I am little weary of women who complain about their impossibility to have children. Get over it. Bearing children is way overrated. What is underrated is adopting. Every woman CAN be a mother. To be a mother does not mean to have kid in your tummy. That is something a cat can do. The real mothering comes with seeing a child grow, caring for the child even though he/she does not have the color of your eyes and all the things that are yours. Loving the child for who she/he is. Stop complaining and whining and torturing yourself (and others). The truth is, you CAN be a mother really soon if you really wanted it. Specially women who have had so much as Alexis Stewart, should keep their mout shut and give back
The problme is not that women can not have kids,. The problem is that there are too many people in the world already and too many kids dieing by the minutes of hunger and neglet and war.
Sorry if I sound angry: I am just very bored with this issue which seems so dramatic and serious and it is not and sometimes I need to let it out.

Alex is so desperate that any less than perfect embryos are thrown out. Like the Down’s Syndrome ones. I guess she’s not so desperate after all. Just like her mother, only “perfect” will do. Why would God allow her to gestate a child? She’d only mess it up like her parents messed her up.

I know it is 2008 but please look at my site about adoption! Thanks, Melinda

Adoption is good but there must be truth and openness

Keep trying to get pregnant Alexis! I was 44 when I got pregnant for the first and only time. I’m 48 now with a beautiful, bright 4 year old girl. To say I’m not sure how I got pregnant would sound a bit silly (lost my virginity decades ago and was married 10 years when I got pregnant). Was it planned? Nope. I didn’t have a regular period – ever. The only thing I can think that changed was on the night I got pregnant, I went to a work reunion where the people I worked with 10 years prior had all thought I would have made a great mom. At this 10th year anniversary party, after not seeing many of my colleagues for years, we drank martinis and I got lots of questions regarding if I ever did have children. Not sure if it was all that maternal projection and the great martinis for my husband and myself OR the deep breathing yoga I had been practicing – but I’m now a Mom and encourage other women who wish to have babies to have faith in their abilities to conceive and go forth. BTW – my pregnancy and birth were without issues. Really.

Have any of you nuts gone to school? Geez, maybe take a BIOLOGY course or something.

Women CAN and DO get pregnant in their 40′s. They have for the beginning of time. But I guess the fertility clinics don’t have a financial incentive to have people buy all their expensive fertility treatments, eh?

I’ve never read such stupidity, ignorance and hysteria in such a long time.

Google “mothers over 40″. Since all you geniuses know everything.

I read a lot of the comments posted and want to share my story. I am 42 and have had two IVF cycles. The doctors told me i responded nicely to the stimulation meds. The first time they retrieved 18 eggs, 13 fertilized, and 6 were transfered. The second time they retreived 21 eggs, 18 fertilized, 6 were transfered. No one knows for sure why the transfer doesn’t stick but i am told everytime you do it your chances get better. For us, my husband had a low sperm count and finally after six years decided to seek medical help. We really just couldn’t afford it when I was in my thirties. Instead we waited until we had the money. Now I get frustrated because the doctors just don’t have any answers. The truth is, it’s a crap shoot. Good luck Alexis, I’ll be praying for you.

All my best to Alexis and I hope that she doesn’t have to go through this process for too long. Although I have 3 biological children, I have always wanted to adopt a child as well. There are so many children who need a loving home. I would like to add that although I know that it becomes much more difficult to conceive as we get older it is still possible with out fertility drugs. I had my first daughter at 35 years old and at 38 I had a set of twins. This was completely natural, I took no drugs. My husband and I were actually quite surprised when we found out at 20 weeks that we were having twins. My mother had me at 40 years old and I have friends in their late 30′s that have all concevied naturally. I just wanted to add this comment for those who may be having some trouble and may now think it won’t happen for them. It can and does. Please don’t take any of this in a negative way, I just wanted to give women hope not to give up too early. Also, we don’t know that all of these celebrity having babies in their 40′s have used fertily drugs. As you see by my story it is not always necessary. I do feel for women who have difficulties conceiving because I can’t imagine the pain they must go through. Best wishes to Alexis and all of the other women going through the sam thing.
Lisa

Alexis,

I just watched your story on Oprah and my heart goes out to you. In May I was blessed with a beautiful baby boy, and the thought of never being able to experience the remarkable love and bond between a mother and her child breaks my heart. I’ve recently been looking into becoming a surrogate mom. I loved being pregnant and was extremely lucky to bring a healthy baby boy into this world . If you, Alexis, decide to look into this, I would be more than honored to help make your dream of becoming a mom come true!
You’re in my thoughts and prayers,
Julie Marcus (805)444-7582

My husband and I are going through the same experience. I am 39. It’s very heart breaking and disappointing when you have to get up and try again. I don’t think anyone has a right to judge anyone else for their choices. I too will continue to try again and again because, I want a child of my own flesh and blood. I am not opposed to adoption, but THE FAT LADY HASN’T SUNG for me yet. I am not at the place where I am ready to give up trying. When people tell me to use an egg donor or to adopt…it is the wrong advice. The worst thing you can say to someone who is determined is this advice…especially when they are not ready to give up. It hurts! I do believe that when you really want something badly you have to keep trying. It’s just as hard to try as it is to accept your situation. I am glad that Alexis had the courage to share her story with the world. People do not understand woman “like us”. We are woman who just don’t accept NO well. I just did my 1st IVF which failed. It was my choice after 3 consecutive miscarriage. Once I felt life inside of me; the whole idea of having a baby of my own became urgent. I think its wonderful for woman who can adopt a baby. Maybe one day I will also adopt a baby too but, for now this is where I am and what I want. Sometimes in life we just need to give eachother encouragement and faith to follow our own gut feelings, follow our own dreams. That is something each person should learn to respect. Also, Alexis I BELIEVE IT WILL HAPPEN FOR YOU!!!! So don’t give up…
Also ladies I was pregnant naturally 1 time, 2nd time through IUI and 3rd with iui/clomid. I also was diagnoised with APS/Hughes Syndrom a blood disease that is more common then I knew. There is a simple blood test that can tell you if you have the disease. There are no real symptoms either. I want to say this test is a MUST if you are planning on getting pregnant. It can help avoid a miscarriage…I believe I would have had my first pregnancy come to term had I known about this auto immune disease earlier.
Anyway, Good Luck To Everyone…KEEP THE FAITH!!!

OK, I need to get ahold of Alexis Stewart, i just saw her on Oprah, and for a much smaller price than what shes paying for fertility drugs, I will make love to her EVERY DAY, multiple times a day, and most likely ill enjoy it VERY MUCH, I’m a SEX MANIAC BABY, and I’m completely venereal disease free

I am 18, caucasion, 180lbs, going to community college, probably better looking than 90% of the population, dark brown hair, hazel eyes, I understand ALEXIS probably doesn’t see this, but if anyone can contact her, THIS IS MY EMAIL Cifu (at) theoutlawz.eu

the email says .eu but I reside in the US, just trying to maintain anonymity on the net!