she was having problems conceiving because people like her shouldn’t be allowed to infect the gene pool

How would you feel if you could never have a child that was part of you? Born of you and your partners genetic make-up. As a female how would you feel if you could never feel your child grow inside of you? The devastating news that you have fertility issues. The treatments are expensive for anyone and unless your employer carries insurance to help cover these treatments you are expected to have the money up front.

Hi my name is Melane’ Marsh and I am a nurse at Renown. I work for the ER/Trauma team. I am contacting you to get my story out in hope of some help and to also help other women like me. Did you hear about the women who had two uteri and had a baby in each one? That is me without the possibility of having a child that is genetically mine. I was born with a Didelphic uterus. Yes that means I have 2. I also have 2 cervix. As if that was not enough one of my ovaries is wrapped up around my pelvis and I have had endometriosis. Since 2001 I have had 2 surgeries and have undergone artificial insemination 9 times. As a young adult I never knew that my menstrual cycle was heavier than it should have been or that the pain I had should have been reported to my OBGYN. I thought this is how it is and you get through it. Little did I know that this disease, endometriosis, was killing my eggs and my chance of being a mother to a child that had my genetic make-up. This has been devastating. Infertility alone is emotionally, physically, mentally and financially draining. This has taken a toll on my mind, my career, my body and my family and friends.

This last visit to Dr, Faulk he told us we need to think about donor eggs. This is when it really hit my husband that the road to us having a child that is genetically ours had ended. This has been really hard. We know the problem lies with me and we can not fix it. As a nurse and police office this is really hard to take. We want to fix it, make it better.
Looking at the positiveness of having a child with a donor egg, did you know that they can match you up to 99%? That the success rate of having a child with a donor egg is 98%. That is higher than the chances of you adopting or getting pregnant through IVF. The down fall is it very expensive. I am looking to get my story out, help other women that are going through the same thing, and in hope that someone out there will help my husband and I.

On Sunday 5/13/07 I went to work as always. I know I touched lives and saved a few, but through it all I wished someone could help save me. I am depressed, devastated and unable to move forward. I want a child. I want to feel it move inside me. I have no idea what god has chosen as my path. I am angry at him yet praying he will show me what is the plan for my husband and I.

I wish I could portray the Rascall Flatts song Stand. I want to turn around and stand tall, but I can not. I want to be an inspiration for other women yet I can not find the inspiration to wake up tomorrow. I feel as if my heart has been torn out. I can not turn around without seeing a show of children/pregnancy/family. Every song reminds me of what I can not have. Every time I turn around there is a child or a pregnant women. I am lost and helpless.
Thank you,
Melane Marsh

besides! what woman doesn’t want to avoid sex sometimes????!!! i’m sure you do! i’m sure she doesn’t purposely try to be counter-productive when she wants a child!!!!

allison, your comment sounds a bit up tight. is there something you don’t like about her which gives you the right to think she is too up tight to want more kids? what an insult!

i don’t think elisabeth is uptight. she has the right to talk about wanting as many kids as she wants without you swaying her or anyone else that she shouldn’t have them.

anyways, elisabeth is a great mom and makes beautiful babies! i can definately understand her anxiety. i hope she gets pregnant as soon as possible! she deserves it!

Elisabeth’s face lights up whenever she talk about her baby Grace. I hope she gets pregnant soon because she really and truly does want to get pregnant.

I have 2 children ages 8 and 5 and had no trouble at all getting pregnant with them. My husband and I have been trying for about 9 months now and we are shocked that it has not yet happened. I had a full blood test and internal exam and everything came back normal. I have always had regular periods. I guess its time to talk to a specialist. Thank you for opening my eyes to this problem. I hope you all are blessed with a healthy baby soon…

I can definitely empathize with Elisabeth, and I wish her and Tim lots of luck and prayers in conceiving another child. It’s such a difficult thing to go through. I wish she wasn’t going through this, but I do think it’s courageous of her to share her thoughts and experiences on national TV. Hopefully it will help make other people more aware of infertility in general and help them be more sensitive to others who may be trying to (or can’t) get pregnant. I think many people assume that getting pregnant when they want to is a given, or that once they’re pregnant they’ll have an easy, full-term pregnancy and a healthy baby – but unfortunately this isn’t always the case. Children are a miracle and a blessing…

I have PCOS and antiphospholipid antibodies. By the time I was 27 I’d had 8 miscarriages and 3 live births. We tried to get pregnant for 3 years with our older daughter, we took a month off and went to Europe, came back got back to the RE and got pregnant that cycle. For our second daughter we skipped everything, got a higher dose of clomid and went to Europe and got pregnant that cycle. I have to be on low-dose aspirin during my pregnancies and heparin injections twice a day, it’s the only thing that’s worked to keep me pregnant.

We are currently going through secondary infertility. We have been trying for our third child since May 2005. The hardest part about secondary infertility is that people don’t understand why you aren’t happy with what you have. The fact is you are happy with what you have, there is just a little someone missing. Another thing people don’t understand is that once you have a child (or in my case 2) problems still can arise. I just found out I have to have surgery to remove polyps, which is more than likely the cause of my 2 miscarriages last year.
I hope that Elisabeth finds the help and support she needs. I know that if I had listened to all the people around me, I would still have the feeling something was wrong and done nothing about it. Thank god for a husband who pushed me to see if something was wrong.

It took 18 months for my husband and I to conceive our first child. We then tried for our second child and after 6 months we went to a specialist. We did everything except IVF. We just felt that we needed to stop once IVF was the only option left. I am not saying there is anything wrong with IVF at all. We are now in the process of adopting a baby from China. I just wanted to tell everyone how happy we are that we made the decision to adopt. We can’t wait to bring our daughter home. We may even go back and adopt again for a 3rd child.
This is an option out there for anyone who is having problems and can’t conceive or who can conceive but just wants to give a child a good home. It has changed our lives for the best. Feel free to ask any questions. I love talking about our adoption experience that we have gone through so far!
I will be praying for everyone who is having problems getting pregnant!