Solange Knowles offers advice to Jamie Lynn Spears

04/17/2008 at 08:25 PM ET

053430solangeknowlespregnancyruSolange Knowles understands what it is like to be a young mother — she welcomed son Daniel Julez, now 3 ½, when she was 18 years old.  She knows what it is like to have people telling her she isn’t ready or that she won’t take responsibility for her baby.  However, the 21-year-old singer also knows that people are sometimes wrong.

I’m sure a lot of people perceived that I was gonna be a young, irresponsible mom. I think that there are some moms who are 35 who are just as irresponsible.

Solange moved out the spotlight and settled into country life for the first year of her son’s life, without the help of nannies or babysitters.

My son has been my focus ever since the day he was born. He’s been the light of my life, the inspiration behind everything.

So what advice does Solange offer to Jamie Lynn Spears, who is pregnant at age 17?

You just have to make the best decisions for you. You have to decide what’s best for you. Who are we to say what’s right and wrong for a person?

Source: US Weekly

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Heather on

“Who are we to say what’s right and wrong for a person?”
Love that quote. She’s so right. Just because you’re a younger mother doesn’t mean you’ll be a bad one and just because you’re an older mother doesn’t mean you’ll be a good one.
I always felt bad for the criticism Jamie-Lynn got, although it seems to be less now that people are used to the idea. But I think things will work out for her.
Solange is a great example of this and a good role model imo. I’m glad things worked out for her, despite her divorce.

Nikko on

Love her!
I am also a young mom had my son at 22 and after watching many moms of different ages with their children her views are so right! I have seen great young moms and some older moms that are not very attuned to their babies needs…we need to support every mom young or old because we’re all going through the same things!!

Mari on

A mature and thoughtful young mom…well said, Solange!

Ashleigh on

I am a young mom I’m 17 and my daughter is 6 months old and I feel like at 17 Im doing alot better than my sister who is 27 with kids. So I basically think its all about your maturity and like Solange said “who are we to say whats right and wrong for a person”. But Jamie-Lynn has my blessing because I hated that people made her seem so bad I mean it is 2008 people. && you never know what God could have in store for you or your kids…

Ashleigh on

I am a teenage(17) mother myself and as teenage mother I feel like Im doing alot better then my sister who is 27 years old with kids. I mean to me its all about your maturity level && also it is 2008 people shouldnt make Jamie-Lynn’s pregnancy such a big deal its just another celebrity pregnant. I also feel like Solange said “who are we to say whats right and wrong for a person”, because you never whats in store for you or your children. Im pretty sure her parents didnt want that for her and neither did mine. But the whole world critcizing her && them makes it even worse.

Renee on

Good advice Solange.I know people in their thirties who really are bad parents. I’m sure Jamie Lynn wanted to have children later in life, but this little one is coming in a few months.Why continue to attack her?

lis on

I think Jamie-Lynn is going to be just fine.

Tori on

I am 19 years old and i’m in my last year of high school, I come to this website often. I’ve noticed that on this website alot of bloggers have been down talking Jamie lynn Spears for being pregnant. In reality we don’t know her, we don’t know her life, we don’t know her background, all we know is what we see on tv and read in magazines. People get so caught up that they forget that celebs are everyday people just like me or you. They make mistakes, they cry, they, laugh,they hurt. She is only seventeen years old instead of people bringing her down I think people need to start accepting her for who she is and how great of a mom she may become once she has her child. These days alot of younger girls black, white, chinese, etc are getting pregnant at a young age you can’t help it anymore but to see the reality our world is different now babies are advancing faster and mothers are having babies younger. I’m all for Jamie Lynn Spears… People need to wake up and realize that babies are blessings, some of those who are blessed may not be able to provided for there child but that child was meant for them in some way, shape or form. Don’t judge her. I can’t wait to be a mother real soon i plan to grow up with my children and teach them that mistakes aren’t failures they are just life lessons.

