Tom Brady says fatherhood will be 'a challenge'

In the new issue of Details, Tom Brady speaks publicly about the baby he is expecting with ex-girlfriend Bridget Moynahan this summer.  The New England Patriots quarterback — who knows the sex of his child, but did not reveal the information — expressed resentment at the public fascination with the pregnancy.

It doesn’t affect anybody but me, anyway, so why is it a big deal?

Tom — a 2-time Super Bowl MVP — acknowledged that fatherhood would be a challenge.  He is also acutely aware that although you can prepare, you can never really know what being a parent is like until you become one.   

I guess that late at night, I’m not so much scared as thinking of it as a huge unknown.  I want to prepare for it the way I do everything else in my life.  I make lists.  I make plans.  But being a father is different.  I think that people go into it and find out, holy shit, I have no control.

Source:  Details

Comments

I read the entire Details article and Tom never says that it is a challenge he welcomes…only that it is a challenge. He also does not say in that article that he is looking forward to fatherhood. It is a shame to see his face on your blog, when he has walked away from his baby’s mother.

- Valerie on May 29th, 2007

“It doesn’t affect anybody but me, anyway, so why is it a big deal?”

I believe it affects Bridget and the child tremendously, and also all the young fans who see that its OK for their role model to impregnate his long-term girlfriend and just walk away.

- liz on May 29th, 2007

Hopefully, he handles it better than his other relationships. Parenting classes are available, maybe he should make use of some.

- landroverdisco on May 29th, 2007

Upon on closer inspection, I just realized that this guy is HOT!!!!!! He is classically handsome, I hope he doesn’t turn into a deadbeat and does the right thing by his child regardless of his feelings for Bridget! That baby will be gorgeous!

- Meela on May 29th, 2007

Just curious…Did you do this type of favorable “puff piece” on Billy Crudup or Eddie Murphy when their abandoned women were pregnant? If not, why do it on Brady? I don’t think anything in that article makes him look like daddy material!

Sarah’s note: We cover any and all celebrity parents and parents-to-be. Yes, we did present Eddie Murphy’s side of the story as well. The blog was not in existence until after Billy’s son was born, but yes, we did write about how he left Mary-Louise in future articles.

We try to keep our articles opinion-free, no matter what we think of the mother or father. I wouldn’t call it a favorable ‘puff piece,’ but I have edited the title and one sentence of Missy’s article to better reflect the tone of the Details interview.

- janet on May 29th, 2007

Sarah’s note: Thanks for taking the time to review your readers’ comments and making the related adjustments in your wording! Still would rather NOT see his deadbeat face though

- Valerie on May 29th, 2007

Why should Tom Brady show any enthusiasm for a child he’s expecting with a woman who didn’t tell him she was pregnant until after they broke up. At least he is taking responsibility for the child and not acting like the child is not his, like Eddie Murphy. I think Bridget got pregnant deliberately in an effort to keep him.

- Honey on May 29th, 2007

I don’t understand how people get deliberately pregnant, it takes two to make a baby!

Do we even now if Tom walked out on Bridget? Maybe the break-up was a mutual decision.

- Sarita on May 29th, 2007

I agree with Honey. Plus I also think that we don’t know the whole story of what’s going on with this situation. I too hope he isn’t a deadbeat dad but I think we should give him a chance to act before we judge.

- Allison on May 29th, 2007

What a jerk! Everyone is paying him the same amount of attention they paid when he played in the Super Bowl and won the MVP. He seemed like such a class act on the field, I guess most people are baffled he’s not the same off the field.

- J-Lin on May 29th, 2007

Honey! Maybe she didn’t know. She told everyone about the pregnancy at about 3 to 4 months. And even if she didn’t tell him on time, he is still partly responsible. She could have found out later. My cousins wife didn’t know until she was about 18 weeks. But she had an irregular cycle. So anything is possible!

- Callen on May 29th, 2007

Sarita said, “I don’t understand how people get deliberately pregnant, it takes two to make a baby!”

It’s entirely possible that throughout their relationship the birth control was something she practiced (ie: the pill, patch, iud, diaphram, etc.) and he assumed she was still protecting herself from pregnancy when they had intercourse. Get it, now?

Personally, I think this guy is a complete ass! Good riddance and I hope that Bridget has a wonderful life with her new baby in spite of this challenging beginning.

- yogadaisy on May 29th, 2007

Why should Tom Brady show any enthusiasm for a child he’s expecting with a woman who didn’t tell him she was pregnant until after they broke up. At least he is taking responsibility for the child and not acting like the child is not his, like Eddie Murphy. I think Bridget got pregnant deliberately in an effort to keep him.
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I don’t follow the logic here at all why does it make a difference when she told him? Seems to me that since they stayed broken up after the baby reveal and he was dating someone else about 5 minutes after the break up that the relationship was doomed either way. And I’m always amused by the notion of the scheming woman trapping the innocent dude with a baby. He’s a grown man and I’m sure he knows how babies are made. I’m also sure that she didn’t use secret powers of hypnosis to get him into bed one last time to conceive a baby. She didn’t trap him; he slept with her willingly and the pregnancy was the natural consequence of that.

