CBB Exclusive: Chantal Kreviazuk's pregnancy column: The boys, the baby and the emotional mama-to-be!

03/31/2008 at 07:00 AM ET

This column is sponsored by Hold*Me Baby Slings, who is providing Chantal — a huge babywearing fan — now 26 weeks along, with slings for her new son. They are sending duplicate products to her favorite outreach program, Villa Rosa. In her third column, Canadian chanteuse Chantal Kreviazuk, 34, who is expecting her third son with hubby Raine Maida of Our Lady Peace on July 15th, chats about the demands of a pregnant mother and wife, her new son consuming her life in every possible (fabulous) way, taking her older sons to the ultrasound, and baby names. The LA-based singer/songwriter is also mom to Rowan Michael, 4, and Lucca Jon, 2 ½.


Chantal_kreviazuk_cbb_exclusive_2cbI am now at that point in pregnancy where I am almost exclusively this child’s baby mama. All other Chantal roles are on sabbatical. I am consumed with him, both physically and emotionally.

I dream about him at night and worry that he will come out too early, because my other two came out two and three weeks preterm. Rowan arriving two weeks earlier at 7 lbs, 6 oz was not so bad, but Lucca coming out at 6 lbs 10 oz [was scary].

I had this moment, when I saw him — I just thought something was wrong because he was SO gangly. Perhaps that remained in my sub-conscience all this time, and has been festering because now it is manifesting as a bit of a nightmare.

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I know we’ll be fine. The baby seems to be buzzing around inside me as I drift off to sleep, and he seems to be my alarm clock in the morning, I have him and his safety at the forefront of my mind constantly. I can feel the transition into a far more primal mode happening.

I am more emotional, crying VERY easily. I cried today watching an episode of that show What Not To Wear — I thought that the makeover people were just so mean to the beautiful, sweet girl who worked at the American Kennel Club. So what if she didn’t want to "stand out" and want to wear clothes that wouldn’t outshine the dogs she was showing? She is humble and so innocent — LEAVE HER THE &$%@ alone!!!! I had to turn the show off. DON’T even get me started on war and local/national news stories — 4000 American Soldiers dead in Iraq, a hundred thousand civilians (plus), a man who took the lives of his beautiful wife and children before his own.

I have these moments where my apparently evolved, internal thermostat for processing such realities is simply blown to bits, and I am a completely raw, honest specimen of a human, operating by method of instinct. A little bit scary sometimes to be honest. What is one expected to do with such atrocities and realities?

Oh yeah, and my POOR husband! We seem to have resorted to having our bumps and spats on Blackberry messenger (far more civil that way). I have begun to put an enormous amount of pressure on him! I need to be doted on — now! Poor guy, he just can’t get it right. It is not fair.

This little transition — man, it is so deceptive! It just creeps up, and while it is a smooth one for me, and makes sense, I think that it is just slightly more abrasive for everyone around me!

Poor everyone! Poor world, poor moon and stars, sun and wind for putting up with this one single little, (and yet enormous) pregnant lady! Okay, it ain’t that bad. I know, there is still some sensibility left in me. However, I am not myself. I read the other day that evidence has surfaced that a woman’s brain does in fact shrink while she is pregnant.

That’s me. I am so off balance, and foggy, and forgetful. I lost my purse this morning. Thankfully it came back. Don’t know if we can say the same for my brain, which, according to the article, does not return to its original size for some women after some pregnancies. (Let’s keep our fingers crossed.) Yikes.

Thankfully I have the boys who don’t really notice that mommy is so off. We keep talking baby names, ("tweedy bird," "flower" and "waggy tail" to name a few) and they love touching my ever-growing baby belly. They put their beautiful soft feel on my belly in bed, and I hold them on my belly until they feel movement. I don’t really know if they can feel anything to be honest.

They came to my latest ultrasound, and I thought that it would be so much fun for them, now that the baby is so much bigger. Lucca just got scared, due to the lights going out when the monitor was turned on, and Rowan was busy playing with his dad, and was more concerned about the jelly the doctor was putting on my tummy, and then his eyes nearly popped out of his head when the doctor was pulling the paper towel out of the top of my pants and he saw my "region." It was such a classic moment. His eyes reminded me of a 60′s cartoon character when they suddenly burst out of the sockets.

Rowan saw some photos at the OB’s office that day on the walls of newborns immediately after they "came out of their mummy’s tummies." He was pretty freaked out by all the blood and umbilical chords and nastiness. He now keeps telling me that he would like the baby to be cleaned off before he comes in to meet him.

