For those of you that feel Josie needs you to stick up for her, I’m gonna say that she’s a big girl and if she has something to say, she will get back on here and say it…which she did. And, to Josie, I’m sorry you had losses. I find it hard to believe that when you had your losses, you weren’t upset in the slightest. But, if you are so strong in your faith, you were able to accept it immediately, then you are stronger than I ever thought of being.

My point in understanding Jade’s side was that in the immediate period after I lost my boys, I felt I did something wrong, but I also kept my faith and wanted nothing more than to find comfort with God. I did NOT WANT to be mad at God. But, when you are so utterly devestated, your mind tends to go places you don’t want it to. When you are so far along in your pregnancy that you have to be induced and give birth to your little angels KNOWING that there was nothing physically/mentally wrong with them, except they were in the same amniotic sac, it’s hard to be rational. It’s hard to understand why. I prayed everyday that I could find happiness again. And, I have. I have my days where I am sad, but I am ok now. I know I will never know why it happened, but now that time has healed me some, I realize and accept that it’s not for me to understand. I just choose to believe God gave me two angels to watch over me. I can’t say I wouldn’t change it and have them be alive and healthy with our family, if I could. But, I know I can’t, and I just pray to God everyday to help me be strong and to someday give our family a sibling for Jordan.

I’m not going to come back to this topic because it is dredging up feelings about the boys and surrounding circumstances that I don’t really want to explode into full-fledged sadness. I have learned that harping on everything just makes it worse.

For all who have lost, I’m sorry. For those that haven’t, I pray you never do and are able to live your whole lives without feeling the pain I, and MANY others, have felt.

I had a stillborn son (carried until the due date) and have never have other children, although I am blessed to have other’s children in my life. When something like this happens, you search for ANY reason, you blame yourself, you blame the doctor. It’s a natural reaction to a situation that is so heart-breaking that there are no words to decribe it. Jade is doing that – searching. Until the pain eases somewhat, she needs to cope howevery she can. That said, Josie has every right to state her opinion. Also, I’ve never been one to think that you have to go through a situation to empathize. Pain is pain, grief is grief and we’re all human.

I lost my 1st daughter at 18 weeks, my second at 6 weeks and my third at 22 weeks. In any way did I feel God was punishing me. I really believe in my heart that all my girls were gifts from God. Some women can’t even conceive a child but yet I carried 3. I agree with Josie all of our children whether dead or alive ae gifts from God. My relationship with God is what got me through my ordeals. God Bless all the women that have suffered the loss of their angels.

ChereeM, I too lost my Baby the day I found out I was pregnant. Actually, I found out I was pregnant WHILE losing my baby in the emergency room.

Wow! I apologize for offending anyone with my comment who has miscarried. My intention was not to offend but instead was to state that Jade should not call this tragedy in her life, “a punishment from God.” All I was stating is that I believe that God does not punish. My belief and in the spiritual teachings that I follow, “punishment from God” is created by man. Not God.
And, for your information, I have had a miscarriage followed by 2 beautiful children that I’m eternally grateful for. Again, I apologize to anyone I may have offended with my comment that was written with compassion and love.

Statistics estimate that about 20% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage. God’s punishment? Yikes, that god must be angry and doing a whole lot of punishing. The god that I believe in doesn’t punish as such. But then again I don’t believe that “everything happens for a reason”. Sometimes, things just happen. And I feel sad for those who believe in a god that would do such punishing.

I myself have had 2 miscarriages, back to back. Did I wonder why it happened? Of course. Was I devastated? Absolutely. Did I wonder if God was punishing me? ABSOLUTELY NOT! I totally agree with Josie. I too believe that that God loves and that God teaches. He does not punish. We as humans have every bit of free will, and that is gift from God. Yes you do try to find the “why” when something like this happens, but sometimes we never find it, and we need to accept that. Even though we may not know the reason why, God does, and that should be good enough. Yes, it is hard, absolutely, but that is where faith comes in. Those of you bashing Josie because you assume she has never had a miscarriage and does not understand the grief of it all need to step back and realize that not all of us who HAVE had miscarriages think the way you do. Some of us do seek and find love and comfort from God, so please stop lumping us all together with your way of thinking!

I’m sorry she lost the baby – but the miscarriage has nothing to do with her disgusting display of racism. The two are totally unrelated. I’ve had multiple miscarriages and it’s simply a case of my body not being able to sustain a pregnancy.

Lauren, I totally agree with you.

RoRo, I lost my baby the same day as you. I was 8 weeks. It was also the day I found out I was pregnant. Was a pretty heavy going day