He sounds awfully grudging in that interview. I hope he softens and shows more enthusiasm when the baby is born. There is an innocent child involved who will who needs his/her father’s unconditional love irregardless of what went down between him and Bridget Moynahan.

- LAILA on May 29th, 2007

I got pregnant at 45 faithfully using birth control for many years. My husband did not use anything. Do you suppose I trapped him??? I always wanted another baby. And he didn’t care the cause of the pregnancy. As he said, “I was in the room, too,” and of course he was completely supportive.

And LAILA…I agree with you…he sounds grudging…like he’s still resisting growing up. At least the baby will have one parent who is an adult. Bridget seems lovely. What a lucky baby to have her!

- jan on May 29th, 2007

Jan, at least you were in a steady relationship, in a marriage. Bridget must have known the relationship was falling apart,and should have taken extra care to avoid getting pregnant. Since we don’t know the details of what happened, whether she was using contraception or not, we can’t judge people.

While I agree that men should take responsibility for the children they father, at the same time we must acknowledge that men have practically no say in whether they want to be fathers or not. Women can elect to have an abortion, but (most) men cannot pressure their pregnant GF/wife to have one, hence they become reluctant fathers. The real test of a mans worth shows through when it comes to dealing with this unexpected child. In my opinion, Eddie Murphy has failed this test, but so far, Brady has acquitted himself relatively honorably, reluctant father or not.

- Honey on May 29th, 2007

Honey…why didn’t Tom have to take extra care to avoid getting Bridget pregnant? From what I have read, Bridget was the one a bit blind-sided by Tom’s sudden desire to break up. Bridget did an interview in September with I believe Boston Magazine and sounded very much in love, and then Tom bought an apartment in NY in Sept or Oct to be closer to her. She probably conceived around late October, and things may have been fine from her perspective.

And we have a MAJOR disagreement about Tom acquitting himself “relatively honorably” here. Bridget and the baby deserved for him to try to make the relationship work. There is no way he could have tried, since he was with Gisele an instant later. I am a big believer in two-parent families. I think all baby daddies should make an effort here…particularly those involved with the mother for THREE years!!!

- jan on May 29th, 2007

I am sure they slept together more than once in their 3 year relationship!!! What if she didn’t find out she was pregnant until after the breakup? Are they supposed to stay together anyway? As far as judging him, what is he supposed to do at this point? He can’t carry the baby for her!!! Let him prove if he will be a good father or not!!!

- Get Over It on May 29th, 2007

Honey, I totally agree with you. Because of the rumors (and that may be all they are…) that Bridget was trying so hard to get Tom back, it wouldn’t surprise me in the least if she “accidentally” got pregnant. Maybe she saw the relationship going downhill, and decided to do something about it.

And like Honey said, the man has no control over what the woman decides to do about the pregnancy, so in this case, Tom becomes a Dad whether he wants to or not. That could explain his lack of enthusiasm. But I’m sure he’ll be there for his baby. That’s all that matters!

- TwinMom on May 29th, 2007

Jan, at least you were in a steady relationship, in a marriage. Bridget must have known the relationship was falling apart,and should have taken extra care to avoid getting pregnant. Since we don’t know the details of what happened, whether she was using contraception or not, we can’t judge people.
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Sorry to be like a dog with a bone, but then he’s responsible too. If she knew the relationship was falling apart, then I’m sure he knew it too. So I don’t get why it was, she and she alone who had the responsibility to “take extra care”. If he was sleeping with her knowing that things were shaky between them then he’s equally to blame.

While I agree that men should take responsibility for the children they father, at the same time we must acknowledge that men have practically no say in whether they want to be fathers or not. Women can elect to have an abortion, but (most) men cannot pressure their pregnant GF/wife to have one, hence they become reluctant fathers. The real test of a mans worth shows through when it comes to dealing with this unexpected child. In my opinion, Eddie Murphy has failed this test, but so far, Brady has acquitted himself relatively honorably, reluctant father or not.
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Men can absolute control when and how they become fathers. They can be choosy about who they are intimate with. They can take care to be in committed relationships where they and their partner share the same goals. If they’re not up for a committed relationship they can be careful to utilize protection for themselves. Sorry but I don’t have a lot of sympathy for men who are “suprised” by fatherhood. A man knows that everytime he is intimate with a woman that a pregnancy might result. If he’s not ready for daddyhood them let him think twice before doing the deed.

- LAILA on May 29th, 2007

Jan, I understand what you’re getting at. I am a big believer in two-parent families; a married mom and dad. I may be a little old-fashioned, but I grew up in a traditional family setting, so I am happy to provide the same for my children.

But if Bridget and Tom were broken up before the pregnancy was revealed, all the reasons they split up are still there. A new baby often puts more stress on a relationship…. at least in our world where we don’t all have the luxury of nannies and housekeepers!

He isn’t going to fall in love with her again just because she’s pregnant. This is real life… not an episode of Friends.

