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Miller Duchovny interested in learning about sex

06/19/2007 at 12:43 AM ET

14832pcn_dave10_cbbTéa Leoni has found herself addressing the birds and the bees alittle earlier than expected. The actress reveals on Late Night withConan O’Brien that Kyd Miller, who turned 5 on Friday, is veryfascinated by and curious about all things related to sex.

For his fifth , you think you can go out and get himsome Legos or something, but nothing can compete with his newfound toy,which is his penis. I don’t see him ever giving this up. He startedsort of pulling and tugging a year ago, but it’s really interesting.He’s sort of discovered that it can do tricks. Not that long ago, wewere getting ready for bed and the kids were in the bathroom and mydaughter [Madeleine West, 8] looks over at my son and says, ‘What isthat?!’ And Miller is sporting this adorable little woody and bless hisheart, Miller looks down and goes, ‘I do not know.’ I just said, ‘Goask your father [David Duchovny] cause he has one and you guys can -oh, just go.’ It’s weird.

Téa, who thinks someone with an older sibling at Miller’sschool is feeding him the information, says she and David field otherquestions too.

He’s very interested in sex at an early age, butvery innocently. He asked us recently did we know what ‘hot’ means. And Isaid, ‘Do you mean like hot when you must take off your sweater?’ Andhe goes, ‘No.’ And I said, ‘Oh God, what does ‘hot’ mean?’ And he said,’It means you’re sexy and you have a pretty vagina.’ And this was alittle shocking, but the best part is when he wants to tell you hisidea of making out. He said that making out was – you have to get thepronouns on this – when you put your penis in your vagina.

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emzi on

Eurgh! Imagine what the poor kid will feel lilke when he gets older and finds out that his parents told the entire world about this, he will be so embarassed!

Anna on

Exactly what I was thinking Emzi! TMI, Tea. I don’t think poor Miller would want all that disclosed on national TV. Celebs shouldn’t share such personal info about their kids’ lives–it’s not their fault they have to grow up in famous families. It IS kind of shocking that he’s talking like that at 5 though.

Madi on

Just imagining the outrage if Angelina Jolie had said this about one of her kids… :O Talking about spending Sunday morning together in bed somehow seems tame in comparison, yet she even attracted criticism over mentioning something as “personal” as that. I don’t think there will be half the fuss over this, just because it’s Tea Leoni.

K on

While bodies are nothing to be ashamed of, I think it was highly innapropriate for her to talk about her child publically like this. Highly innapropriate!

Kathleen Tracy on

Seems these Parents must not be aware of what – their son is doing – in his spare time – and with WHO? A 5 yr.old should not be THAT aware of all ASPECTS OF SEX!!!!

Bella on

Too much information! I suppose she said it in a humorous way but her son doesn’t need the world to know that as he gets older.

ix on

Seriously, what is the need to tell everyone about this? He’s going to be so embarassed, poor boy.

Dawna on

Hehe! That is just too cute! I say it is never too early to learn about one’s genitals and sexual curiosity. Tea should feel comfortable talking to Miller about erections instead of sending him off to David just because he also has a penis.

Angel on

I can’t believe this intelligent woman would say such things on national t.v. about her son. I don’t think he will appreciate this when he gets older. What was the point of sharing this? It’s not funny except maybe to the perverts. My opinion of her has definitely changed. I guess it was more important for her to get a few laughs than to protect her son. Amazing.

J. on

This makes Steve Carell talking about his kid’s manhood on Jay Leno seem tame! We don’t need to know some things Tea!

Heather on

This is a little disturbing to me. Not the playing with his penis part, I know that’s normal, but that he knows that penises go into vaginas. Where does he get that information? I have 7- and 6-year-olds who have no clue about this stuff. We are not prudes either, in fact we have a very open, laid-back approach to bodies, but they are not exposed to sexual talk yet, because it is not appropriate to their age. Sounds like Kyd found Daddy’s porn stash? Also, I wouldn’t talk about my child’s private parts and what he does with them on national television. Wouldn’t it possibly perk the interest of the wrong kinds of people? The whole thing is just weird.

sarawara on

I agree! That is entirely too much information. How embarrassing!!!

Mimii on

I actually don’t want to hear about a young child’s wee-wee! I felt weird just reading what she said on Leno! Stop talking about your kids that way, already!

Andrea on

I just can’t belive that… I am sorry. I belive in being truthful and honest with your kids and answering questions when asked, but age appropriate answers. I would be wondering where he is getting this language from….what shows is he watching… That should be the question, and that should be correct. I don’t think at any age it is appropriate to be talking like that. My daughter is 6 1/2 years old and the word penis or vagina isn’t in her vocabulary. She may use the word “Private’s”, but when asked what a boyfriend/girlfriend is, her response is “someone who takes care of you and shares things with you”. To me that is an answer someone of her age should be giving, not what her son said.

Southern girl on

Okay, this lady is obviously very comfortable with her sexuality, or her son’s or whatever…even if my child was to say those things to me (he is 6), I would be too shocked and wouldn’t be telling people he knew all that. I mean, if they know it, they know it, but it just doesn’t seem right, children are supposed to be innocent. …And trust me, my boy has been around older kids that have told him some things he DID NOT need to know, but I don’t go give the world details on it…GOOD GRIEF! After hearing that how do you look at the little kid and go, “Oh what a cute, sweet little child”???

