sheds her in a bad light.. Good luck to her with baby #2 when that happens. She has my support!

- Lisa on June 13th, 2008

This is exactly why I have never agreed with gastric bypass surgery. Sure, the surgery corrects the physical aspect of obesity but not the psychological part. I wish her all the best though! I’m sure she’ll find some healthy eating plan that will work for her.

- C'estmoi on June 13th, 2008

Im guessing that all of the people coming to her defense did not watch celebrity fit club. At one point didnt they did a montage of all her “reasons” for not dropping the weight. they also hooked her up to the lie detector test b/c she had so many excuses. While i dont think it does anything to bash anyone..lets not use her as an example of gastric bypass not working b/c there are plenty of people who use it as an aid and then continue to live a healthy lifestyle.

- cm on June 13th, 2008

I think carnie will get even bigger after baby number 2. She has been overweight her whole life and if she gets pregnant at say 165lbs, there’s no doubt in my mind she will easily go up to 200lbs in a matter of a few months. CM I agree with you, she had a lot of excuses and the surgery she had does work, if you eat properly and exercise regularly. It’s not an easy way out though, you can’t expect to eat pizza, chips, etc and stay skinny just cause you had surgery, obviously if you eat bad, the pounds will come back on.

- brooke on June 13th, 2008

I love Carnie, I think alot people people here don’t understand her struggle. As a mom of 4 and also a mom who is about 350 pounds, I understand her struggle. I lost weight while pregnant, anywhere from 10-27 pounds. I also lost after the kids were borna nd weigh less now than I used to.

When I look at her I see a women who is trying to change….

I hope all works out for her!

Good luck with baby #2!

- Courtney on June 13th, 2008

“Bottom line: Ask yourself, “Would I be comfortable saying this to the person’s face?”"

I can’t believe some of the comments on here! Would you feel good if Carnie read these? Where is the encouragement? We shouldn’t bash anyone just because they have struggled with weight. I struggle with my weight and a LOT of people do. It’s about moderation and living a healthy LIFESTYLE. Who are we to say she can’t do it, just because she hasn’t in the past?

I just wish her the best. It’s a tough thing to overcome and not something that happens in a few months. For many people, it takes years to switch from one way of living to another.

- Stephany on June 13th, 2008

Stephany, people around here are notorious for bashing when they can get away with it. Carnie seems like she is on the right track at least. The past is the past and she wants to be healthy so she can have another child and teach her children to also be healthy as a role model. I never had a weight problem until I had 2 kids in 2 years and just couldn’t lose those last 10 pounds with each of them. Ten turned into twenty and the thirty, etc…I have struggled ever since. Although I have never been close to Carnie’s weight and I do not have health problems at all, I made the decision last year to turn everything around. I shop organic, no soda(not that I ever drank it), lower sugar and lower carbs, higher protein, low fat. And I exercise EVERY DAY! For at least 45 minutes. Forty pounds are gone. I still have a few left, of course, but my entire outlook and lifestyle is different now.

I say more power to Carnie for getting herself back on track and motivated. Whatever it takes!

- tink1217 on June 13th, 2008

People here are far more notorious for throwing fits whenever someone respectfully states an opinion that differs from their own than they are for “bashing when they can get away with it.” Thia site is by far the kindest celeb blog I have come across, yet I have never found a blog where readers whine about how mean and judgmental everyone is being more than they do here. Anyone objectively reading the above comments can see that there was no “bashing” going on before the comments complaining about said supposed bashing. Irony at its finest.

I don’t know enough about Carnie and her weight struggles to add an opinion to the discussion, but I do hope she is able to finally overcome her struggles and have another baby. Hopefully she is able to get her weight back on track and seek more help for the psychological reasons behind her overeating.

- Lauren on June 13th, 2008

Tink,

I just have to say congratulations to you. You have the right attitude. I would much rather read your trials and tribulations than some so-called “celebrity.”

I guess my angst with Carnie is because it seems (to me) that the only time I read something about her, it is that she wants to lose weight (for some reason or another). I guess I have had enough of her.

Oprah used to be the same way and she somehow got through it. I just hope Carnie will to.

- Chrystie Delancey on June 13th, 2008

I think Carnie has always gotten a lot of attention when it comes to her weight, weather positive or negative attention, its still attention I think she needs to find something else, maybe her singing or her family, as a main focus for her rather than the weight issues.

- Ivey on June 13th, 2008

I agree with Carnie that it’s important not to use the word “diet” with a very young child – it sends the wrong message and we should be more focused on promoting a healthy lifestyle for today’s kids – through example! Children watch their parents and most adults in their lives very closely and I just hope that she can stay strong and be a good role model for her daughter’s sake.

I have struggled with weight for most of my life too and I can truly say that I understand where Carnie’s coming from. It’s tough! I would never consider gastric bypass as an option for myself, but to each his/her own. The only comment I have about what she said is that IF she were being truly honest with herself, she would admit that she gained ALOT of her post-surgery weight back WAY BEFORE getting pregnant with her daughter. It sounds like she’s using the kid as an excuse, when her very public journey is very well documented. I generally have a problem with people (and celebs) who like to “re-write history” with these interviews, with the assumption that her fans are just going to forget about the true facts! Just be true to yourself, Carnie and I’m sure you’ll be okay.