- TwinMom on May 29th, 2007

Men have just as much a choice of becoming fathers as women do. I don’t believe in abortion, so I think if you become pregnant, you become a parent. Unfortunately the rest of the world doesn’t see it this way, so you get what you get. And the idea of her trapping him with a pregnancy is ridiculous. Women cannot say “I’m going to get pregnant right…now!” If it were that easy to will one time to become pregnant or not I don’t think anyone would become pregnant without wanting to because you could just say “Nope I don’t want to become pregnant today.”

I really don’t think he comes out as the greatest guy in this article. He’s just so…irritated at the whole situation he got himself into.

- Kim on May 29th, 2007

TwinMom and others! Where do u get off believing that this was a plan to trap him? I mean seriously im a feminist but not overly so. And I do believe in a womans right to choose what she wants. You cant take responsibility for people who dont have anything to do with you.If she decided to keep the baby that is her choice. If Tom doesn’t want to be there, that is his choice.
Im sure there were other reasons on why she wanted to keep a baby. And what ever the reasons are, its none of our biz. I think it’s so 1950′s era to make judgements like that. Any women much less anyone would common sense would know that a baby cant make anyone truly stay! Maybe Physically but not Emotionally.
Im happy for her, and I hope she has a very healthy pregnancy. Oh and Im sure she can provide and give the love that her child needs. She can probably even provide more support than some 2 parent homes put together:)

- Callen on May 29th, 2007

What is pathetic is that people find it acceptable that men and women make babies and then don’t do everything in their power to make a home for that child. If that is old fashioned, then so be it. I am proud that I place a great deal of value on the family. Its pretty sad that our society is so accepting of this behavior. Don’t you think that is why so many kids are in trouble these days? The family is falling apart and too many of our kids are being raised in single parent families. That has nothing to do with what decade it is. It is a reality and the impacts are very negative. What is juvenile is to think that two adults who obviously loved each other and made a baby together couldn’t at least have tried to work it out. What is juvenile is to put yourself before what is best for your child. Again I say, just because two people broke up and and then discovered they were going to have a baby doesn’t mean that the relationship would not have worked. If both people are mature and committed, those feelings can be rekindled. Families and relationships take hard work and too many people just throw them away because they are too immature or lazy to make them work. Animals treat their offspring and mates better than Tom has treated Bridget and his unborn child.

- BD on May 29th, 2007

From the comments here, it looks like some people want Tom and Bridget to get back together just so that the baby can have a two parent family. I’d like to know just want world they are living in. It would be a nightmare for that baby to grow up in a family where the parents don’t even like one another, let alone love. People like Jan want everyone to be celibate till they are ready to be parents. Wake up, real life doesn’t work that way. That’s why contraceptives were invented.

- Honey on May 29th, 2007

Bridget got pregnant 1 1/2 months before they broke up at the end of November. Friends on both sides confirmed that they were seen and looking very happy at the beginning of November. In October, Tom gave an interview where he said that Bridget was his best friend and soul mate. In September, he bought a 14 million dollar condo to be closer to her. This does not sound like a couple falling out of love. Fast forward to the end of November. This is when Gisele enters the picture. A week after the break up, Tom was seen making out with Gisele at a party. This is just gross. That same week, Bridget followed Tom to Miami to try reconcile. His friends admitted in a sports mag that he treated her very cruelly. Both sides also admit that he knew about the pregnancy the week after the breakup. Only an idiot would believe that Tom didn’t break up with Bridget because of the pregnancy and because of Gisele. He freaked and ran into the arms of a very amoral and willing woman.

- KK on May 29th, 2007

What is sad Honey, is that you have such low expectations for men and the institution of family and marriage. It wasn’t like this was a one night stand. This was two people who were very committed for three years and that happened to result in a baby. Tom chose to be selfish and immature and did not even attempt to provide his child with a loving two parent home. How do you know that their marriage would have been awful. If two people who obviously cared about each other make a committment to work through the good and the bad, it can be a wonderful thing. It is when one party isn’t willing to work hard and choses to be selfish that things don’t work out. You sure have set the standard very low for men and families in this country.

- ST on May 29th, 2007

I’m not a mom yet but I can honestly say that Tom’s comments and his actions since finding out that he will be a father has revealed a lot.

1. His comments seems thoughtless, almost like he didn’t know what to say about his impending fatherhood because he hasn’t been involved with bridget’s pregnancy. Which means he has not formed any type of bond with his child

2. I think he will be a deadbeat dad…don’t get me wrong he will probable financially support his child but I don’t see him being there for his kid. I don’t see him passing up Gisel in bikin on the beach to spend the day at the park with his kid. When he found out about his kid and the rest of the world learned about Bridget’s pregnancy…he hopped on a plane to Europe to be with Gisel. He also got angry at Bridget for telling the world she was pregnant with his child. He actually accused her of making him look bad…

3. From his comments he sound like a someone who hasen’t taken a moment to read one thing about pregnancy, parenting or babies. Maybe it was better he not say anything about fatherhood at all….

- Melissa Malcolm on May 29th, 2007

How is he a deadbeat? Yes they are not together but that happened before he knew about the baby. When the baby is born and IF he walks away and has nothing to do with it then yes he is a deadbeat. But now? Sorry, he is not a deadbeat. Give the guy a chance.

