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Brooke slams Tom's 'Today' show rant

07/01/2005 at 09:49 AM ET

Postpartumbattlee People reports that one week after Tom Cruise‘s fiery denunciation of psychiatry and antidepressants on the Today show, (read a transcript here) the cause of the lecture – Brooke Shields, for the way she treated her postpartum depression – has answered Tom in a 715 word essay in the New York Times op-ed page.

Brooke writes: "I was hoping it wouldn’t come to this, but after Tom Cruise’s interview with Matt Lauer on the NBC show Today last week, I feel compelled to speak not just for myself but also for the hundreds of thousands of women who have suffered from postpartum depression."

Countering Cruise’s claim that she and Lauer do not "understand the history of psychiatry," Shields says, "I’m going to take a wild guess and say that Mr. Cruise has never suffered from postpartum depression."

She calls the remarks "like those made by Tom Cruise … a disservice to mothers everywhere. To suggest that I was wrong to take drugs to deal with my depression, and that instead I should have taken vitamins and exercised shows an utter lack of understanding about postpartum depression and childbirth in general."

Explaining the physical and emotional reactions to "the depression … caused by the hormonal shifts that occur after childbirth," Shields reveals her own problems dealing with the birth of her daughter, Rowan Francis. "I attributed feelings of doom to simple fatigue and figured that they would eventually go away. But they didn’t; in fact, they got worse," writes Brooke. Once diagnosed, she says, "I wasn’t thrilled to be taking drugs. … But the drugs, along with weekly therapy sessions, are what saved me – and my family."

As for postpartum depression, "Experts estimate that one in 10 women suffer, usually in silence, with this treatable disease…We are living in an era of so-called family values, yet because almost all of the postnatal focus is on the baby, mothers are overlooked and left behind to endure what can be very dark times. If any good can come of Mr. Cruise’s ridiculous rant, let’s hope that it gives much-needed attention to a serious disease."

Go Brooke! I couldn’t believe Tom last week on the Today show. Good for him to believe what he does, but to brush off decades of research in psychiatry and suggest exercise and vitamins is beyond me. (And obviously others, since many, many groups have come out against his remarks in the past week-including members of Congress and the American Psychiatric Association!)

Marie Osmond, who wrote a book about postpartum depression in 2001, also commented that "What he said is very harsh for women who live it or have lived through it," says Osmond. "He should not sit in judgment." However, fellow Scientologists (and celeb moms) Kelly Preston and Leah Remini have defended his actions-although not specifically addressing the issue-by saying that Tom is a caring guy, and that raising the issue was helpful, because now it is being talked about in the media.

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priscilla on

Good for Brooke. I took offense to his remarks also. I took the meds and they made all the difference. When you are having very disturbing thoughts about your child or what you want to do to yourself in those dark days, you need help and I really don’t think that vitamins would help. He caught a lot of flack for it the first time he said anything, why would he talk about it again?! I think he is going nuts, seriously.

Laurie on

I take offense to what he said too. He should be promoted his new movie and just his movie…he should stick to discussing what he has the true authority to talk about; the movie industry. Leave the medicine talks to the doctors…the ones who spent years studying the field.

L on

Go Brooke! I don’t understand why he keeps using Brooke Shields name in this since the treatments actually helped her and she is now OK. She is a success story. I think he crossed a thin line with his remarks especially about a type of depression he will never experience. On the other hand, I met Tom Cruise last week at a taping of “The View” and he was such a sweetie! I am still a fan but he really needs to calm down with all of the post-pardum talk.

CourtneyKrew on

I took Zoloft after the birth of my second child in an 18 month span and also after my 3rd daughters birth 14 months after that. In all I was pregnant 6 times in a 3 year span. I had hormonal issues to say the least. The day that I thought about running my van into the highway devider was the day i got help.(I was in the car alone at the time)I would have never hurt my kids, and most likely never would have hurt myself, BUT I just needed to step off the spinning world for a min…

He had NO RIGHT whatsoever to say what he has. I used to like him, and now he just makes me ill. It turns my stomach to think of how he sits in judgement of others.

He is going crazy it seems…I hope that there are vitamins for that for his sake.

millie on

I was hoping that he’d reconsider his comments and apologize. Instead, he keeps attacking her and I’m glad she responded in such a classy, restrained way. He has every right to be anti-drugs and express his views, but singling out Brooke and taking cheap shots at her career was totally out of line. He made it personal for no reason whatsoever. How could anyone be so arrogant is beyond me.

stacey on

It’s obvious that Tom is the one who doesn’t know anything about psychiatry. He is ill educated about this subject and shouldn’t start making any claims or statements until he knows all the fact and has actual evidence that what he is saying is true. At the ed of the day it is personal preference. He has no idea what the patient goes through and has no right to suggest that what they are doing is wrong. I used to think he was OK but since the Katie Holmes jumping up and down on the sofa saga i have totally gone off him. He’s “in love” we get it and he has told us many times over so shut up now Tom. He’s starting to get annoying now and at the end of the day who actually really cares!!! He need to find other ways of promoting his films rather than using his love life and health statements.

michelle anne on

you know this is really pissing me off,I believe part of scientology is giving everyone the benefit of health and well being through any means possible .WELL HELLO!

and brooke is right until mr jumpin on couch like a lunatic goes through post partum he needs to keep his trap shut.He is giving scientology a bad name (like I care but) they believe that everyone has a purpose and need support well this isn’t showing much support now is it. It’s being bossy and demanding and shoving your beliefs down everyones throat.