Steffi on

I personally don´t see the big deal here, really. So what if Tea Leoni shares these things about her son: honestly, who is going to care 5 years from now on? Actually I think it´s pretty good that she is raising our awaress that yes, kids learn about this earlier and earlier. My brother is four years younger then me and when he was in kindergarten he came home saying things that I had not even thought about yet. People need to be aware of what their children might be exposed too and also need to know that they might have to think about how to explain this to their children.
I don´t want to accuse anybody of being prude here but see, I am from Germany and over here these things are adressed a lot earlier and a lot more openly. Guess what the result is? A lot less teen pregnancy than in the United States. Society has changed and whether one likes it or not it is better to accept it.
And to adress the point of “perverts will love this piece of information”… yes, they might, but they will probably also love pieces of information like “my kid seldom sleeps through the night”. Remember this incident a couple of years ago when a family from Switzerland eventually fled from the United States because their 10-year old son had helped his sister pee in the garden and the US-neigbour called the cops because of his supposed “sexual molestation” and they handcuffed him and took him to prison in the middle of the night? That child will probably be scarred for life…. we should not jump to such conclusions all the time, it only makes things a lot worse.

Alexis on

i don’t see anything wrong here either; my little brother is 5, and the other day he asked my mom to cut off his wiener because it was “in the way” and that he didn’t need it because he could just pee out of his butt. my mom told people about it, i think it’s just something parents find humorous and talk about.

it’s not like she took pictures of it and started a blog

Danielle on

I’m actually more shocked at the reaction of the posters than of the article. So the kid knows about sex and the correct names of body parts. Thank God!! I’m glad to see parents that are open with children about their bodies and what happens to them. I would take this over a child whose parents hyperventilate over sex. Better to provide the right information than perpetuate the stork idea. And it is possible to be a safe, innocent, sweet 5 year old and know how your body works. Kids are curious about their bodies, period. No need to be ashamed. Information is power. My viewpoint is if they ask, answer.

SJ on

I find this prude behaviour from many of you quite startling. It is obvious Tea and David raise their kids quietly and in a laid back enviroment. I would be money that Miller and Madelina are more adjusted and balanced than any of the Jolie-Pitt kids, given their unsettling uprooting every week.

This story made me smile.

mina on

She didnt address the issue with her kid ( go ask your father..), she saw the situation as a big joke and told in a TV show. Nothing wrong with the little guy curiosity tough. Is her talking about it that IS too much. This is something she should share with her husband, but not tell the whole world. And no, I am not prude at all, but I have a bit of sense of privacy.

brannon on

i think its a cute story and am shocked at the prudish comments as well. kids are funny and i’m glad they can find humor in their children. obviously, their children will be well-balanced as well and be able to laugh at such stories when they grow up. adorable. people who find this “disgusting” need to relax and realize that its only when things are “taboo” that kids are tempted to misues them

TwinMom on

I’m not a prude at all, but my 6 1/2 year olds don’t know what sexual intercourse is yet. All they know at this point is that “a baby is made by a mommy and a daddy”. I think what Tea did was more than a little tacky, but it seems to be a trend lately… I guess celebs think they’re being funny and don’t realize that a lot of people don’t find it funny at all. Personally, I find it creepy for someone to discuss (publicly) their son playing with himself. I think more often than not, celebs use that kind of “shock talk” to get attention when their career has stalled.

Caroline on

When she said the “p” word all I remember last night watching Conan is the audience initially going absolutely – silent! I almost fell off my couch myself. Not that it was profound or anything – I just think it was totally unexpected from Tea who is the decent one in this marriage and David – he’s the quirky one. (Hey – surprise!)

Anyhoo – I blame Gary Schandling. If they would keep the kids away from Uncle Gary, Kyd Miller would probably have a better mindset about his p@nis. He would probably stop flashing the thing in front of his sister too and get a firmer grip on what’s happening…

(Just kidding!)

Jade on

It’s all very normal etc, except …. Wow. What I find utterly appalling about this is that she shared it all on national television. Has she no sense of appropriate boundaries?? What about plain old privacy?

mina on

I wonder if she would be so innapropriate talking about her daughter playing with her “toy” if this was the case.

Lucy on

I have no problem with the kid learning about sex and anatomy, but I do think it’s weird for Tea to talk about it on tv. For someone who is constantly bleating about how the paparazzi infringe on their kids privacy, it seems a little hypocritical that she’s then willing to share this kind of info with the world. You either respect his privacy or you don’t. FWIW, this seems way more invasive than pictures being taken of them on the street.

sigh on

Steffi, Alexis, Danielle, brennon… pretty much said it all for me already.

I don’t see the big deal about this. He is five, it will be many many years before he even hears about this (if ever). And so what if he gets a little embarrassed by something he said when he was FIVE when gets to be 15+? Everybody gets embarrassed about something. It’s not the WORST thing to happen to someone, and it usually goes away after a little perspective.

People need to lighten up.

Stephen on

I think that many on this forum are reacting to the unspoken issue here – that this is not age-appropriate behavior. Some have mentioned their 5 or 6 year olds mentioning this and that, but believe me, that is the exception. One expects such behavior around age 3-4 years. By 5, most kids know what is and what is not appropriate. Such precociousness is often a sign of inappropriate exposure at an early age.

KarenC on

Although I think that sex education should
begin at home, this story gave me a weird
feeling.

I think this is an example of a family
story that should stay in the family.

Lea on

My 3yr old knows the difference between a penis and a vagina, and who has them ( boys and girls, mummies & daddies ). He also finds bums hilarious.

Every family will have a child say something completely innocent about sex/sexual organs that will make their parents struggle to keep a straight face in reply. You might even giggle about it with another parent-friend at a later date.

But taking it on TV and telling the world is not cool. The kid is at school, fer chrissake. His teacher saw it, his friend’s parents saw it. The bully in Grade 6 heard about it when his parent’s were discussing it at breakfast.

It should have remained a cute story en-famillie. Not a cheap gag at the kid’s expense on a popular night-time show.

Bad form, Téa.

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