- Chicki on June 13th, 2008

Stephany & Tink!!! Bravo for your postive comments. I agree with you both, people tend to bash celebs simply because they can and probably “if” ever to cross their paths would never say what they’ve said face to face..Oh sure some would like to “think” they would but they wouldn’t.

Carnie is beautiful, funny and a good role model for those who look up to her. Carnie is doing what’s best for “Her” and not for anyone else. We’re all built differently so what works for her, may not work for everyone else but at least she’s trying. She’s in the public eye, c’mon if we were under the public eye/scrutiny ~ You’d do or try anything that would help. You can’t fault anyone for trying. Keep up the great work Carnie & good luck with baby#2!!!

- Natalie S. on June 13th, 2008

I agree with Ivey…when it comes to Carnie Wilson, all we do is discuss her weight. Granted, she seems to bring that on herself to a certain degree, but short of Wilson Phillips, this woman is basically famous because of her weight losses and weight gain. Do we have a male “celebrity” who is famous because of his weight? I don’t think so.

- zelda on June 13th, 2008

I dont understand this whole “would you say it their face” dialogue as far as it concerns the posts that are up for Connie. I happen to be a blunt person and yeah i would say it her face just as i would to anyone who seems to have an issue that they are not being fully honest about. If you were an alcoholic and thought you had a grip on it, i would be the first person to tell you that you dont. No one has called her any derogatory names..so what part of the comment do you think should not be said to her face. My husband has weight issues as does his mom and his father that died. People dont always JUST need encouragement or for things to be sugar coated. Sometimes we need people to be honest and give it to us straight. I hope for her health and her daughters future she is able to get herself together but like i said from what i have seen of her she seemed to have been in denial and had a “reason” every week for not committing to the program.

- CM on June 13th, 2008

wow Lauren, I didn’t realize I was “throwing a fit”! Thought I was pretty calm and rational and stated my own opinion. And yes, there are some..and nobody mentioned names, that tend to see everyone in a bad light around here. Its just a fact of blogs. Thankfully its much less here than elsewhere.

- tink1217 on June 13th, 2008

CM, Lauren, and a lot of the ladies on this board have a healthy outlook on life when it comes to the fact that the world can be a cruel place. And people will say things that can offend others. But sometimes people need a dose of cold-hard reality.

I agree that most of this attention has been brought about by Carnie herself. Think about it, she makes her gastric bypass surgery public, loses weight and then poses for Playboy. I think Carnie’s problems are far reaching then her struggle with her weight. That is why I say she is “delusional” because until she finds the root of this, she will never change.

I am just not inspired by her. She has all the resources at her disposal to make a permanent change, but she still keeps ending up at square one. And I have heard her say that she has trouble keeping the weight off because she has a toddler. What is she going to do when she has a baby AND a toddler? Why doesn’t she try to incorporate Lola into her workout like so many mothers have?

The world today has become all too litigious and in fear of being politically correct.

What sense is there to have a forum when all anyone writes is sweet nothings and never says anything negative, let alone truthful?

If I want nasty and catty comments, I can go to TMZ to read them. The moderators here do a great job of keeping things civil and I think everyone has been respectable.

- Chrystie Delancey on June 13th, 2008

It is very easy for people who don’t have a weight problem to be so hypercritical. most people w/ weight issues are due to emotional eating which gastric bypass cannot correct. the woman is doing the best she can. she is aware of her emotional eating and most likely was asked the question. The focus is always on womens weight and not men. She gets asked about it and that is why she speaks on it. It is a daily struggle and not as simple as if she would just do such and such then she would not have a problem. If that was the case no one in our society would be fat because we all would do such and such.

I am glad she is not using the word diet around her daughter. Teaching her healthy habits might keep her from having a weight problem in the future which is what she is discussing.

- Rachel sun on June 13th, 2008

I guess I just do not understand eating off of anyone elses plate, be it my child or spouse. When my boys were little I gave them baby sized portions and they did not have leftovers on their plates. Plus, lol, being the oldest of 7, I guess there were never any leftovers on anyone’s plate.

My lovely dil who is morbidly obese had the bypass surgery. Only lost 75 lbs. and was back to her starbucks and dunkin donut runs within a year. I guess she is always destined to be big and beautiful.

I do wish Carney the best. I like her as a person and hope she will keep on track.

Someone please explain to me eating leftovers off of a childs plate.

- Ayla on June 13th, 2008

Lauren you’re right. The words “bashing” and “attacking” are used way too much on harmless opinions.

Anyway, I remember an interview Carne did once where she said that even after her surgery she still ate full bags of candy each day. She would just make the bag last all day since her stomach space was smaller. She knew that it was a problem and was working on it.