- Kelley on May 29th, 2007

Clearly some of these delusional people weren’t raised in families where the parents have stopped loving each other and the parents constant fights create a kind of hell for the children. Been there, done that, have siblings who were permanently scarred by the experience. I would have preferred growing up in a single parent family where the adults were not clawing each other’s eyes out. Once love dies, there’s nothing left. Staying together for the children was what the Victorians did, and life wasn’t really hunky-dory then, unlike what people believe.

- Honey on May 29th, 2007

The more I learn about this guy the less I like him. He sure sounds like a very self centered person. He definitely doesn’t sound excited to be a dad in this article. I hope his baby never hears how he has acted and treated his mom.

- Maddy on May 29th, 2007

FYI – Tom & Bridget and their families are devout Catholics. They did go(Tom & Bridget) to Rome together and had the opportunity to personally meet the Pope(which is considered a blessing by Catholics).

My point: Abortion was not an option in their situation.It is against their religious beliefs.

- anon on May 29th, 2007

Honey – I am sorry that your experience as a child was so horrible. I would not want that for anyone. However, every couple that gets back together because of a child does not end up this way. You are projecting your experience to this situation. I come from a single parent family and there wasn’t a year go by that I didn’t wish my parents would have made an effort to stay together. So there are two sides to this issue. You don’t know what kind of marriage they would have had. The point many of us are making is that Tom didn’t even give it a try. He decided for both of them that this baby was going to be born a bastard and that Bridget would be a single mom. Like it was said, its not like this was a one night stand. This was two people who were happy together until the very end.

- Anon on May 29th, 2007

Honey…don’t paint all people with the brushstrokes of your personal history. Many people in marriages and long term relationships go thru difficult times and are able to work thru them and come out better, or at least fine. In fact I don’t know of a single marriage, mine included, where everything has been hunky dorey all the time. I don’t see any indication from Bridget and Tom’s history that they would constantly fight or make their home hellish. And this whole love dying instantly to never be recovered is just garbage! Tom should absolutely have tried to make a two-parent family for his child. How he ever know if it would have succeeded, if he didn’t even try.

- jan on May 29th, 2007

Hello people, wake up!Bridget seems sort of desperate to be chasing a guy after he dumped her.Maybe he doesnt love her anymore.Did you ever consider that? It does happen, and living together pretending to be a couple for the sake of a baby isnt doing it any favors.I have read interviews with Gisele and she seems to be a much nicer,level-headed woman (and so pretty!!!).Bridget strikes me as catty and desperate.Trying to use your baby to win a man back is lame.

- Laurie on May 29th, 2007

I had the great misfortune to have suffered through this article a couple of weeks ago online. I agree with Melissa. He does not sound at all happy, and definitely not excited by impending fatherhood. His scant remarks were about as generic as the statement his agent gave when the news first broke. You know, the one where it was announced that Tom and his family were “excited” about the pregnancy? Yeh, right. And from that moment until this article came out he has not been seen within shouting distance of Bridget, let alone her pregnancy. And yes, it matters. The father-to-be bonds with his unborn child by feeling the fetus moving around in the womb. By helping to ready the nursery, buying cute little outfits, arguing over names, making late night craving-runs. Also the ultrasounds, hearing the heartbeat, the childbirth classes. No, the reason his comments sounded so lackluster are because he has chosen to absent himself from the mother-to-be. Both to “punish” her and also to appease his spoiled supermodel. Apparently Bridget is planning to raise the child on the west coast. Brady lives on the east. You do the math. If he sees his child 3 or 4 times a year I’ll apologize, gladly. But unfortunately I do not see that happening. Tom Brady said it what like 3, 4 times in that article…it’s all about control. He is a very spoiled, self-centered individual and I do not see him being there for his child except on a monetary basis. Oh, and the requisite “cuddling of the baby” photo shoot to appease his fans, of course.

- Cindy on May 29th, 2007

Anon said “…born a bastard”

What century is this again? It is extremely common….TOO common nowadays IMO… for couples to have a baby out of wedlock. Michelle Williams, Angelina Jolie, Katie Holmes, Tobey Maguire, etc. I’m sure they would be thrilled to hear you refer to their “bastard” children. LOL

So Tom and Bridget split up… and maybe he IS too irresponsible to raise a child. So what? I’m sure Bridget will manage just fine without him.

- TwinMom on May 29th, 2007

Jan do u have a personal interest in them?i mean are you praying for some romantic reunion and wanna-be royal wedding?Cause they’re hardly a posh and becks couple! Well Tom is very hot, but,,,

- belle on May 29th, 2007

Jan, Tom has already moved on, and is infatuated with another woman. Do you think it would work if he were forced to go back to Bridget? He’d probably resent her and the kid and make everyone miserable. Why does he have a responsibility to resurrect a dead relationship? BTW, would Bridget have wanted to rekindle the realtionship? Maybe if she had found out she was pregnant before they broke up and Tom got involved with Giselle, he might have made an effort, but it was too late.

