I’m a long time fan. Sometimes Taylor shoots from the hip and consequently is misquoted or misrepresented. She did what was right for her and her reasons for doing so must have been right for her also. We can always comment but unless you are walking in someone’s shoes you really never know what led them to choose the path they are on. I,for one, am looking forward to her new single called “Beautiful” in Novemeber and then the full length cd “Satisfied” in February. Viva Taylor !

I still love her music even though it’s kinda old. I can see what she is trying to say, she should have worded it different. I have four healthy, smart, beautiful children and I will definitely be a surrogate mother maybe three times starting in the next year. My daughters one 14 *will be 15 next mth. and the other 8, actually just got seperate rooms this past weekend and it was because my 14 year old wanted too, she’s older, has always made A’s so I gave in, well they all make straight A’s but I’m sensing she wanted a little independency. I wish her luck and I love her children’s names. =) (sp)

When I read the article in People, I thought that whole quote about her “viability” was really odd. I mean, if a man doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you because you are pregnant, will he want to be in a relationship with you when you are a single mom raising the children?

I’m not going to judge – however a woman comes to be a mother is so personal, and such an individual process, who are we to look down on someone’s else’s journey? But that reasoning just seemed so strange.

Right, it’s not just as easy a decision as “oh I’ll have a surrogate do it.” There’s months of contract negotiations, it’s expensive, you must provide for her living expenses, not to mention trust this person enough to avoid drugs, alcohol, follow all the doctors orders. You miss out on that prenatal bonding experience with your child(ren), which granted is not something everyone has or experiences. But you loose the chance entirely to feel their first movements, and you enter another person into their lives, possibly a bit of confusion into their existence. If you have run out of options or if it would be dangerous to carry a pregnancy, then surrogacy is a wonderful option that allows people to become parents, but it is not without it’s costs. To do it simply to keep yourself open to the dating pool is unfathomable to me.

But perhaps it was something that she really did need to do, and she uses these things as justification for herself that really she prefers things this way, sort of making it her first choice thing. I hope so.

I don’t know about twin sleeping arrangements but I slept in the same room with my younger brother (and an older sister) until I was 8 and we moved to a bigger house where we each had our own room. We shared a weekend room (and bunk beds) at my dad’s place until I was about 17! If it’s a space thing, you just deal with it. I don’t think gender was ever an issue.

I have twin girls who are 5 and also a 3 year old daughter. All of my girls used to share a room because we lived in quite a small hosue but now we are in a bigger house we offered the twins the option of having seperate rooms because the youngest child was also having her own room. They were not too keen on the idea as they like to always be near each other. Now 5 months on they are coming round to the idea and as they are completely different personalities the tidier twin wants to have her own room as she is sick of the mess the other twin makes. I think it’s good for twins to be independant because too often they loose a bit of their personlity when referred to as THE TWINS but also when the children are perfectly happy to be in the smae room as each other then they should be allowed as long as they wish.

If a man can`t love a woman b\c she is pregnant with another mans child\children then i would be seriously worried about why the man is with me in the first place and how he is going to feel towards the baby\babies once it\they are born.

There are a lot of women that met the man they ended up getting married to while they were pregnant with someone elses baby and the men love those kids maybe more than the biological fathers would.

One of my boy twins decided he wanted his own room at around four. We played musical beds for a while,then he finally settled on a room and we decorated it. They are now nearly seven, and have gone back to sharing a bed. I find that during stressful times for them such as starting school, new baby, etc is when they go back to sharing. We don’t have a problem with it. However I could have saved the hundreds of pounds spent on furniture!

Jen

“And anyway, what about all of the women in this country who are dealing with infertility and require the use of a donor so that they can have a much desired baby with their husbands? Do these husbands love their wives any less, or their baby any less?”

That’s like comparing apples to oranges. It’s totally different to be in the situation within a marriage with a partner who chose to be a part of that situation from the beginning and a new person coming into the situation. I doubt that she meant anything negative towards people struggling with inferitity.

And I think it’s quite likely that these comments were taken completely out of context. Interviewers like to take things out of context so they’ll end up sounding as controversial as possible. For all we know they could have taken two totally seperate comments and stuck them together to create the most dramatic effect.

I have to comment again…

A pregnancy is 9 months, not 10 years. And the babies are another man’s baby whether she carried them or not. I just don’t get it. She doesn’t want to carry the babies, fine. But to say it’s because of a man that doesn’t exist…just odd to me.