I wish her the best with her weight loss. I know how hard it is to lose those pounds, both physically and mentally. :/

- Jen on June 13th, 2008

A good family friend of ours had the gastric bypass surgery. He lost a lot of weight and got healthy again, but the mental part of the food addiction is still there. There really is no cure for that. He has gained a little weight back, but overall I can honestly say I think that surgery saved his life.

Having a food addiction is a very complicated thing. A lot of the time the eating is helping to fulfill the hole of some sort of emotional problem and unless you treat that problem you will go in circles trying to lose weight. I have a weight problem and I know that my eating is triggered by emotional cues. It sounds to me that Carnie is stuck on that cycle. It can be so beneficial to find out why you are wanting to eat and then go from there, and not just rely soley on dieting. I commend Carnie for coming this far and for the healthy attitude she has towards raising her daughter. I hope that the pieces will all fall into place someday for Carnie. Sorry for me getting up on my soapbox!

- Elyse on June 13th, 2008

“I think this is God’s way of having me eat this way so when I do get pregnant, then I won’t be gaining weight and even if I did gain ten pounds, that weight’s going to come off plus more and I’ll be so healthy during this pregnancy and that’s going to be great”

that is the quote that does not really make any sense to me..’then i won’t be gaining any weight’ and ‘even if i did gain 10 pounds’..?? there is a normal weight gain during pregnancy from amniotic fluid, the placenta, the baby, the growing uterus..alone. so i would be more concerned if she did NOT gain *at least 10 pounds* or so. yikes!!

- M on June 13th, 2008

Tink, while I apologize for singling you out, that was not my point-what I wrote about in my previous post is an undeniable problem when it comes to readers of this site. The fact that this site is moderated at all puts it bars above the rest in terms of the quality of comments allowed. That is why I have such a problem with how frequently several readers complain about the opinions of those with whom they disagree. I don’t have to tell anyone that the world is not all sunshine and rainbows, and while there is far too much negativity on the Web and in general, censorship of valid opposing opinions on the grounds that they are “judgmental” is beyond juvenile-it is dangerous.

At any rate, Ayla, I think Carnie eating off her daughter’s plate goes back to her use of food as a source of comfort, and she probably feels compelled to eat it if it is in front of her. She does seem very self-aware, which is a good thing. I just hope she can realistically achieve her goals as a parent and a woman trying to lose weight. At 40, she’s working with borrowed time if she wants to lose a significant amount of weight before getting pregnant.

- Lauren on June 13th, 2008

Actually, M, there is a diff. amount of healthy weight gain for the obese. I was reading in What to Expect When You’re Expecting, and they say that for the obese, 10-15 pounds is all that is recommended (if that I think…case by case basis depending on how much the person weighs). Being too heavy can cause problems for the baby, including premature birth.

- MB on June 13th, 2008

I don’t understand the fear of saying the word “diet”. It is just a word, the attitude a person has with regards to eating will make a far bigger impression on a child than a certain word.

- Sarita on June 14th, 2008

MB – yes,i know..but what she is saying is she WILL NOT gain *any* weight, and that ‘”IF” she does gain ten pounds..’ that is what troubles me about it,you know?? :/

- M on June 14th, 2008

I am surprised that not one of the comments yet mentions the fact that she “…said it’s important to her that Lola does not hear the term ‘diet.’ Instead, she said she’s talked with her daughter about making healthy food choices and how it helps to lead an overall healthier life”. Which is wonderful, but then the post says… “To that end, Carnie revealed there are two “sections” of her pantry — one for Lola, and one for her”.
Holy hypocrisy! Really? The majority of the people I know were raised like that and that’s why the majority of people today have weight and food issues. The concept of children needing special “kid’s food” that’s highly processed and comes in fun boxes with colorful characters on them, is a completely modern and totally detrimental concept for our children’s health and ultimately to society as a whole. And that doesn’t sound like an enjoyable way to live.
I look forward to taking my future children to the farmer’s market, tasting the first snap peas and lettuce and peaches and strawberries of the season. I can’t wait to have them at my feet in the kitchen as I cook, tasting from the same spoon, eating from the same plate. What greater joy is there in life than sharing the joy of real health affirming, life giving food with your family?

- emily on June 14th, 2008

well, As I stated above I lost weught during eveyr pregnancy, as much as 27 pounds. I had perfectly healthy children. ALOT of the times obese mothers do NOT gain weight while pregnant or even lose.

We have 2 sections in our pantry as well…
Who says the kids side is filled with “special kid’s food that’s highly processed and comes in fun boxes with colorful characters on them”?

We have a whole shelf of HEALTHY foods just for the kids that they can raid if they want a snack. My side has priceier things that I don’t want them touching!

Our new thing is that each kid has a shoebox size container with their name on it. Everyday in the am I put their breakfast, 2 snacks, and lunch in it. If they are hungrey they have to eat from their box, when its gone its gone….It has worked wonderfully well, even teaching my oldest that if you eat everything by noon your gonna be hongrey later and have a belly ache…

I admire Carnie because she is very much like MANY overweight people out there.

- Courtney on June 14th, 2008