I think it is terrible that adoption is so expensive. Does anyone know what that money goes into? I do think the screening process should be difficult, very difficult in fact, but the amount of money it costs is ridiculous. I think that does deter many people form adopting.

To Fay and the people attacking her: just because adoption may be more expensive than IVF doesn’t mean it’s more difficult. IVF treatment is hard on you, your partner, your relationships – everything. It’s sad that the need to have a child biologically over-rides the need to keep your relationship intact sometimes.

And no one has to “buy” what Ashley is saying – it’s her marriage! You don’t want people in your lives, either. Who cares what her reasons are for not wanting kids? It’s aggrivating to me that in 2008, women still attack and judge other women when they don’t have kids or aren’t married by the time you think they should be. Aaaah!

It always seems to me that more insecure women take people’s words about adoption in the wrong way. I think adoption is a wonderful, magnificently beautiful thing to do in your life and the lives of the children you make your own. My dad and uncles were adopted and had better lives because of it. I’ve always thought about adopting and when it comes time for us to have children, that’s something that will be thought of seriously. Just because Ashley said that she can’t see having her own when there are kids out there already in need of families, doesn’t mean she’s putting down biologically having children!

Ashley Judd is a hypocritical self-serving person. Visit the I Hate Ashley Judd category at http://www.themockdock.com and read more about her quotes like this one and many many many more.

I cannot STAND her. Join us at the mock dock. There are a whole group of Ashley Haters there.

I don’t think one precludes the other, but I understand her feelings of guilt, if you will.

I feel the need to defend Ashley. From my point of view, she wasn’t being judgmental, she was just giving her opinion. We don’t even know the question she was asked. Personally, I really like Ashley because in every interview I have read, she calls it exactly as she sees it. She gets a lot of criticism for her honesty, which I think is unfair. She also does a lot on behalf of YouthAIDS. Perhaps instead of criticizing her views, we should be praising her work with YouthAIDS.

I would never wish Ashley on a baby. I don’t think she would be a good mum. But I agree with the article, there are lots of other babies out there that could be adopted and loved instead of having your own.

Frenchlas–Well, take the reason that it’s so difficult to adopt a dog from a shelter and magnify it x1000. Agencies have to check out the family and home, there’s travel to another country (if necessary), follow-ups on the family, legal work, etc., which costs a ton, but it is a necessary protection. It deters people who would go and scope out orphan children for illegal reasons (sex industry primarily) in the same way it does those who would adopt dogs for use in fighting rings. I’m sorry if this analogy sounds crass.

However, the cost is fairly exhorbitant and I think much of it could be done pro bono to help out families with the desire but not the means.

… she said she feels some kind of way about having her own kids when she knows there are kids w/o families… angelina said the exact same thing and she didn’t get all this crap about it…
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but Ashley hasnt adopted any of the needy children. Nor has she ever that I know of, publicly exspressed a burning desire to adopt children the way Angelina did.

Saying “we should take care of the ones already here”, seems like a judgemental comment on people having bio kids. You can do both you know. I sponsor a child and have 2 bio kids.

I feel for the many children out there looking for families, but I wonder why on earth does it have to be so expensive to adopt with so much red tape? It puts it out of reach for many would be adoptive parents.