Well Mr.Cruise you need to go back to the confines of the temple and reread your doctrine because you’re stepping over the boundries of your “religion.”

Being angry and demanding a “superior” in your actions is against your beliefs my friend! AND I like to see your graduation document showing you graduated with a psychiatrist degree and medical degree. ACTING LIKE A DOCTOR IN A MOVIE DOESN”T MAKE YOU ONE..and needing a psychiatrist doesn’t qualify you as one!!!!

Mandy on

After almost dying in childbirth 6 years ago, I suffered from major baby blues. (My anesthetic wore off during my c-section & I felt them cut me open. I went into shock.)

I actually had to take Prozac to get through it. Obviously Tom Cruise does not understand what women go through. Childbirth is a special time, but also a trying time. Our bodies really go through it & he needs to keep his mouth closed on things he does not understand.

patti on

I agree with Brooke, and everyone above. I suffered with depression for years, in my adolescence and post partum, and I took vitamins, I had a healthy diet as seen to by my very health conscious mom,I wasn’t abused or abusing anything, sometimes it just happens, and it was such a relief when they finally found medications that were effective. My entire family on my dad’s side has issues with this disease in one way or another, some briefly, most chronically, which to me is evidence of a chemical/genetic link, and factoring the hormonal surges of teens, post partum, etc, it’s a wonder some make it through! Only because of stron will and determination, such as Ms Shields. The few family members who have resisited treatment are people I no longer see, because they are so harmful to themselves and all around them. Ironically, they are the big, tough guy know-it-alls this guy is becoming. Perhaps he himself is suffering from the delusional element of mental illness, and now thinks he is God or whovere he believes to rule the world. All I know is I liked the old Tom better, and I keep hoping he’ll fall off one of those couches and knock some sense back into that swelled head of his! And the comments about this being helpful, bringing it into discussion, no Leah and Kelly, when brought in this confrontational, my way is the only right way fashion, it is not helpful. And as I recall, Ms Remini takes drugs for her allergies that she was going crazy not being able to take while pregnant, and had some drugs when in labor on her reality show. I know Kelly usually abstains, but I also know her husband, one of the first more famous for being a Scientologist, has always been kind and gracious to everyone, not forcing his beliefs on the world as this one is lately.
He’s on THE VIEW today, and Joy Behar brought up the other day women like Andrea Yates, who killed all her precious babies after 5 pregnancies and a husband who didn’t allow medical intervention, and others. And even Mr Yates has publicly said he wished he’d listened before it was too late for his wife and his babies. So this could be an interesting show. And the piece d’reistance, Katie is going to jump on the couch too! I think a psychiatric couch is more in order.
I Love Brooke! And hope she gets the sibling for Rowan she’s hoping for soon!

Kate on

What it comes down to is this… since when does Tom Cruise have the education and medical degree to offer such a harsh and public medical opinion??? He has never had a wife give birth to his child and probably has never lived through it. At every angle, he SHOULD NOT be talking about this! I really hope his career suffers. I think he’s an idiot and I’ll never watch a movie of his again. I’m assuming there’s a lot of other people out there with the same opinion that I do.

Sara on

For Tom Cruise, who doesn’t even have a high school diploma, to say he knows better than a doctor is ridiculous.

L on

I really hope Brooke’s letter in the NY Times is the end of this whole mess. I hope Tom reads it and realizes how his words were out of line. He should make a public apology to Brooke and the Psychiatric Medical profession. His publicist must be ready to take drugs herself/himself!

patti on

And I’ve read of his problems as a kid with dyslexia and similar things, and that he finally got help for that, but it was also part of the reason he dropped out of school, so I know he believed in drugs and/or therapy once, maybe he should try to remember how hard it was prior to that. And if you’re opinion wasn’t solicited, Mr Cruise, keep it to yourself! At least until you grow a uterus and go through it yourself. And Katie, having not had a child yet, you better hope all goes well if you two do, because it’s obvious he’ll allow no interventions if you have trouble, and it appears he’s the one in the driver’s seat. Plpus I pity any biological child of his if it inherits the dyslexia, etc, which is often the case, because he won’t allow help for that either, I bet.

He used to seem so nice! But then, Whitney Houston was once a lovely person who enjoyed fans, and now she’s a diva with no ability to fix her problems while shunning everyone else.