I love it how people judge others whose lives they have absolutely no clue about. How would you like it if people judged you based on media reports. From this post, it seems very clear to me that Tom is getting ready to be a father. That’s why he’s talking about making plans and lists, and he’s already found out the sex of the baby, which means that he is involved in the pregnancy. People should stop viciously bashing Tom Brady and start worrying about the real deadbeat Dads out there.

- Honey on May 29th, 2007

My point: Abortion was not an option in their situation.It is against their religious beliefs.
Posted by: anon at May 29, 2007 8:19:56 PM

But shouldn’t sex outside of marriage be against their religious beliefs too? This is what I call selective religion but I digress. Bridget and Tom fell out of love or at the very least one of them fell out of love with the other. This is not a crime nor does it give reason to dislike either one of them. Tom’s only obligation, for the lack of a more romantic word, is to their child. He shouldn’t have to reconcile with Bridget romantically for the sake of the child. IMO that rarely works. I’m not a fan or non fan of Tom and I can’t understand all the anger towards him. He may or may not be jumping for joy about this pregnancy but he, at least to my knowledge, is not shirking his responsibility.

- AMH on May 29th, 2007

It is a shame what low expectations some people have today for men and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. All this garbage about “falling out of love”, etc., so the man doesn’t need try to make it work are just excuses to justify Tom’s selfish and immature behavior. I have to wonder if some of these bloggers have ever been in healthy relationships, because healthy caring decent adults do not just give up when things get a little difficult.

Tom bailed because it was easy and it felt good. But it was a terrible thing to do to Bridget and his baby and you will never convince me that it couldn’t have worked out if he just cared enough to try.

And Laurie…I hope you find someone just like Tom (like he is post-Bridget, that is).

- jan on May 29th, 2007

It is so hard to believe this guy is almost 30! He is so far from a grownup it boggles my mind. When my husband anticipated the birth of our first child, I don’t think he ever thought of the word “challenge”.

“Fabulous”, “amazing”, “happy”, “excited”, “fortunate”, “sweet”, “proud”, “I can’t wait”, “I love him already” are more in line with my husband’s feelings at the time. And he was younger than Tom when our first was born!

I think the word “challenge” makes it seem like a chore to Tom – which I’m sure is how he sees it. “It doesn’t affect anyone but me” – he doesn’t even seem to realize that this pregnancy is affecting Bridget most of all. It is incredible to me that he is such a selfish jerk, because I admire Bridget and do not think she would knowingly date a such an imbecile. But his actions speak for themselves.

I can only assume that Bridget brought out the best in Tom, and now that he’s left her, all his latent badness has come to the fore. Such a shame for Bridget and the baby, but at least BRIDGET will make a great parent!

- From VJ at another Blog on May 29th, 2007

I’m glad to see that I’m not the only one who thinks this article makes him look spoiled, selfish, egotistical, not to mention a control-freak. He doesn’t need a list for what he has planned…ditching his kid the same way he did his/her mother. I think he’s got that covered. And Gisele couldn’t even spell empathetic, let alone know what it means to be it. She’s one of them there “smart” gals Brady likes so much. LOL

- Another Tom hater said this on May 29th, 2007

Guess what Twinmom? I don’t give a rat’s fat ass about other celebs who have chosen to make their children bastard’s on purpose, because it’s so “in”. And don’t EVEN get me started on that slutty homewrecker Angelina”I adopt colors, not children”Jolie. Look the word “bastard” up in the dictionary. I didn’t invent the word. But yes, it does exist. And the fact remains that Tom Brady is taking the choice out of his innocent child’s hands out of selfishness.

- Cindy on May 29th, 2007

Don’t like this man, how he has acted or what he stands for at all. Could he be anymore self centered or bored in that article??? It’s seems he can’t even refer to his baby as a real person. I have yet to hear one loving or endearing comment come out of his mouth. I don’t care what circumstances brought him to this point. His behavior is disgusting. It would serve him right if his child grows up resenting the hell out of him. Hopefully Bridget will marry someone wonderful and the baby can call him daddy.

Since Gisele has Tom by the balls, I doubt she will let him be anyone else’s daddy but her own.

- Gutless on May 29th, 2007

This post is getting much more heated than we had intended it to. Everyone is free to agree or disagree with each other, but if we could stop the name-calling of Tom, Bridget, Gisele, and each other, and stay within the rules of the site, that would be appreciated. We’d prefer to keep the comments open. We realize many of you have come over from Splash News to discuss this, but we ask that you follow the rules of commenting on CBB. Thank you.

- Sarah, CBB News Editor on May 29th, 2007

Here’s another blog site to post your comments. The first site had to be abandoned because there were over 2000 posts. This is the 2nd. Also here’s a comment from a guy running for Congress in MA.

http://www.splashnewsonline.com/2007/05/21/bridget-moynahans-baby-shower/#more-11730

http://thompson07.com/news/?p=19

- Cindy on May 29th, 2007

The way I see this is that Gisel being the other women had a choice…LEAVE TOM because they were not that far into their relationship. If she had done this honeable thing maybe we all would not be talking about this right now and him and Bridget would at least be friends. Now it just appears that both Tom and Bridget have nothing to use as a backbone to raise their child as co-parents. I would not be surprised if Bridget later says she doesn’t want his money…she’s a scorned woman and she’s headstrong….I don’t expect to see Tom do a photo opp with his kid when it’s born. The headlines for tom brady come october will be: What’s wong with Tom Brady?….he is just that throwing the ball well. Then Die hard Pat’s fans will blame his bad season on Bridget for not letting little tommy see his kid.

