Busy Philipps talks baby names, hypnobirth and more

06/10/2008 at 07:06 AM ET

Busyphillips Growing up with a nickname like ‘Busy’ must make playing the name game particularly problematic for actress Busy Philipps, turning 29 later this month, and her husband Marc Silverstein.  The actress, expecting a baby girl in early August, recently told The Cradle she believes that "the name has the tendency to dictate the kind of person that you become," adding that she is "definitely a ‘Busy!’" The couple had a name ready to go in the event that their baby-on-the-way was a boy, but Busy said they’re struggling to find the perfect combination of traditional and unique when it comes to choosing a name for their daughter. 

It’s hard. It’s a lot of responsibility…Plus, my husband is a writer. I think we’re over-thinking it at this point.

As for life after baby, Busy said that although she’s going to employ a "play it by ear attitude" she has some definite ideas about what she will and will not attempt as a mom.  Breastfeeding is a priority, she revealed, and the couple intends to hire help. 

I talked to a lot of people [about this]… some didn’t have baby nurses, some had daytime doulas, and some swear by a baby nurse. So I think that if I am going back to work while the baby is little, having those first few weeks getting some rest and being able to have someone to help me figure out how to do this will be incredibly helpful. 

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The family bed, on the other hand, is something Busy said she’s not interested in trying. 

We’re not co-sleeping. I’m all for what people want to do in their home, but I need my bed. I’m a terrible sleeper… I toss and turn and flip, and it would just be a disaster if there were a baby there. And I think it’s important for a kid to have their own space. 

Busy also revealed that she also has no intention of pursuing an epidural.  Although she will complete her delivery in a hospital setting with the assistance of a midwife, Busy said that since shewas young she has envisioned a natural birth.  To that end, the couple has taken a HypnoBirthing course and Busy will employ HypnoBirth techniques to labor at home with her midwife, then deliver their daughter in-hospital.  She acknowledged, however, that even the best laid birth plans have been known to go awry — and Busy said she’s prepared to modify her plan as necessary.

I’ve been doing a lot of reading, and I feel really prepared. Yet, that being said, if something were to happen, I really trust my doctor. So if the baby needs to be born another way that I can’t be in control of, then that’s the way the baby is going to be born.  I feel incredibly prepared for the kind of birth that I want to have, but half of it is up to the baby and what she wants to do. We’ll see what kind of birth she has planned!

Photo by Chris Polk for Wireimage.

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Smitten on

Yey for Hypnobirthing!! If you want a natural birth you should do the training so good for her! Hypnobirthing helped me deliver my son naturally and I am eternally grateful to the method.

babyboopie on

I feel sad she doesn’t want to co=sleep with the baby- I did that with my little boy and it was wonderful, of this little person breathing in my face- there is always an awareness of the baby sleeping next to you as you have one eye on the baby all the time while sleeping- I always was tired but it’s so worth it, I had this great bond with Pierre, my son and I was so upset when he was 3 months old, he slept in the cot- I knew I needed to do it as I was going to have to detach myself from him in the sense I was gonna wean him at 4 months because he wasn’t getting enough of my milk.
Anyway, wish her all the best with the new baby

cbbreader on

Babyboopie dont feel sad. Busy made the best choice for her (it could change once she has her daughter) since she moves & is a wild sleeper.

bethany on

I’ve always assumed, and heard that having the baby sleep WITH you is not a good idea. Number one, you need that time to bond with your husband/partner, I think, and that’s kind of taking that time away from the two of you. I have also heard that it makes it next to impossible to get them to sleep in their own bed! Not to mention rolling over on the baby, or is that no longer a legitimate concern? I like the basinet route.

anonymousie on

It’s very personal to decide family bed or not. My husband loves it too and we both have found it makes us all closer; we do not feel less close as a couple even more so in our arrangement. Our baby is still an infant and could not be a happier baby. And we’ll know when it is time for our baby to go it alone. It feels natural for us and also- people around the world in many cultures do the same thing.The bond feels even stronger with my baby too.
There are tons of ways to bond with your child though so it’s really up to the mom and dad. We started it actually b/c I was deadly scared of the SIDS thing (I read too much when pregnant so I psyched myself out) and accd’g to Dr. Dears book I saw something about how the mother and baby’s breathing becoming regulated or in sync being so close together. Also it comforted me to just look over and see my child and know all was well.

As anything in parenting, whatever works for you. Trying what works should (and doesn’t) should be fun and without input from anyone else.

Charles on

I want of address some of the co-sleeping concerns/questions expressed here. Many co-sleepers never planned to co-sleep with the baby before they had their baby. It often end up doing out of convenience or necessity and find they it actually works for them better then they imagined it would. Thus, Busy may end up doing it anyways despite her current feelings on the matter. Secondly, how you sleep when it’s only your partner and you and how you sleep with a baby in bed with you often quit different. Co-sleeping mothers often report being more attuned to the presence of their baby then they ever were their partner. Also she could end up using a bed-side co-sleeper bassinet that allows greater bed sharing style convenience while not actually having the baby in bed with her. Regarding husband/partners bonding with the mother, I would hope one is bonded to one’s partner prior to birth. Any continued bonding can still happen while co-sleeping. More intimate bonding between partners can occur in other rooms. While I might make it more difficult for you to get the child to sleep in his own bed later on, not every parent believes that sleeping on one’s own from early on is that important. Some parents (especially Attachment Parents), feel that allowing their kid(s) move to their own bed when they are ready is better choice for their family (often happens at 2 to 3 years of age on average). In terms of the risk of rolling over on a co-sleeping infant, advocates of co-sleeping argue that co-sleepers are generally very attuned to the presence of their baby and that following basic co-sleeping safety guidelines will also prevent that from happening (this includes not going to bed intoxicated or on sedative drugs, not co-sleeping if obese, using proper co-sleeping bedding, not co-sleeping in a water bed, etc.).

ssrea on

I did Hypnobirth and I had my son in about 15 minutes, no pain at the age of 41. He’s my first. The nurses at the hospital were surprised and so was I. The one thing they don’t tell you about Hypnobirth is that the surprise factor and shock is so high because it happens so fast. I think it also helps that I had a hypnotherapist hypnotize me for pain about a week before I was due. I can’t wait for Busy to share her experience with hypnobirth.

As for the co-sleeping, my son is 11 months old and we still try to introduce the co-sleeping once in awhile but he doesn’t want it. Sometimes I find that as a parent I have to be flexible and not everything goes as I plan. But I’d still love it if my son would just snuggle in the bed with us and fall asleep. Who knows, maybe Busy will change her mind.

Aitch on

I co-slept with my newborns up to about age 6 months. It makes it so much easier to nurse and get sleep! Then when they were a bit older and not nursing as much, I moved them to a crib. IT is so hard to get up and stumble down the hallway for a nursing in the middle of the nigh– I’d rather have them right in the bed, but unfortunately, each of my children got too active when they were around 6 months. I have co -slept with 4 newborns and never felt afraid of rolling over on them and never did!

Becky on

I also agree that having your baby either next to your bed in a basinette or in bed with you is so much easier!!When youre nursing or bottle feeding.And when you’re a new mom or done it before you always sleep with one eye open and ears open to that baby.So rolling over on a baby in my mind isn’t possible! I have 2 daughters and did it with both. They both went into their cribs when a few months old with no problems.

I named my youngest daughter (5 now) LiLia it means “Delicate Blue Flower”.