Sarah, CBB Editor on

Yeah, but L, his publicist is his sister (and fellow Scientologist!)

patti on

And I can’t help but wonder if we replaced our publicist/agent, AND Katie’s, with sis, because the others were objective enough to realize he’s losing it, and made the mistake of talking to him about it? I can see that happening.
I’m bummed, I love little Dakota Fanning, have seen everything she’s in,(Speilberg, too) but if I pay to see her, I’ll be encouraging him! She’s given some awesome interviews this past couple weeks, and she’s 100 times the star and adult that he is!

patti on

And Brooke is a college grad, Princeton I think? She’s not some less than intelligent starlet surviving on looks alone. So Tom, give it up, and give credit to Ms Shields for her candor.

Sarell on

I think that Tom Cruise needs to take some of these “vitamins” and help the mental problems that he has been having lately.

Hannah on

I say go Brooke too! Cause he is going too far lately! The other day I wondered what Scientology was all about and I looked it up, even reading about people who were in the religion.. and plus Tom does go to the celebrity center of his religion so they might treat him better.. but people need to what it actually is, before they listen to him.

Tracey on

I am wondering what TOM CRUISE is trying to prove by his ridiculous opinions on depression. H has some nerve…unless he can say he has gone through post partum depression, he should keep his mouth closed. I also suffered post partum depression right after the birth of my second child. I wanted my life to end. I did not choose to be like this. I choose to get the help I needed inorder to live a normal life again. Thank God I did…The biggest concern after the birth of my third and final child was the depression recurring. In all honesty, my third child really helped me heal. It is now over a decade later, and I truly feel that post partum depression made a huge impact on my life. I will never completely feel the same again. The problrm with celebs is that we are not used to hearing that they have normal bodies like us and can suffer the same problems. Way to go Brooke! You go girl and give Tom hell.

Louise on

How about a world-wide : Tom Cruise – shut up campaign!

Would be so fun if one tv show where mr. cruise was appearing at, to have one interviewer who actually went through a post-partum depression and put mr. cruise on the spot with questions about what a post-partum depression is, or maybe a real psyciathrist that would appear as a tv host as well. He should then be quizzed about his knowledge about medical terms and the way the mind works and the body works.

Who would look dumb then!

Rachel on

Ummm, has anyone seen what those Scientologists believe? And he thinks Brooke is crazy?

Maybe those aliens they believe have the magic vitamin for PPD? I had ppd and when you are depressed he expects people to head to the gym with a vitamin in tow?

Fool.

halle on

I have 1 question what is he going to say if Katie has a baby and suffers from this as well? I hope he wouldn’t bash her too from this “so called” religion. I guess now a days anything can be a religon. But what if katies only option is to take depressants? I hope he has to experience something that exercise and vitamins can’t cure.

Shawna on

I want to know when Tom received his medical degree, the one thing in this scenario that would give his so-called “knowledge” and “experience” a leg to stand on. Or, not even a leg. A toe, perhaps.

Tom. Take a chill pill. And then shut the heck up!

Caroline on

You go Brooke! Thank you for speaking up for yourself and others out there. When I saw the “Today” show interview with Matt Lauer, I was floored. I thought it was a joke. Unfortunately, it was real. I had never felt so much disdain and disgust. Tom Cruise’s grandiose image of himself, as the all knowing, demonstrates how ignorant and utterly clueless he really is. He not only insulted thousands of women who have suffered from Postpartum Depression, but offended the whole sleuth of mental health professonals, including myself. I wonder how many fans he’s lost with this blasphemy… many I am sure, including myself. Hopefully, ‘karma’ will swing back at him one day, by falling out of the ‘public eye’, sparing the whole world of his crazy outbursts & insane antics. If anyone is crazy, it’s him, maybe that’s where his disdain for psychiatry comes from. He needs one himself but refuses to acknowledge it.

michelle anne on

I applaud her ! she is a princeton grad,and she said on oprah sh did exstensive studing before going on her drug.
Scientologists believe in reencarnation to maybe Tom is thinking of his past as a phyc ward patient?
Truely he must have a clue….? don’t you think?
Louis where do I sign UP!!!!!!!!!

millie on

About Tom’s publicist: I really came to respect what Pat Kingsley did for his career. She managed to keep a lid on this insanity for so many years. Tom fired her when because she kept him from talking about Scientology. Now that Tom’s sister, herself a Scientologist, is at the helm, we can see the real, unleashed Cruise. I can see now why he dumped Nicole the way he did (Nicole’s dad, btw, is a psychologist).
I just got my new People mag–Tom is on the cover (small pic) with the most obnoxious expression imaginable. You have to see it to believe it. Ewww.