Jennifer on

WOW couldn’t have worded her statement any better. i totally agree… “Who are we to say what’s right and wrong for a person?”

You dont have to be marrried to raise a kid or be old enough… what really is old enough…

terri on

It’s true that nobody can say what is right or wrong for another person, as long as it doesn’t harm another person. In my opinion, planned, wanted pregnancies are the optimal situations to bring a child into the world, regardless of age. I know that’s not always the case.

I think it is, and should be, still a big deal when a 16 year old gets pregnant. I don’t ever want that to be the norm and I’m not apologetic about thinking that way. However, a lot of young women, like my mom, turn out to be great moms regardless of how unplanned and young they are. I wish every mother luck in raising her children. It’s not an easy job or choice to make.

CelebBabyLover on

I, too, feel bad for the critcism Jamie Lynn gets. Personally, I think that the main reason Jamie Lynn has gotten so many negative comments in the press and by the general public is because of who her sister is. Does anyone else think this is the case?

That said, I don’t think it’s fair for the media to compare her to Britney (which they have done quite a bit). She’s Britney’s SISTER, not BRITNEY! Just because she got pregnant at 16 doesn’t mean she’s going to make the same mistakes and bad choices that her sister did.

Also, the media seems to forget that a big part of Britney’s troubles is that she has a mental illness. Jamie Lynn, hopefully, does not (I say hopefully because, from what I’ve heard, the symptoms of bi-polar disorder, which Britney apparently has, don’t usually manifest themselves untul the very late teens or early twenties). Therefore, if Jamie Lynn is indeed free of mental illness, she already has one thing working in her favor!

loren on

I don’t think it is about putting teenage mothers down. Jamielynn and Solange both have the financial resources to care for a new baby. They can travel, afford to continue their education etc. For most working class people it is a financial burden, and having a baby seriously limits the life experiences and opportunities of the teenager involved. I think most parents want the best for their children and for most the teenage years are difficult enough. I notice no one discusses money anymore, but I think that’s the biggest elephant in the room where teen pregnancy is concerned. Most parents are doing all they can to support their teenagers, having a baby before you are financially able to support it is a problem. Everyone does the best they can once the baby is coming. So for me I have no problem with teens having babies if they have the money. That said, teens dependent on their parents could be a bit more considerate. There are always going to be teen pregnancies and many will be good mothers, but most are setting themselves up for a life of finacial difficulties. I am not saying you have to 30, but no one has suffered by not having a baby when they couldn’t afford it, most teens are not Jamielynn and Solange.

brooke on

Well it’s too early honestly to say for jamie-lynn if she will be a good or bad mom, but as far as solange is concerned she seems like a good mom. At least she is private for the most part, and always is seen with her son and on interviews she comes across like a stable girl. But i’m not surprised beyonce grew up in the spotlight, and how many times do you see her in nude pics, drunk, in rehab, etc. I have a feeling the knowles family raise good kids, you always see beyonce with her parents. Stability starts from the family, so hopefully jamie-lynn has a chance

Erin on

Loren – I understand what you’re saying and I agree that people shouldn’t have children until they’re finanically secure. However, I don’t think it’s fair to make celebrity teenage mums like Jamie Lynn and Solange pay (in the form of criticism and condemnation) just because most OTHER teenage mothers aren’t in the same financial position. They shouldn’t have to be the scapegoats for a whole social problem just because they’re famous (in the case of these two, more because their older sisters are mega-famous).

People need to think for themselves, take responsibility for their own choices and actions in life and stop worrying about what more wealthy/well-known people do with theirs. Celebrities are people, not demigods – if you put them on some moral pedestal, they’re inveitably going to fall off because they’re just as imperfect as any other mortal. Btw, that wasn’t directed at you Loren, so much as Western society in general.

danielle on

im 18yrs old and i nave a one year old boy whta should i do i mean his daddy dnt take care of him and im in college what should i do pleze write me back at yahoo.