NOT HATING ANGELINA

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In my humble opinion, it seemed like you didn’t state your opinion, you accused Jolie of cheating the system. I’m going by your words.

FYI, in Angelina’s Vogue interview, she stated that when Brad and Angelina both saw Zahara for the first time, they decided no matter what would happen between them, they would make sure she was taken care of. Brad and Angelina went to Ethopia to get Zahara together. And Brad had to go through scrutiny too in order to adopt Maddox and Zahara.

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“Yes, I have done research on adoption for personal and professional reasons and I believe that in most countries that allow Americans to adopt (if not all of them) you have to include a homestudy in addition to your adoption petition. The homestudy has to list all the people that you share the household with. If you claim you are a single parent but you have a homestudy that lists the father of your three kids as your living partner than something is off.”
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This statement of yours is vague and does not specifically talk about Vietnamese adoption laws at all. You talk about “most countries” but not Vietnam. Angelina has only filed for adoption, she will still have to go through a homestudy. I don’t think it’s up to any random individual to decide if “something is off” about Angelina living with Brad while filing as a single. She’s not bending the rules, she following them.

Legally, she’s considered single, so LEGALLY, she can file as a single parent. And when Brad files for adoption later, he will also have to face a lot scrutiny to adopt. “Something is off” is NOT a good enough reason to claim that Angelina is bending the rules or getting special treatement as you have done.

Please provide LEGAL proof that she is bending the rules since you state that you have done research on adoption for personal and professional reasons.

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While People mag stated the process of research began shortly after Shiloh’s birth, it’s still going to be months before this new child is brought into their family. Afterall, the ‘actual’ adoption process does not begin until the papers are filed and that was done just this week. And let’s not forget she has only filed…the application still has to be approved and because they are who they are, their will be a lot of attention to make sure all procedures are followed properly. If anything they’ll be scrutinized even more.

That article stated the following:

Vietnam has one of the most complex and thorough processes in the world, the source explains, as a large number of reports must be created by Vietnamese authorities, background checks are undertaken, interviews are conducted and many meetings need to occur.

“That process could take a long time to unfold,” says the source, “and while it is wonderful that people are excited about it, the news that papers have been filed is only the beginning of a very comprehensive and detailed process.”

Sabina, People said they started the proceeding when Shiloh was born ten months ago.

Wow! Tanya you make Jolie sound like Mommy Dearest. You must be a tabloid writer’s dream because it is beyond obvious you haven’t read or seen any interviews done by Jolie but instead you think you know her by soundbites and blurbs. I could dissect your comments one by one but that would take too much time I don’t have but one of the most ignorant comments, and there are many, is the following:

“To justify Shiloh’s birth the US baby had to be born in Namibia, be given an african name and the baby photos money be given to Children’s Charity”

First, Brad and Angie did not nor do they need to justify where they chose their 3rd child to be born. They could have chosen the moon if they wanted to.

Second, please tell me when Shiloh became an African name? Again this tells me you bought into the tabloid reports of Brad and Angie choosing an African name for their child. Simply not true. Shiloh is not an African name. The tabloids lied and you believe them. So if you believed that tabloid tale it scares me to think of the other tabloid stories you believe.

Third, many celebrity parents sell the photos of their children and then pocket the money. Brad and Angie decided to donate the money instead but you find the donation of money to needy people a negative. Interesting.

The rest of your tirade is filled with tabloid rumors and outright falsehoods. You choose to believe Angelina is a horrible misguided parent who loves her adoptive children more than her biological one. Go read her interviews from start to finish to get the true story because your apparent love of tabloids is giving you nothing but falsehoods. And please stop assuming their 4 child “might turn out mentally hurt, hyperactive or something”. This blantant bias is one of the main reasons older children are less likely to be adopted.

Zoey,
I see nothing wrong in wanting to adopt children of similar ethnicities. Maddox and Zahara have two Caucasian parents, with Caucasian grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. As of today, there is no one in the family that looks like either one of them who can truly understand what it’s like being Asian or African living in the US.

One criticism of transracial adoptions has always been that some parents neglect to teach their children about their biological heritage/culture nor can fully relate to and prepare the child for the negative experiences he/she WILL have to face in being non-white in the world. These challenges won’t go away just because their last name is Jolie-Pitt. Having siblings with similar backgrounds will allow each child to feel not so different and provide the child with someone who more readily understands them. It seems to me Brad and Angelina recognize this and are committed to giving all their children the best support possible.

Lastly why is it no one questions Sharon Stone who chose to adopt three blonde, blue-eyed boys? Is she too treating her children like collectibles? I just feel that some people are more likely to throw out a word like “collectibles” when discussing adopted children of color than they are when talking about adopted white children. Zoey, I’m not saying that was your intention but I do see a difference in how people talk about Brad and Angelina’s adoptions as compared to Sharon Stone’s or Rosie O’Donnell and I honestly believe some of the comments I have read throughout the last few months are bordering on racist. Again Zoey, NOT saying or implying you are. It’s just that I’m beginning to see a theme that I don’t like.

Even if the rumour turns out to be true, the fact that Angelina’s started the filing process now doesn’t mean she and Brad are going to have a houseful of Vietnamese kids anytime soon. Doesn’t adoption in most countries take at least a year to complete? I think Shiloh will be plenty old enough by the time another kiddiwink comes along for there to be time and space for a new baby, she’s not a tiny infant anymore.

To me:

Yes, I have done research on adoption for personal and professional reasons and I believe that in most countries that allow Americans to adopt (if not all of them) you have to include a homestudy in addition to your adoption petition. The homestudy has to list all the people that you share the household with. If you claim you are a single parent but you have a homestudy that lists the father of your three kids as your living partner than something is off.

Maybe I should not use the word “cheating the system” but I do think it is a strech of a definition of “single”. I know some single women who were not allowed to adopt due to having a live-in boyfriend. Additionally, I know people, who got married in order to adopt so they would meet foreign country adoption criteria. So, if Angelina is able to adopt, so should the all the women with live-in boyfriends, who so far were not able to do so.

Also, let if be known that if Angelina was really single or married to Brad I would not have problem with another adoption. It’s bending the rules of the country your child coming from that bothers me. Why can’t they adopt from the country that allows cohabitating couples to adopt?

It is also a fact that when Angelina was adopting Zahara she did not live with Brad, so the homestudy could not have listed him as her partner. Therefore she was trully single.

With all due respect, “me”,I am presenting my opinion on the matter and you do not have to agree.

Okay, I did not have time to read through all of the comments.. but am I the only one who thinks this statement is kind of weird:

Angelina has said that she would like to adopt children of similar ethnicities for each of her kids.

Gosh, the way thats phrased it makes me think she thinks of her children as collectables.. and she wants a matching pair.

Maybe that’s taken out of context? I dont know. It just struck me as very odd.

I am surprised by the criticism towards Angelina and Brad for saving and helping children.

I think it is particularly great that they would be adopting an older child (if the news is accurate). Many times older children are less desirable for adoption so I admire the Jolie-Pitts for this. I think it’s great that they want to balance their family because it shows a strong commitment to their family and their children.

I think it takes a special kind of soul to adopt one child and an extraordinary soul to adopt more than one.

I think that an older child will not confuse or disturb the children in their family in any way.

I wish them all the best with this endeavor and I look forward to watching their family grow in all ways! I absolutely adore this blended family.

ZOE:

I love the name of your girls! Especially Willow =) Have you heard the song “Little Willow” by Paul McCartney? Really beautiful – sad, but beautiful =)