Cathrine on

I always got a kick out of Rosie and Oprah when they’d have Tom C. on their shows. Now I’ve lost all respect for him. After giving birth to first a daughter then a son, I was blessed not to have had ddp, and feel bad for those who suffer with it. As I’m going through menopause now in this stage of my life, holding my breath as depression could still be an issue one day. I feel Holistic methods have their place in our world, but I have never even heard a Holistic Dr. speak out against Western Medicine as he did. If Tom feels so strongly negative about psychiatric practices or other medical issues he is clearly clueless about- all I can say is run Katie run!!

Elizabeth on

I’ve always liked Brooke Shields and thank god that someone is standing up and telling Tom Cruise to shut his piehole, because depressed mothers are much more dangerous than any drug on the market. GO BROOKE!!!

sassy_sue on

I think it is just outrageous that Tom Cruise has said these things about something he knows absolutely nothing about…I suffered severe postpartum depression a month after the birth of my youngest son…It was so severe that I wasn’t able to be a mother to my oldest son and 18 month old daughter much less a newborn who was a little over a month..My husband and I were fighting constantly even to the point of physical fighting on my behalf…It was about this time that I went to my obgyn dr. for my six week checkup…And after discussing my symptoms and feelings with my dr….He diagnosed me as having severe postpartum depression which he informed me is a real illness…He prescribed paxil for me and after a few weeks I felt like not only my old self again but a new improved version of myself…I wasn’t so uptight anymore about absolutely everything…I didn’t worry so much about bills, life, etc…It was a wonderful feeling…Here I am now four years later still taking paxil daily and attending a monthly therapy session…I am better because of this medication…I am a better wife and mother now…I took vitamins daily both before, during and after my pregnancy but I still developed postpartum depression…And please tell me how it is that you are able to exercise properly after just having given birth six weeks earlier and in addition to this also had to have stitches where you were cut for your episiotomy…Tom Cruise should stick to what he knows, making movies…He obviously doesn’t know anything about child birth or postpartum depression and the truth behind the illness…I was looking forward to seeing his and Dakota Fannings new movie “War of the Worlds” however after the things that Tom Cruise has said, I won’t be buying ticket to his new movie but rather buying tickets to see his ex-wife Nicole Kidman’s new movie “Bewitched”..

Shelley on

Tom Cruise should stuff a sock in it for a change. He’s a bloody movie star, not God.

Message to Mr. Cruise: Mind yer own damned business and stick to what you know. Which ain’t much, btw.

mujja on

This is going to sound crazy and make me one in like a gazillion people. I never liked Tom Cruise until now. He is pure entertainment for me like those crazy animals from a sci-fi movie

Téa on

I am starting to think that Tom Cruise should maybe try some “vitamins” go get over whatever delusional disorder he seems to have lately!

Gwen on

Way to go, Brooke!

I didn’t waste a lot of time being offended by Tom Cruise’s comments; I laughed at them, instead. Needless to say, it’s not Brooke Shields who comes out sounding like a lunatic in all of this.

Both my mother and I work (or in my case, have worked) in mental health care. I’ve suffered from depression off and on since I was 13, and I’ve been recently diagnosed with an anxiety disorder as well. So I know first-hand, both professionally and personally, the postive effects of medication for depression. I started counselling near the end of my first trimester, and I think it was only my awareness that I would need the help early on that kept me from needing to be medicated.

I sincerely hope more women will be forthcoming about their feelings of depression while pregnant or postpartum. It’s hard enough being a mother, there’s no need to feel rotten about life as well.

Incidentally, since being diagnosed with anxiety, I’ve been on Celexa and I’m doing great.

Kate on

These comments make me so sad. I thought the blog would delete any insulting comments? What gives all of you the right to say such cruel things about someone? I disagree with all of you. I could care less about Tom’s status as a celebrity and more about his status as a human being and his right to be treated with KINDNESS. I do not think his views represent a lack of empathy for Brooke’s experience or anyone else who suffers/ed from PPD or any other illness. I am not a scientologist. I am a mother of 2 who has suffered from depression and pregnancy related hormone issues. I also have experience in the health care industy. People question Tom’s education, but I did not see questions related to doctor credentials. I have many doctor friends at some of the nation’s top hospitals. Some I have know since elementary school. I can promise you that just because someone has a medical degree and prescribes medication, does not automatically make them smart. Even if they are smart, doctors are human and they do make mistakes(more often than you think in large part to the problems with the healthcare industry in our country). I think many of you may not have listened closely to what Tom said. I understand that it is often more difficult to believe that we can do better, but shame on us for not trying harder. Please stand up for social programs that support new mothers so they have the resources they need. Our society could do a much better job taking care of new mothers and that would be a much better place for our efforts than here. Whether you believe it to be true or not, our society is overmedicated in general and Tom’s efforts to point that out are merit worthy. That is something that is worth standing up for!!! Both Tom and Brooke are standing up for what they believe to be the kind way to treat new mothers with PPD. It seems to me; however, that Brooke has treated Tom unkindly in standing up for what she believes in – I did not see any name calling or insults from Tom, just an expression of a viewpoint. Even if you don’t believe in Tom’s view, you have to give him credit for arguing fairly. I do believe Brooke is smarter than some of her comments reflect – making fun of your opponenet never helps your argument (Tom’s status as a man and scientoligst do not invalidate his opinions). Let’s all stand up for kindness…

Shawna on

You don’t call “You look at, where has her [Brooke's] career gone?” an insult from Tom?

