I just happened to run across this and found it interesting that these women struggled through this process. I kind of hate to see people nagging on poor Colleen up there, because the reasons she listed are basically the prime reasons that my husband and I personally have decided not to pursue more complicated fertility treatments. I’m trying basic things like Clomid, but I have a job in a scientific field and I truly feel that perhaps it just might be the case that our traits aren’t supposed to be passed on. I’m not saying that isn’t sad, and a little bit hurtful, but at a certain point, I don’t feel right in forcing nature to do what it seems it might never have been meant to do.

I don’t fault anyone else for doing IVF, and I am glad the opportunities are out there, but it just isn’t for us. My theory is that if it doesn’t happen with minimal treatments, then there are plenty of children out there who need homes and I will be proud to adopt if/when the time comes.

so inspiring and sad for me to ready these stories. I have no tubes and have to undergo IVF inorder to have children. I dont how much longer i can remain my sanity thinking about how bad i want children. does anyone know of ways to finance the procedure.. (is there anyone out there what would be willing to donate financially) im at a loss.. trying to remain hopeful but with the cost of living, i have nothing to put toward IVF…

They’ve been through so much in the past few years. Good for them that they were able to have children.

Interesting. I’ve never heard that people oppose IVF because it interferes with the evolutionary process. Considering most fertility issues are not genetic, that little theory leaves me scratching my head. I sure am glad “evolution” gave me a developed enough brain to avoid becoming its roadkill.

I can’t think of anything more unnatural than a mother abandoning her children and leaving a stranger to raise them. It’s odd to me that someone is a proponent of one “unnatural” route to parenthood and not another. Oh, and Anya, I’d love to see pictures of your adopted children.

Really Anya? Why then do we need to alter God’s ways and have all the hospitals about to try and fight all sorts of ailments. Why don’t we all just sit at home and wait to die?? Really just think a bit more broadly before putting it out there. Infertility is a medical condition like any other and we should all be grateful there is a solution to it. Personally I have not tried for a baby yet and have no way of knowing if it will be problematic but I absolutely take comfort in knowing that there is that option should I ever need.

As a huge fan of the Dixie Chicks, i love to hear stories about there family…and i am super excitited to hear martie and gareth are trying again…there twins are such cuties!!!!!congrats to all of them and good luck!!!!

Wow, I wholeheartedly disagree Anya. I do not believe it is the responsibility of infertile couples to take care of other children. I think your post was very bold. Personally, I think it’s fabulous people have all the options and routes we do to grow our families in the way we choose, and I don’t think people should be made to feel their way is wrong.

I would be interested to know if you would still feel this way if you or your family dealt with infertility? (Or perhaps you have?)

Everyone is entitled to their own view on infertility treatment. I believe what God gave us we should use and not alter. I think IVF parents need to watch the news and see how many children are out there suffering and dying b/c they have no one to care for them. We need to take care of the babies that are already here before ‘conceiving’ our own unnaturally.

Colleen, if you read my post, I think you’ll find that not once did I attack you. I was merely pointing out the flaws in the “nature” argument you described. I’m well aware that you didn’t necessarily express your own opinion there. All of which doesn’t change the fact that I think it’s unnecessary and tactless if people (and I’m NOT adressing you here, Colleen) accuse couples undergoing IVF of acting against nature.

Thanks everyone for attacking me when I was responding to someone’s question. Someone above asked why people think it is unnatural, why SOME PEOPLE think that it unnatural. I simply answered her question. NOT ONCE did I say that that is how I felt about IVF! Maybe you should have read my entire posts, both of them, entirely. Then you would have seen that the viewoint I expressed is not mine but that of OTHERS. I was simply answering someone’s question who asked above.