Parenting advice from Kate Hudson, Kyra Sedgwick and Kelly Preston

03/19/2008 at 09:47 AM ET

Despite the glitz and glamor of Hollywood — in some aspects, celebrity parents are just like everyone else — they have their own ups and downs and need time to themselves.  In Cindy Pearlman’s book What They Know About … Parenting, celebrities give their advice to fellow parents out there.  One of the celebrities offering advice is actress Kate Hudson.

Make sure to take time for yourself every day.  Even if you have to lock yourself in the bathroom for two minutes, do it.  It’s our nature as women to take care of everything and forget about ourselves.  It’s important to be present and strong for your kids, and to do that, you need some breathing space.

Kate, 28, is mother to son Ryder Russell, 4, with ex-husband Chris Robinson.

Continue reading to see what advice actresses Kyra Sedgwick and Kelly Preston have to offer.

The Closer’s Kyra Sedgwick, 42, is married to fellow actor Kevin Bacon and mom to Travis, 18, and Sosie, 16, and her only advice is to make sure your children are heard.

Raising children, for me, was really about listening.  I put myself in their shoes for a minute and really tried to imagine myself at that age.  I always want my children to know that they’re heard.

Kelly Preston, 45, loves having fun and incorporates that into raising son Jett, 15, and daughter Ella, 7 ½.  Dad is actor John Travolta.

There’s nothing better than singing and dancing with your kids. It spreads the joy around the house.  I’m also a fan of family bike riding, swimming, art projects and trips to Denny’s and Wal-Mart.

Source: Redbook, April 2008

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Sadie on

“..celebrity parents are just like everyone else”

No matter how many times I hear the celebrities claim that they’re just like us I will never believe it. That seems to be the new Hollywood MO, to pretend to be just an ordinary person who lives just like the rest of it. To that I say: GMAB. I believe that the celebrities have the same hopes and fears and dreams for their kids that the rest of us have, but I think that’s where the similarities end. They have tons of help (most of which they pretend to not have), and they have the ability to work their jobs around their kids lives (something that most regular moms don’t have the opportunity to do) and they have the money to buy the best of everything (things like personal assistants and chefs that definitely take some of the stress of being a working parent out of their lives). So when I hear celebrities give out advice on how to be a parent, or how to balance work and family I just laugh it off and ignore it. I don’t think any advice they have to give would be applicable to my nanny-free, housekeeper-free, chef-free, personal assistant-free, wealth-free life.

meghan on

“I believe that the celebrities have the same hopes and fears and dreams for their kids that the rest of us have, but I think that’s where the similarities end.”

big fat DITTO sadie! i couldn’t agree with you more.

Alice on

Of course they have less problems to deal with than the average parent, but what Kate Hudson says for example could apply to anyone. I don’t get why having a nanny seems so wrong in the US.

Sadie on

“I don’t get why having a nanny seems so wrong in the US.”

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having a nanny. I used to be one, and I think having a nanny can be a wonderful thing. The problem I have isn’t with a person having a nanny, but with a person having a nanny and acting like they don’t. So many celebs claim they have no nanny and that it’s “just a matter of balance and priorities” when the reality is that they have a LOT of help, and that’s what enables them to play so many different roles. It’s the lack of honesty about things that I have the problem with. The myth that celebrities try to perpetuate (that women can be and do it all without help) is not only incredibly dishonest, it also just serves to perpetuate the unrealistic expectations that are placed on mothers. I just wish they would be honest and say “I have a lot of help and that enables me to still pursue a lot of other projects while being a mother.”

meeeshhelll on

Totally agree with you, Sadie!

brooke on

I totally agree with you sadie.

charsmom on

Sadie, I totally agree with you. While your comments may sound negative to some readers, I agree that celebrities DO NOT live like the rest of us. I would much prefer to hear advice from other non-celeb moms than Kate Hudson or Kelly Preston!

Alice, I don’t think having a nanny is WRONG, I just don’t know anyone who can afford one! Also, a lot of US celebs have nannies and pretend that they don’t … which is the point I believe Sadie was trying to make.

To answer CBB’s question – my advice for other moms is to be the type of mom YOU want to be – not the type of mom everyone else (other people, books, TV, etc.) tell you you SHOULD be. I believe we all instinctively know what is best for our children and we should follow that gut instinct!

J.M. on

We can’t claim that they all have nanny’s, cooks, housekeepers etc. Sure many probably do but I am sure they’re are many who choose outside of the hollywood life to maintain a balanced normal healthy environment for their children.