Kate on

I agree, that is an insult and was not kind on Tom’s part.

Jasmine on

why does tom keep picking on brooke? unless he’s given birth and gone through PP_Depression, he should not be calling her out.It’s better to take medicine than to wind up hurting yourself or your baby, right?

Louise on

My mother went down with depression about 1-3 months after my birth. She ended up taking prescripted drugs. Probably the best she ever did.

Tom has never gotten a degree in any kind of psychiatry, so he should just shut up! He is a brain-dead loonie.

Leave it to the people with a real psychiatry education and do what he sucks at = acting.

michelle anne on

Kate:

I think this thred isn’t being deleted because it’s true and the way TOM is bashing women for basically staying alive and being able to look after their children is wrong and we as mothers and women have to standup for this.It’s not bashing him ,and not unkind to say these things BECAUSE for the simple reason ,it is more then a little dissapointing to have some one who seemed so down to earth and nice and personable come forward and say and do things to hurt and belittle others expiecially on things he knows absolutly noithing about!!!!!!
Other threds we have had where people bash and say nasty stuff about clothing,what they wear,who their with etc.yes I can see those threds YES I can see them being deleted.but this is an attack on all women and mothers.he basically is saying that hje would rather see women who go threw post pardum injure themselves and their kids then get help??I mean does he think we are stupid like we will just rush right into something without thinking about it?
I don’t think there are many of us who find anything being typed on this thred offensive! we are sticking up for something we believe in! not just out of the blue bashing someone for no reason! he did this to himself.
OK I give you that yes somethings may have been said that were mean and not nessisary .but ….
Kate I know your trying to be dipolmatic , but bash out house,bash our cars,bash our clothing,fine what ever ,but bash how we raise our children and help ourselves that is another matter.
I am sure you probably feel the same even though you don;t post it on here,and I comend you for that,but MR. cruise needed to have a reality check

Michelle anne on

I must add .there is such a thing a chemical imbalance. I am not an advocate of drug usage of any sort,I don;t even take asprine.
But I have teo brothers with chemical imbalances ok not post pardum but he was saying no such thing as chemical imbalance.
I beg the differ ,my brother was so bad he almost killed himself and beat the crap out of someone else. they tried ALL avenues with help.VIatimins(no help) shrink(no help) meditation(no help) therapy(no help)
sending him away fr help(no help) finally we found a drug and he took it and WHAT A CHANGE we got our brother back. he is no longer on it but if he doesn’t maintain then he does go baCK.My sister is a pharmacist.for many years no so we know thw reactions and side effects of most drugs so not like we rush into anything.
I htink instead of us worring about drugs for post pardum etc. we need to worry about how come we let someone in the “entertainment business” let us get upset and tell us what is right and wrong.

Sarah, CBB Editor on

The comments in this thread are not being deleted because this is a major event in the media right now. Tom expressed his views, Brooke expressed hers, and now everyone here is expressing theirs. The comments are being monitored, and certain ones will be deleted if I feel that they need to be.

Kate on

Michelle Anne,

Is that what you truly believe, that “TOM is bashing women for basically staying alive and being able to look after their children?” I don’t understand how what he said could be perceived as an attack on women. It makes no sense to me.

I know people who have committed suicide, have tried to commit suicide and friends who are doctors who have treated the whole gammit of psychological illness. I was raised by a professor of psychology. I have seen many different treatment courses. How can you not believe that Tom was simply standing up for what he believes to be in the best interest of everyone? Brooke wrote a book about her experience and what treatment worked for her. She opened the door for others to say that her course of treatment may not be the only one.

Let me ask you this – WOULD YOU HAVE BEEN MORE RECEPTIVE TO THESE COMMENTS (TOM’S?), IF IT HAD BEEN JULIA ROBERTS (OR ANY OTHER CELEBRITY MOM) MAKING THEM?

Again, I would kindly request that the hateful comments be removed.

In Continued Disappointment,
Kate

Kate on

One more important thing…

I went through several years of infertility treatments to conceive my children. I have an incredibly low tolerance when it comes to risk and the safety of not only my children, but all children. I do take offense to your comments regarding my views on treatment (that they are a threat to the safety of women and children.) I can guarantee you they are not.

Shawna on

If it was Julia Roberts or some other celeb mom making these comments, I know that I would be more likely to give them the benefit of the doubt, OF EXPERIENCE, for their views.

If you read the last paragraph of this post, you see that Kelly Preston (look, even a mom) has managed to agree with Tom and state her opinion without angering the general public (and the people who frequent this board).