Love him. Love them all. Having the two boys already only makes it that much more exciting that we are having another, because I know all the joy and magic and innocence that we are in for.

I couldn’t be more thrilled.

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Click here for Chantal’s previous pregnancy journal entries.

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THE CHARITY: Villa Rosa has been serving the women of Manitoba for 110 years. It is a residence in Winnipeg for young, single, expectant women in need, that provides the opportunity to have a healthy pregnancy and to stay in school. They offer programs in decision making, anger management, prenatal classes, parenting programs, adoption support programs, as well as individual counseling and support. All this is offered in a warm and supportive environment with the assistance of a multi-disciplinary team of professionals including teachers, social workers, and early childhood educators. Please see their website for more information.

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Ella on

As someone born three months premature and weighing one pound at birth, I hope Chantal feels better soon about the new baby arriving on time. I’ve been a fan of hers for ages, and I wish her all the best!

chatty cricket on

My second came 3 weeks early, and although he was perfectly fine (also, not even considered premature since I had made 37 weeks), I do remember thinking he looked pretty thin. It took him a couple of weeks to bulk up! My daughter was born at 39 weeks, so she had two extra weeks on her brother, and they were exactly the same weight at birth, but *my goodness* what a difference two weeks makes when they’re working on bulking up in there!

I wish her the best of luck!

Jennifer on

My first two were born at 37 and 36 weeks..weighing in at 7 1/2lbs. and 7lbs. My last two were both 2 months early..31 weeks and 33 weeks, they were 4lbs. 2oz and 4lbs. 11oz. They did just fine and never had a problem. She looks great, I wish her all the best!

Annonymous on

Well my sister was born a week late weighing a little over 6lbs, I was on time at 6 14lbs and my younger sister was born 3 weeks early at 7 3lbs and we all were fine.

Wish her all the best!

Gabi on

She looks wonderful!
Oh boy, can I ever relate to the feeling of shrinking brain…I don’t even want to know if my stayed smaller after having 4 boys! It wouldn’t be fair to find out that it did indeed regress. I hope that all the extrenuous work of mothering 4 sons alone helps to bulk the “gray matter”. But I was also thinking that all that emotional upheave must get the creative juices running at full speed.
Wish her all the best
(Ontario Mom)

Hannah on

I didn’t think a baby was considered premature unless it was born before 37 weeks. So wouldn’t her first two sons just be considered a little early?

What does she want? A 9-lbs baby? 7lbs 6oz is a good sized baby. As is 6lbs 10oz!

I guess I don’t get it. My son was born a week before my due date and weighed 7lbs 13oz.

Stephanie on

As the mom of a child born prematurely at 28 weeks into my pregnancy weighing 1lb 14oz and 14inches long, I take offense to Chantal’s comments about her children being born prematurely, at 2 and 3 weeks before due date. At 37 weeks you would be considered PRETERM not premature.

Julie on

I agree with you, Stephanie. My baby was born at 32 weeks and I take offense as well.

Sarah’s note: I will change premature to preterm in her post. There is no way she ever meant to be offensive, and I’m sure she would be upset if she knew people were, so I’ll adjust it to be clearer.

chatty cricket on

Stephanie- not even preterm! At 37 weeks (which was when my son was born) that’s considered full term. I hope your baby is alright, and how very scary. I can see why you would take offense, considering Chantal’s children were not premature and were perfectly healthy weights.

JC on

Why take offense? Its amazing how people around here get worked up over the littlest things.

Becky on

I agree totally… 37 weeks is considered FULL term, Babies can arrive 2 weeks before their due date (afterall, it’s just a guess) and are considered full term, not preterm. My first was born at 35 weeks, and weighed 5 lbs 14oz, my twins came at 36 weeks and were both 5 lbs, my last baby was born at 36 weeks plus 3 days and weighed 6lbs, 6oz. My Dr. always let me off bedrest at 36 weeks plus a day or two cause 37 weeks is full term.

patricia on

i didn’t take offense but when i read that i too was thinking…not too bad..but i’m sure it was for her because that was her experience, mine was 8 weeks early 2lbs 14oz.

marie on

according to the march of dimes

Preterm labor is labor that occurs before your 37th week of pregnancy. (Most pregnancies last 38-42 weeks; your due date is 40 weeks after the first day of your last menstrual period.)

http://www.marchofdimes.com/pnhec/188_1080.asp

she didn’t have preterm births and what is scary about a 6lb baby? lots of 6lb babies are healthy-probably more are thn aren’t. look at giada today her little girl was small.