- Melissa Malcolm on May 29th, 2007

Jan’s attacks on other people are totally out of line. Just because I don’t believe that a couple should stay together just for the sake of kids, she chooses to attack my personal life. For the record, I have been with my husband for 10 years, six of them before we got married, and I didn’t need to get pregnant to get him to marry me. In fact, we still don’t have children, but our relationship is going just fine.

- Honey on May 30th, 2007

I can’t believe how many people there are who THINK they know what’s really going on here. We don’t know these people, we don’t know anything about them, we have no idea why they broke up or if they should get back together or if they are happy about their baby or not. Good heavens, it’s almost amusing to see how some people pick apart everything that complete strangers say and do and jump to such huge conclusions about them.

- Sara on May 30th, 2007

Honey…you area hypocrite. You have attacked Bridget and other posters on this site, and now play high and mighty, calling my comments (which basically support the effort to make a two-parent family) “out of line”. Here are a few examples of posts of yours that were not very kind:
1. You accuse Bridget of deliberately getting pregnant to keep Tom – I’d call that a personal attack on Bridget.
2. You condemn Bridget for not taking extra care about getting pregnant – again not even knowing what she did or did not do. I’d call this a personal attack. Tom, however, you inexplicably let off the hook completely here.
3. You call posters “delusional” who want an effort made for a two-parent family.
4. In a very negative way, you accuse me and others of wanting people to be celibate until they marry and pejoratively refer to our thinking as “Victorian”. There is no one who commented here who even intimated that there should be no pre-marital sex – you made it up out of whole cloth and then condemned us for it.

Perhaps the fact that you have no children of your own makes you look at the value of a two-parent family differently than many of us commenting here. I make no apologies for supporting a seemingly lovely woman (Bridget) who has had to go through her entire pregnancy without the support of the baby’s father. Nor do I apologize for wanting men to make an effort to establish a family with the women they get pregnant.

- jan on May 30th, 2007

Never did like this guy. This article just confirms for me what a self absorbed jock he is. He is going to have a baby for cripes sake. He could at least act a little interested or excited. Instead he acts bored and bothered. I would really like to know what he thinks his challenge is going to be? Does he think its going to be difficult balancing football, Gisele and the baby. Guess what. If he had stuck it out with the babies mama, then it wouldn’t be such a challenge. They would be able to share and support one another.

- He is a stupic jock on May 30th, 2007

Sara – why do you think they posted this article on a blog? They want people to pick it apart and debate about the situation. That is the whole purpose. If you don’t like it, find something else to do with your time.

- Duh? on May 30th, 2007

I don’t mean to beat a dead horse, but you know how people say there is something to be desired for marrying and legally committing yourself to share your life with another human being? This is exactly why. I think it’s absolutely pathetic that in this day and age, having a child out of wedlock is considered socially acceptable. Bridget is not a lone case here-Heidi Klum, Mary Louise Parker, and Melanie Brown are just a few women who were dumped while pregnant. The common denominator? They were all unmarried. And who ultimately suffers? The baby. The baby who didn’t do anything but be born to parents who were too irresponsible to make sure that their relationship would work and survive a pregnancy before getting pregnant. So sad that the standards for family life are so low nowadays.
I used to really like and admire Tom (being from Boston, I was pretty much obligated to, lol!); now, I think he’s a pathetic cad. This interview makes him sound like a real jerk, and if this is how he really is, he has lost me as an admirer. I don’t think much of Bridget at all-the fact that you could be in a relationship for three to four years and magically get pregnant a month before being dumped is highly suspicious to me-but he better step up to the plate and be there for the baby. And from the looks of this interview, I doubt that will necessarily happen.
Finally, ITA with Honey-Jan’s comments are out of control and disrespectful of other peoples’ POV. I am disappointed that you would allow them to be posted when they are clearly meant to shut other people down.

- Lauren on May 30th, 2007

If Tom didn’t want to have his article picked apart, then he shouldn’t have granted the interview. He came across looking very inconvienced and bored by the whole issue. He would have been better off just keeping his mouth shut. He can’t even talk about the baby like its a person. Someday his kid is going to read this article and realize that it was only a big bother to its father. Hopefully, Bridget will remarry one day and the kid will be able to call that man “daddy”. Lord knows Brady may be the father, but he is definitely not daddy.

- What??? on May 30th, 2007

Lauren…could you be specific as to which of my comments you think are “meant to shut other people down”? I’d really like to know. Because this is after all a comments section where people are supposed to give their opinion. And my comments do not differ greatly from many others on this site. Any reason you chose to single me out?

And odd that you have no problems with the commentors who are disrespectful to Bridget! I have more problems with THAT since she is 7 months pregnant and not here to defend herself.