I think what upsets most of us about Tom and his comments is his ‘my way is the only way’ attitude towards depression. Who knows – he may be right and his way may be the best for most people. But not all. Even he can not argue the fact (although he seems to be trying) that some cases of depression are so severe that perscriptions are the only way to let those suffering get their lives back.

michelle anne on

Kate:

I would not have been receptive to anyone being so blatently pushing and know it all attitude on anything they know nothing about wether it be julia roberts or anyone else!!!
I don’t have a problem personally with TOm
And I believe you have taken my comment wrong!!! I never once said anything about your comments!!!
But I certainly do not feel you shoving your views down my throat like tom is doing .have you seen all his interviews? Did you catch the interview with matt lauer?
I take offense to the comments from kelly preston to and she is a mother? I would take offense to it from anyoone saying that women are worng for YES I do believe taken medsa to SURVIVE is what it is!! DID you read Brookes book? I did she was suicidal
she had thoughts of running her car into a wall with her child in it! SHE knew she needed help and she saught out all avenues not like she ran to drug store and asked for a drug to fix everything..and now she is off the drug and wanting to have another child and wants to try going threw post baby without drugs now that she knows what to expect.!
NO one is personally attacking you ! I don’t know why you felt I was cause in no way was I!!!
I have gone threw many many many times of people telling us our child needs drugs for her ADD which I find a load of crap..I do not medicate my children other then maybe a occacional cold remedie.But I do agree withyou on one thing SOME people and doc alike are to quick to medicate people and SOME parents are to quick to medicate their children BUT AND BUT I mean for someone to attack and yes again I feel thins is what he did attack brooke shield for taking a med to keep her in order is wrong!
And I did agree with you about some comments may have been over board ,but right now your attacking me for something I DID NOT DO!!!
I respect your views I never once attacked what you said maybe you should reread my view.
I said I agree with you on some posts but not the whole thred.
everyone has their right to their opinion like it or not.like you have.and we all respect that as well as I do with your views.!!!

michelle anne on

I must add ,I would give Tom and anyone else respect for their opinion I don’t have problem with that,but when you go onto a national wide spread tv show and start telling people I know this and I know all about that,,and she is wrong and she is doing wroing for her child etc etc,,then yes I do have problem with that,and I think and cannot speak for all that is where problems lye.Not with his religion because we al have the right to our own view etc. but don;’t go onto a tv program or other and start saying things about which you know nohting about ,I am not saying phsycartry etc but about why and how and the reasoning for brookes med use ,he knows nohting about what dshe went threw and to use a tv to betrate her for it,I am sure she feels bad enough thats just wrong.
I think it is more shocking everyone then anything else cause he seemed like such a give the person the beifit of the doubt man..and he seems to be changing,and I knw we all have the right to change and have our views.fine and dandy but don’t get mad at people for not sharing them? and I am not talking your views I am talking toms.
I have been threw many medical problems and tried very hard to stay non medicated threw them all but sometimes we just have no other avenue IN OUR EYES.
again I say I was not personally attacking you?! and I am sorry if you felt I was ?

weelilone on

Putting my 2 cents worth in.LOL
asked or not.
I agree with Kate and michelle anne.
I agree with Kate on the fact that there were some pretty degrating comments made on here on Tom.
Most where not called for .But thats what scrolling is for.We aren’t forced to read them,but we also have to be consisstant in this group right? I think thats what Kate is asking? sorry to speak for you.
I also agree with michelle anne and others.
Toms actions in the way he jumped to conclusions about mrs shields is wrong.I do not care about his religion or his romance with katie holmes ,or his movie, or his fame or his couch jumping .I don’t care one iota about any of that,not my life .
I do find it personally offensive for him to say with exercise and vits I and mrs shield will have been better. Well I am a gym instructor(for 12 yrs) and work at a spa and exercise alot everyday (been is many many fitness compititions)even throughout my pregnancy and I take my vits like a good girl I watch what I eat, I meditate ,but still I ended up getting post pardum and this suprised me! I still tried every avenue to deal with it, but ended up going on meds (it was not done light heartedly or with out much discussion) and they helped me tremendously! so Mr Cruise’s therory is wrong sometimes meds do help and there is such a thing as chemical imbalance.
I did feel attacked by him.and I do agree with Michelle anne ,taking my meds did help me survive( I was suicidal) and did help me deal with my daughter.Like Mrs Shields I didn’t even want to be in same room as her.
I think Tom is a good actor and basically a good person I do however think he got passionate about something he doesn’t know very much about.and he know is maybe(from my opinion) regreting his comments but doesn’t want to back down on it?