And with that I say hey if you can afford it then go ahead and do it! I am sure if anyone of us could fork out the money to have one, two or all three of those luxuries we’d snatch it up in a heart beat. So don’t knock celebrities because they chose a different path in life that gave them the ability to work their schedules around their kids or pay for things that many of us can’t. I know if I could hire a housekeeper and cook I would and trust me one day when I’m finished with college maybe I can🙂 A nanny? …we’ll see.

Paige on

Kelley Preston is a horrible mother. She completley ignores the fact that her son has autisim…freaking scientoligist are CRAZY!!!

iluvallbabies on

Celebrities have to deal with a lot of scrutiny, intrusive paparazzi and the general “craziness” of Hollyweird- BUT I would rather get advice off “stay at home mothers” over “celebrity mothers”. I know their advice would be more useful and realistic for everyday life.

Its great that some people can afford all the extra help, but a bit of honesty (as Sadie mentions) would be refreshing!

meghan on

oops, forgot my advice.

my advice is to try not to regret anything. any parenting decisions you made were made for a reason and you can’t go back and change them. so don’t regret. it only wastes precious time and energy. try to change, if you’d like to, and move forward.

J.M. on

Well I will agree that celebs who lie about having nanny’s is ridiculous. For me there really isn’t a huge deal in having one if you can (as I am one myself). But I guess they feel less like a parent by having someone else “help” raise their kids. There should be no shame in it if you are around your children.

I know a mother who hired a nanny and doesn’t even work. She spends her days getting pedicures, spa treatments, etc. So there are times where I frown upon the use of a nanny when the mothers are obviously more about themselves then their kids but other then that if you spend equal amounts of time with your kids there shouldn’t be any concern.

Why their parenting advice would be any less value I’m not sure.

So they may have it easier then most everyday mom’s but they’re probably not too far off from most of your normal mom’s.

Rebecca on

“Why their parenting advice would be any less value I’m not sure.”

IMO, their advice has less value because they are not living the same kind of lives that most of us are, so their advice doesn’t really apply all that well to the lives of the average mother. The advice that is the most helpful to me is advice that comes from those who have been where I am.

I see nothing wrong with a person having as much help as they want and can afford, however if you do have a lot of help (and most celebrities do) it’s a totally different situation than it is for those of us who have to take care of our children without help, do the laundry, run errands, clean the house, do yardwork, and take our kids with us every time we have to go run those errands. It just is. They can pretend that their lives are just like ours all they want, but it’s just not true.

Olivia on

“So don’t knock celebrities because they chose a different path in life that gave them the ability to work their schedules around their kids or pay for things that many of us can’t.”

No one knocked them. The previous posters didn’t say having help was bad (in fact a few said just the opposite) they simply said they should be honest about having help.

Renee on

I disagree with Sadie. Any advice is a good thing. Different points of views are refreshing.Her statements sound like she is saying Hollywood mothers don’t work as hard as regular moms. Just because they are famous doesn’t mean they have nannies 24 hours or that they don’t work hard raising their kids just like us.

amandamay on

Living in LA and being a mom, I understand where Sadie is coming from. I also get mildly irritated by celeb moms who say how “hard” being a mom is when they have assistants to do the errands (any mom who has to drag her tired, cranky kids to the grocery store, dry cleaners and such knows how the errand running is sometimes the hardest part of the day) personal trainers, personal chefs and nannies (yes, multiple nannies – not just one, are common here) the hard part of being a mom is trying to get everything done in a 24 hour period with little or no help.

If I had someone to do all my errands, cook our meals, and watch the kids whenever I like then I don’t know what I’d do with all my free time🙂 dance a little jig perhaps.

I’m not saying celeb moms don’t work hard, or that I’d turn away that kind of help if I could afford it (well, actually I’m not a real fan of nannies) but to say they are “just like regular moms” is laughable.

In my line of work I am in contact with celebs quite often and my son attends a school that is full of celeb children, so I see first hand what goes on.

To each his/her own when it comes to having help, but I personally admire the single moms with multiple kids who manage to do the errands, cook the meals, wipe the noses, read the stories and still come out smiling. I want to hear their advice for keeping afloat. But that’s just me.

iluvallbabies on

Well said Amandamay🙂

Judyb on

Sadie, I have read a few of your posts and it sounds like you worked for a family that did not appreciate the postive contribution that you made to their family. It’s too bad that they did not acknowledge you, a good caregiver is hard to find.