- jan on May 30th, 2007

Jan, First you:
1) Personally attacked Tom Brady for not getting back together with Bridget when she revealed her pregnancy after they broke up
2) Then you attacked me for saying that children suffer when two parents who don’t love each other stay together, which in my opinion is a completely valid point.
3) Then you attack me personally, saying my personal family history is coloring my views. Duh! When I know what it feels like when parents are at each others throats, why wouldn’t that color my view?
4) Then you accuse me of not knowing what love is about because of my dysfunctional family. What compassion!
5) Finally, you insinuate that because I don’t have any kids yet, I don’t know why kids need two parents.

Miss Jan, I know that kids need a stable home, that’s why I waited so long to have kids, so that when I finally have a baby, it will be born to a stable and happy family. I didn’t want to be a single parent, so I didn’t get pregnant irresponsibly.

- Honey on May 30th, 2007

Wow, this is a heated debate. My only real problem is with his attitude as he sounds resentful and disconnected.

Couldn’t he have tried to sound happy about the BABY not the circumstances? Maybe show a hint of joy at the fact his first born child and him will soon meet?

I can understand him feeling negatively towards Brigette, the situation, the press interest, etc. But at the end of the day there is nothing he can do at this point so it would be in his child’s best interest if he sucked it up and got happy about the child itself irregardless of all other circumstances.

You know women sometimes get pregnant by accident when they don’t want to be and though they may regret the father, the circumstances, the timing they can put that aside and just focus on their baby.

- virginia on May 30th, 2007

I am comfortable with the opinions I have posted here. And, Honey, you specifically addressed me by name in the entry time dated 6:00:48 PM above, initiating the discourse. Anyone who does that is inviting a response. It the way these comments sections work. I have no problem with you expressing your opinion…but we obviously do not think alike.

- jan on May 30th, 2007

Honey already stated many of the reasons I singled you out, Jan, but I would like to add that the way you spoke to TwinMom in another post was completely rude and uncalled for. Instead of simply saying you disagreed with her, you chose to personally attack and basically yell at her, going so far as to say you couldn’t believe she was somebody’s mother. I have no idea why you choose to get so defensive over a person and situation you know no more about than the rest of us.

- Lauren on May 30th, 2007

Lauren, this is the remark that TwinMom made that I wondered if she were really someone’s mom:

“It was Bridget’s decision to have this baby, so you can’t blame Tom for moving on.”

To me, there was no good way to read this statement, and to me it smacked of the suggestion that Bridget should have had an abortion. Since she didn’t, Tom was right to move on. Even if she didn’t mean abortion, it was still an extremely rude statement and I called her on it.

Two other commentators besides me also called TwinMom on this, and they were both appalled at the statement. TwinMom later backtracked/explained her statement a little, but I believe my response was completely appropriate.

BTW, on this earlier posting, TwinMom again initiated the dialogue with me by specifically refering to me by name in her post. She began the discourse, thereby inviting a response from me.

- jan on May 30th, 2007

Jan, I agree with you that people/parents should make an effort to work on their relationships (my parents were married for nearly 40 years, until my dad passed away, and I am happily married) but let me say just three things.

First of all, who says it was Tom who bailed out of the relationship, it could have been a mutual decision.

Secondly, people can make an effort but when the love is gone (if true love was there in the first place), a relationship is doomed no matter how hard they try. Do you want their kid to grow up with parents who’ve come to resent each other but stay together because of the child – don’t you think a child would pick up on that? How would that make the child feel?

And last but not least, if they do split up in a few years because they realise their relationship isn’t going anywhere, it would hit the child MUCH harder than already being used to mommy and daddy not living together.

If they would still love each other at least one little bit surely they would try and make an effort but that’s obviously not the case here. When a relationship is dead it can’t be revived. They would be living a lie and based on that it wouldn’t work out in a million years.

But Tom can still be a good father, you know?

- pink.lioness on May 30th, 2007

I see where you were/are coming from, Jan. For the record, I agree with you more than disagree, and I think the whole situation is really pathetic as I already stated. I just felt the way you talked to TwinMom was abrasive, and when I saw the same tone used in this thread, I wanted to say something. But it may have been best if I hadn’t said anything.

- Lauren on May 30th, 2007

Thank you Lauren…that was a very generous comment by you. I appreciate your doing it, because this back and forth has bothered me a bit as well. And I will try to be more circumspect in future postings – no promises, but I will try!

- jan on May 30th, 2007

Jan, are you still going on and on about this? I thought I explained myself, but short of drawing a picture for you, I’m out of ideas…..

I think Bridget got pregnant on purpose… so what? If she did, I don’t blame him for being pissed off. I still say a baby isn’t going to make them fall madly in love again.

And yes, I am a Mom… my nickname sort of implies that, doesn’t it?

- TwinMom on May 30th, 2007

The committment wasn’t there for Tom and Bridgit obviously. They were dating for 3 years, not living together and not married.It seems very convenient that Bridget suddenly got pregnant right before Tom dumped her.She probably saw the relationship falling apart and decided she wasn’t getting any younger.