Cathrine on

To Louise from yesterday’s comments (July 1st) — I loved your idea– how about putting T.C. up against Dr. Phil? Don’t you agree Dr. Phil would make mince meat out of him?! To Kate from today, I’m sorry but I think you are totally missing everyone’s point on here! You must have heard the saying – “it’s not what you say but how you say it”. Example– Had Tom C. told Matt Lauer that “his opinion is” etc. etc. – and not told him he doesn’t know what he’s talking about – and hadn’t attacked Brooke S. for her method of treatment, none of us would even be writing on here. The guy sounds like someone who’s brainwashed!! Does anyone else agree?

joy on

Like I always say different strokes for different folks what may work for one person won’t for another. Go Brooke for standing your ground. I cannot stand people who preach about their religion and beliefs on others. The way Tom acted on the Today show with Matt was a true testiment of what kind of person he really is. I think that he should keep his beliefs to himself. Stop worrying about others. I don’t understand him lately. He’s an embarrassment to himself most of the time. His poor children.
Well I am glad that Brook aint taking no BS from him. Til Tom himself gives birth I don’t want to hear one word from him about this.

joy on

Catherine – brainwashed he is and he’s taking poor little Katie down with him. Even her parents have come out and said that they feel Tom is brainwashing their daughter…..once a catholic Katie seems to be turning now to Scientology. Guess what…..Nicole wasn’t a scientologist and hated the beliefs of a scientologist……now wonder he’s not longer married to her. He IMO (of course) probably kicked her to the curb for not believing what he believed. I just feel bad for Bella and Connor they are probably so confused.

Bethany on

It’s the Princeton University graduate versus the high school dropout. Which one do you think would win this fight?

Clare on

Shame on Tom.

This isn’t about depression or whatever, this is just about drumming up publicity for himself and his latest movie.

I wish people wouldn’t give him a microphone.

I am surprised he stoops so low. He is obviously publicity hungry and this is the only way he can get it – which is saying something about his movie …

jessamy on

I’d like to suggest to Tom to close his mouth. He is such an id–t (sorry, but this is what I think about him right now).
Instead of invent love stories that don’t exist just for promoting his movies he should go back to school.

Louise on

Good to hear at least one thought my idea was good – just a bit :)

Maybe we should e-mail one of the next programmes T.C. is appearing on with our idea, perhaps they like it :)

Would be so funny to see T.C. get “mashed into potato salat” – sorry my expression

kelly on

kelly preston defended tom because she too, along with her husband, are scientologists.

Sarah, CBB Editor on

Right, I had said that in the original post. Both Kelly and Leah are both celebrity moms and Scientologists.

Renie on

So Tom knows psychiatry, huh. he studied it and he talked like he knows it like the back of his hand. Get real! No one understands postpartum depression than those who suffered and their doctors. Not Tom Cruise who has been advertising his Scientology beliefs.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, however saying it loudly on tele and placing judgement/conclusion is another thing. Sometimes, things are better left unsaid if you are not the authority.

patti on

Tom has a right to any opinion, but not to attack anyone else as fiercely as he has, and there are many out there who don’t believe in meds, and many who do. I personally have tried it both ways for myself and my kids. I do much better with meds. My son did better with meds. As a child, he tried killing himself in many ways, running in front of cars, playing with knives, forced drowning. Meds similar to those for ADHD reduced his impulse control disorder long enough for him to grow into an adult capable of deciding for himself. He now uses alternative treatments. My youngest child has difficulties too, but her metabolism is different, so most pills have the opposite the effect, and it’s been very hard for her socially, and very worrying for me as a mom.
Ellen Degeneres was raised Scientologist and now makes fun of it every chance she gets.
Marie Osmond chose natural remedies for her PPD.
Brooke chose meds.
Kelly Preston & John Travolta are devout Scientologists, but I’ve never heard them openly criticize someone else for their beliefs, and especially not on so sensitive a subject.
Leah Remini has mentioned using meds for allergies and in childbirth.
It’s all about choice, and I would object to any woman, even more than Tom, criticizing Brooke, too, because most women know no 2 people, pregnancies, and babies are alike, and his comments have not done anything to help anyone. If someone asks him specifically about his own personal experience,then he would be justified. But noone has done so to my knowledge.

patti on

And it was the shunning, the stigma, and the unsolicited opinions of strangers that hurt me and my kids most, not the actual disorders. And never once did the above come from someone who’d walked in our shoes, only those who knew just what we were doing wrong, despite never having been there. Like Tom.

Kat on

I personally think that Tom’s comments are out of control. HE is trying to get publicity for his new movie. I also think that he is going through a mid life crisis. Clearly the man has significant insecurity issues, and to validate himself and his beliefs he is projecting negatively onto others, say Brooke Shields or Matt Lauer. Brooke wrote her book to raise awareness of a disease. Tom is contributing to the extremely negative attitude many people have of people who suffer from mental illness. Until tom knows what Brooke went through he needs to stop judging her. And since it is never going to happen, he should jus shut the hell up. What a freak he has become. He shoulds just keep his mouth shut.

Louise on

http://www.crimelibrary.com/notorious_murders/women/andrea_yates/

Jennifer – http://www.kiss-my-kitty.com – gave that link in her blog.

It is what can happen if women aren’t treated for past-partum depression. 5 women can get killed by their own mother, drowned in their bathtub!