Kerri on

Why would you possibly be offended by an expectant mother worrying over the health over her baby? There’s no need to “one-up” her. She’s just being a nervous mom.

nosoupforyou on

I think some are offended because she’s claiming to have been the parent of a premature baby. She wasn’t.

My first was born at 33 weeks. 4 lbs 10 oz. He was a pretty good size but he had RDS and blew a hole threw his lung.

My second went to 30 weeks and was 3 lbs 2 oz.

Maya on

Yes, people take it too personally. She’s worried that her child be born early… to a mother, even being born at full term 37 weeks is sometimes worrying because you hope that the longest your child stays put, the better their chances are to be healthy. She’s talking about HER experience as being her blog, and in no way should anyone compare their situations to hers. Not all mother have the same perceptions or have the same worries. Be respectful. She was respectful in her blog and in no way was she rude. Being a mother of a 27-weeker that spend 8 months in the NICU, I can understand her worries.

anonymous on

Don’t be too concerned about 6lbs, 10oz. It seems small, but that’s not a bad weight. My youngest weighed in at exactly 6lbs. Anytime after 36 to 37 weeks is considered full term. Your baby will be just fine. Enjoy your pregnancy, and try not too worry too much. I have 5 children, so I know it’s not always easy. But you’ll be fine.

brooke on

I don’t think she meant to be offensive or meant any harm. Some people get nervous having any baby early, whether it be by 5 weeks early or 3 weeks early.

ekaterina on

she sounds so grounded- i love it! i too had many days similar with #3! i was sure i would have three boys but- miss kate who is nw three months ad her own ideas!)
takes a special mamma to have three boys! she must be a great mother-

Whitney on

LOVE THE NAME LUCCA!!!

Lilybett on

My cousin gave birth to both her babies at 29 and 30 weeks and both little girls were itsy-bitsy and stayed in hospital for months… but are fantastic now. With the marvels of modern medicine, babies born early have a much better survival and thriving rates- at least they do here in Australia.

My stepmother gave birth to both of my brothers at 38 weeks and it’s her theory that it just matched her shorter than normal menstrual cycle because both boys were healthy weight and ready to hit the world.

Steph on

I didn’t take her comments as offensive, just a worried mama. Obviously, I don’t think 6 pounds is small at all. But she’s just a normal, worried mama!

I loved her column. Very grounded, down-to-earth, and loving. I love her boys’ names, Rowan and Lucca. Awesome.

Liza on

my babes were born both at 37 weeks and were both over 9 pounds… think of the girth added by 3 more weeks in the womb!! no thanks. both had an ultrasound at 5 weeks so we knew exact dates too… so they come in all sizes!

terri on

Yes, who could honestly take offense at her being concerned with her baby’s health? I sympathize with those that had babies that were actually preterm or premature, but really, this isn’t a contest for sympathy. She’s just sharing her fears.

NicoleMarie on

When I read it, I was confused why she considered 6lbs 10oz scary and considering 7lbs and 6oz not too bad? My sister was a little more than 6 and I was just 7. Perfectly fine. I understand why people are taking offense. She over- exaggerated about both her boys weights when there are people on this board who gave birth to babies that were 2-3lbs! (God Bless them). I would think her doctor would have explained that there really wasn’t that much to worry about when she found out about their weights.

Sol on

I just saw her perform with her husband last night at Mercury Lounge in NYC. She looks amazing. Worrying about our babies is what mothers do. Calm down people.

jaQ on

it seems to me that she’s just saying that in comparison, her second child seemed small.
i can relate~ my kids were 2, and then 3.5 weeks early. my son was 8-4, and my daughter, at 7-10, seemed fragile, after having had such a chunky baby the first time.

Kris on

Um, height weight and full term does not always mean very healthy baby. My second was VERY big and spent 6 days in the NICU. Nothing life threatening but scary for Mom and Dad none the less. She worries about her babies being healthy as do lots of other expectant Moms. I wish her a healthy pregnancy and birth.

I’ve had friends and family deliver very sick or little babies and I remember well what they went through. Modern medicine has definitely come a long way. Thank God for that.

LC on

Wow, there seem to be some cranky pregnant ladies logging onto this site. If you’re not a fan of Chantal’s and plan to dissect every word she writes as if she is personally writing to you and trying to offend you then stop reading her entries.

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