- Christine24 on May 30th, 2007

Maybe it’s just me but it just seems like everyone is forgetting about the most important person involved: the baby.

It doesn’t matter if the parents are married, what their religion or beliefs are, if they’re married, broken up, separated, divorced–whatever. All that baby cares about is that someone loves him/her and is going to raise them, give them a home, be it a two-parent one or whatever. What matters is that they have a good upraising and love, stability, etc.

As for Bridget and Tom and their situation, I can only hope they give the baby a good home, however that comes to be. Tom seems to be a lot like my brother as far as not expecting this, not ready, or unprepared for a baby. He doesn’t sound very interested, or happy, or maybe it’s just a misprint. Whatever it is, I would hope he’s going to try and become a father to this baby. Trying is better than just doing nothing at all for the baby.

With my brother, it was an uphill battle but he is a father. He may not have been ready, may not have had being a father in the cards until such and such a time, but he is one. He may not be the best but all that matters is that the child in question knows they’re loved and has a home. And my nephew has that, and his parents aren’t together, but he’s just as happy as he wants to be.

So, it’s not to say that Tom can’t change or become a father, but I guess it all remains to be seen.

Seriously, I hope Bridget and Tom make a joint effort in giving this child a good home, period.

- FC on May 30th, 2007

I think its verry simple, Tom left Bridget because something better came along
To hell with the baby and who knows for shure that Tom did not know about the pregnancy before the break up and still skiped out, I mean Bridget could have suspected she was expecting but not positive and could have told Tom there was a possibilty.
then again mabe Bridget kicked Tom to the curb I doubt it but only those two know the truth.
I do truly hope they get their acts together soon for the sake of that poor kid that is who matters most.
Tom does seem like it is all about him not the baby.

- Michelle on May 30th, 2007

Let’s be honest, in today’s day and age adults (and minors) have sex. Even with meticulous birth control, this sometimes results in surprise pregnancies. And since it’s a woman’s right to choose when it comes to abortion, we have reluctant fathers.

Who doesn’t know a single mother who has had to fight for child support where the “dad” has seen the child maybe once or twice yet he pays $500/month to support that child?

I am glad to see the media highlighting Bridget’s pregnancy and Tom’s reaction because maybe a few people will realize sex, even protected sex, can result in babies. So, you’d better be ready for that.

I even know single dads who are parenting mostly on their own.

Anyone here who has ever spent even a few hours with a newborn should know it’s so much easier to have two people. Not just for the baby’s sake but for the parent’s sanity.

Yes, many people handle single parenthood just fine but everyone I know wishes they had a spouse. They wouldn’t trade their kid for the world, just their circumstances.

I’m not here to judge Bridget or Tom, just to point out how complicated these situations can quickly become.

- Charity on May 30th, 2007

Women need to take responsibilty for their lives. We need to stop getting pregnant for men we are not married to.

If you’re good enough to have sex with, then, you should be good enough to marry, before you get pregnant.

What are these men waiting for, to see if they like the baby before marrying it’s mother.

WOMEN, WAKE UP!!!.

- renatta on May 31st, 2007

Charity, ITA. I look at single Moms and wonder how they do it. When my twins were babies, I was fortunate to have the support of not only hubby, but my parents and my in-laws. I got lots of much needed naps. I think I would have had a breakdown if I had to do it alone. Dealing with not just one colicky baby, but two… it was hard. I hope Bridget gets a lot of support, if not from Tom, then from family and friends. It’s not an easy job! That said, I would go back and do it all again. It’s so worth it.

- TwinMom on May 31st, 2007

I agree with everyone who thinks Bridget planned this one out. She knew the writing was on the wall with her and Tom and what better way to keep him in her life than to have his kid. I don’t think Tom should stay with her, he doesn’t love her. The child he will take care of though. Bridget is the snake, not Tom

- diana on May 31st, 2007

I happen to agree with Tom, I don’t see what the BIG DEAl is about this article. “It doesn’t affect anybody but me, anyway, so why is it a big deal? Its true it doesn’t affect me, the media or any other poster on here, but Tom. Cause its his baby and he is the father, so what is the big deal?? Well the big deal is people love gossip and want to make a scandal out of this and are going to be juding everything he and bridget say. So no wonder he doens’t comment on the baby that often.

I also agree with him FATHERHOOD is a CHALLENGE. what is so bad about that comment, it is difficult being a parent, it is challenging and hard work. I do know people that had list of everything that there baby is going to do day and night, because they felt it was right , some people even enroll their kids in prechool in the womb. So a list is not all that crazy that doesn’t mean he is a bad father, or he hates his baby. I think people read into everything a little to much. Then he said “But being a father is different. I think that people go into it and find out, holy shit, I have no control’ which is true and people end up throwing those things away and listening to their instincts. So I am sorry, I missed all the negativity in the article.

- sage on May 31st, 2007

Well put, Sage. I think people are just too quick to jump all over him only because he didn’t run back to Bridget. He could say he’s excited about becoming a father and the same people would jump all over it as well. He can’t win.

- TwinMom on June 1st, 2007