Sadie on

Judyb: Thanks for your comment.

amandamay: “If I had someone to do all my errands, cook our meals, and watch the kids whenever I like then I don’t know what I’d do with all my free time🙂 dance a little jig perhaps.” – Well said. I think this sentence sums up perfectly how I feel.

Danna on

Out of all these posts, this is the most accurate line:

“the hard part of being a mom is trying to get everything done in a 24 hour period with little or no help”

It explains just why celebrity moms could not possibly GET IT. And I agree with the majority here — celebrity moms should dispense advice on what they DO get . . . like how to pick a chef, personal assistant, brand name, bodyguard, nanny, & still attempt to maintain a sense of normalcy for their child(ren).

CelebBabyLover on

J.M.- ITA! While a lot of celebs obviously DO have nannies, chefs, personal trainers, etc., not all of them do. For example, Nicole Richie has said that she and Joel do not have a nanny for Harlow. They have family members (mostly Joel’s mom and his twin brother Benji) watch her when they need or want to go out.

Also, although (to my knowledge anyway) neither one of them has said anything one way or the other about having nannies, I get the feeling that Johnny Depp and Vanessa Paradis don’t have nannies for their kids. They just don’t seem like the type to have nannies.

I also want to point out that just because a lot of celebs have nannies doesn’t mean that they aren’t hands-on. For example, we ALWAYS see Violet Affleck with one or both of her parents, never with a nanny. The Jolie-Pitt kids are also always seen with one or both of their parents.

Anyway, I just wanted to point out that their are some celebs who don’t have nannies, and just because a lot of them do use nannies doesn’t mean that they don’t do most of the childcare themselves.

amandamay on

CelebBabyLover – Yes, not all celebs have nannies, and you’re right – that doesn’t make them “bad” or “non-involved” parents even if they do….My point was that having housekeepers, personal assistants etc to do all the GRUNT work (house cleaning, errands, cooking etc – most of what keeps moms super busy and running to keep up with the day) that gives celeb moms much much more free time to pursue other things and (hopefully) spend more time with their kids while remaining much less stressed than most “average” moms (who have to do all that stuff themselves). Like I said, “the hard part of being a mom is trying to get everything done in a 24 hour period with little or no help” – nanny or no nanny, celeb moms (and i’m sure there are one or two who don’t, but 99%) have heaps of help with the grunt work.

Sadie on

celebbabylover: A celebrity saying they don’t have a nanny does not mean they don’t have one. Many celebrities have claimed not to have one and then it became clear they did (either because a picture was taken of the nanny with the kids, or the nanny wrote a book and mentioned the celebrity as happened with Gwyneth Paltrow, or a fellow celebrity mentions that person having a nanny etc.)

And no one said the parents with nannies were totally uninvolved with their kids. I clearly stated in my post that I see nothing wrong with nannies, and I think they can be a great thing, and that it’s only the lack of honesty that bothers me. I was very careful to make that clear in my post and yet there seem to be posters who are acting like I vilified the people who have nannies, which I never did.

J.M. on

I think the point is that you can’t catagorize all celebs into one group. Some use nanny’s, have chef’s, assistants etc and then there are some who don’t!

We can argue all day over who does and who doesn’t but the bottom line is you have to give some of them a fair shot by not assuming that they all do the same things!

The article above gives 3 statements by 3 celebs on what they have learned about being a mom. Nowhere in their statments do they give any regards to it being a challenging tedious can’t handle kind of job. Like any mom one says, “make sure you find time for yourself”(and what parent hasn’t gotten a babysitter or grandparent to stay with their kids for a few hours just to get “things” done or to get out of the house??)That’s where I didn’t get the whole would never take advice from them. It’s not like they’re giving advice on how to hire the right nanny or the perfect chef to cook for you kids! They’re simply stating everyday things that every parent thinks about when they’re with their kids.

Rebecca on

“I think the point is that you can’t catagorize all celebs into one group. Some use nanny’s, have chef’s, assistants etc and then there are some who don’t!”

I believe I’ve already stated in my post that the ones I have issue with are the ones who claimed to not have nannies but where then seen in public with those nannies. Clearly there’s no point in me continuing this discussion since I’ve stated and restated my point and yet some continue to twist my words and claim I said things that I never said.

Nicole on

I love how some of you are knocking down celebrity mothers, when this site only caters to the subject of celebrity parents.

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