Well put, Sage. I think people are just too quick to jump all over him only because he didn’t run back to Bridget. He could say he’s excited about becoming a father and the same people would jump all over it as well. He can’t win.

I happen to agree with Tom, I don’t see what the BIG DEAl is about this article. “It doesn’t affect anybody but me, anyway, so why is it a big deal? Its true it doesn’t affect me, the media or any other poster on here, but Tom. Cause its his baby and he is the father, so what is the big deal?? Well the big deal is people love gossip and want to make a scandal out of this and are going to be juding everything he and bridget say. So no wonder he doens’t comment on the baby that often.

I also agree with him FATHERHOOD is a CHALLENGE. what is so bad about that comment, it is difficult being a parent, it is challenging and hard work. I do know people that had list of everything that there baby is going to do day and night, because they felt it was right , some people even enroll their kids in prechool in the womb. So a list is not all that crazy that doesn’t mean he is a bad father, or he hates his baby. I think people read into everything a little to much. Then he said “But being a father is different. I think that people go into it and find out, holy shit, I have no control’ which is true and people end up throwing those things away and listening to their instincts. So I am sorry, I missed all the negativity in the article.

I agree with everyone who thinks Bridget planned this one out. She knew the writing was on the wall with her and Tom and what better way to keep him in her life than to have his kid. I don’t think Tom should stay with her, he doesn’t love her. The child he will take care of though. Bridget is the snake, not Tom

Charity, ITA. I look at single Moms and wonder how they do it. When my twins were babies, I was fortunate to have the support of not only hubby, but my parents and my in-laws. I got lots of much needed naps. I think I would have had a breakdown if I had to do it alone. Dealing with not just one colicky baby, but two… it was hard. I hope Bridget gets a lot of support, if not from Tom, then from family and friends. It’s not an easy job! That said, I would go back and do it all again. It’s so worth it.

Women need to take responsibilty for their lives. We need to stop getting pregnant for men we are not married to.

If you’re good enough to have sex with, then, you should be good enough to marry, before you get pregnant.

What are these men waiting for, to see if they like the baby before marrying it’s mother.

WOMEN, WAKE UP!!!.

Let’s be honest, in today’s day and age adults (and minors) have sex. Even with meticulous birth control, this sometimes results in surprise pregnancies. And since it’s a woman’s right to choose when it comes to abortion, we have reluctant fathers.

Who doesn’t know a single mother who has had to fight for child support where the “dad” has seen the child maybe once or twice yet he pays $500/month to support that child?

I am glad to see the media highlighting Bridget’s pregnancy and Tom’s reaction because maybe a few people will realize sex, even protected sex, can result in babies. So, you’d better be ready for that.

I even know single dads who are parenting mostly on their own.

Anyone here who has ever spent even a few hours with a newborn should know it’s so much easier to have two people. Not just for the baby’s sake but for the parent’s sanity.

Yes, many people handle single parenthood just fine but everyone I know wishes they had a spouse. They wouldn’t trade their kid for the world, just their circumstances.

I’m not here to judge Bridget or Tom, just to point out how complicated these situations can quickly become.

I think its verry simple, Tom left Bridget because something better came along
To hell with the baby and who knows for shure that Tom did not know about the pregnancy before the break up and still skiped out, I mean Bridget could have suspected she was expecting but not positive and could have told Tom there was a possibilty.
then again mabe Bridget kicked Tom to the curb I doubt it but only those two know the truth.
I do truly hope they get their acts together soon for the sake of that poor kid that is who matters most.
Tom does seem like it is all about him not the baby.

Maybe it’s just me but it just seems like everyone is forgetting about the most important person involved: the baby.

It doesn’t matter if the parents are married, what their religion or beliefs are, if they’re married, broken up, separated, divorced–whatever. All that baby cares about is that someone loves him/her and is going to raise them, give them a home, be it a two-parent one or whatever. What matters is that they have a good upraising and love, stability, etc.

As for Bridget and Tom and their situation, I can only hope they give the baby a good home, however that comes to be. Tom seems to be a lot like my brother as far as not expecting this, not ready, or unprepared for a baby. He doesn’t sound very interested, or happy, or maybe it’s just a misprint. Whatever it is, I would hope he’s going to try and become a father to this baby. Trying is better than just doing nothing at all for the baby.

With my brother, it was an uphill battle but he is a father. He may not have been ready, may not have had being a father in the cards until such and such a time, but he is one. He may not be the best but all that matters is that the child in question knows they’re loved and has a home. And my nephew has that, and his parents aren’t together, but he’s just as happy as he wants to be.

So, it’s not to say that Tom can’t change or become a father, but I guess it all remains to be seen.

Seriously, I hope Bridget and Tom make a joint effort in giving this child a good home, period.

The committment wasn’t there for Tom and Bridgit obviously. They were dating for 3 years, not living together and not married.It seems very convenient that Bridget suddenly got pregnant right before Tom dumped her.She probably saw the relationship falling apart and decided she wasn’t getting any younger.

Jan, are you still going on and on about this? I thought I explained myself, but short of drawing a picture for you, I’m out of ideas…..

I think Bridget got pregnant on purpose… so what? If she did, I don’t blame him for being pissed off. I still say a baby isn’t going to make them fall madly in love again.

And yes, I am a Mom… my nickname sort of implies that, doesn’t it?