Louise on

Woops, I meant 5 kids (not 5 women) – sorry!

nik on

It’s extremely hurtful that he’s belittling mental illness. I’m not sure what his intentions are but this really saddens me.

beth on

He is definatly coming all out force isn’t he? His prior publasist must of had a heck of a time?!
I heard his new movie Mission Impossible 3 he had Scarlett Johansson in it but after he took her to a scientologist gathering and tried to recruit her ,she said no thanks! He then had her dropped from the movie!This is on msnbc on June 26th.
It’s becoming increasingly difficult to make distinctions between his personal, professional and religious life. Tom Cruise and Scientology seem intent on recruiting a hot young star. Apparently, Scarlett Johansson flunked her test, but Katie Holmes passed.” is what they said also.

beth on

FULL ARTICAL:::(little off subject but kinda showing how Tom is thinking now a days?

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Did Tom Cruise try to recruit Scarlett Johansson to Scientology?

The “Lost in Translation” star was expected to co-star with Cruise in “Mission: Impossible III” but was dropped because of “scheduling conflicts.” But it seems that there may have been other conflicts as well. Cruise invited Johansson to a Scientology center where he showed her literature about joining his controversial church, according to a report. “After two hours of proselytizing,” according to RadarMagazine.com, “Cruise opened a door to reveal a second room full of upper-level Scientologists who had been waiting to dine with the pair, at which point the cool-headed ingénue politely excused herself.”

The Scoop called Johansson’s mother/manager for comment and she declined, referring us to Johansson’s publicist, who didn’t return calls or emails. Cruise’s rep didn’t respond to requests for comment, but Rick Ross of CultNews.com told the Scoop: “Is this Tom Cruise’s version of a first date? It’s becoming increasingly difficult to make distinctions between his personal, professional and religious life. Tom Cruise and Scientology seem intent on recruiting a hot young star. Apparently, Scarlett Johansson flunked her test, but Katie Holmes passed

Maya on

Clare- I agree with you completely. many of his actions lately seem to be publicity for his new movie. Think about it- A formerly very private person is now jumping up and down like a kid on a couch declaring how in love he is. He and Katie slobber all over each other and just when people begin to doubt the authenticity of the relationship he proposes. what timing and how coincidental that they both have summer movies coming out. Obviously Tom thinks making such moronic comments about post-partum depression is controversial publicity and maybe to him that is even better than just regular publicity. He is an aging movie star and perhaps he thinks that he needs a young girl on his arm and a big obnoxious mouth to draw attention to himself because nothing else seems to be working for him anymore.

patti on

Not only convenient timing on the proposal, but then a press conference within how short a time? Most celebs try to keep it quiet and private since they get so little of that in their lives, he couldn’t wait to get it on the news in America from Paris? And she says she was totally surprised? I don’t think I can buy into that one…

I used to love this girl as a role model for my grown daughter, now I’m just glad her show ended before my little girl knew who she was! And I don’t think it’s much of an example to set for his own girl whose heading into her teens. I heard a “blind” item that some megastar had interviewed 3 starlets, Scarlett, Katie, and I can’t think of the third, but I know now who it was, and not for any movie as he made it sound to lure them in.

And back to his kids, he does seem to be acting as he always has as their father when it’s been just him and them seen in public, which makes me think even more this is PR bull****. But leave Brooke, and something as crucial as mental health, out of your game, Tom!

Joanne on

Thanks to Patti for sharing a little of her journey. It is the judgment of others who have never been there that is the most hurtful of all.

Wanda on

I think Tom Cruise has a right to state his opinion – fine, he thinks medications are wrong. But who is he to make comments about psychiatry? I am studying Psychology and know for a fact that there is something called chemical imbalance, which causes mood swings and is often the reason for severe depressions. One effective way to stabalize this is by taking medication.

What I don’t like about Tom’s comments are that he acts like he knows everything. Who is he to say that “You don’t know the history of Psychiatry”… he acts like he is a know-it-all. And who is he to judge Brook’s career?

Just by stating that “There is no such thing as chemical imbalance” tells us how ignorant he is, and how little he actually knows. He is just trying to cover it up by acting all smart…

I think what Brook did is right – writing the letter and stuff. And for Katie’s part – I feel sorry that she is getting a husband who has no idea of women, psychiatry or how to act around people.

I know that probably men do not have so much chemical imbalance, but I know through own experience that we women do…. especially because of our homonal changes through menstruation,… and even more so after child birth.

I am really relieved that other people out there also support this view, and that we do not support Tom by watching his movies – and thereby increasing his success. I never had anything against him, but once that whole Katie stuff happened he turned nuts! I think he truely needs a reality check! And that soon!!! (come on, who comes on a couch like a little boy on a TV show???)

Wanda on

I totally agree with Maya and all the above – Tom’s and Katie’s relationship is just so public it’s not even funny! It is quite discusting how they are so slobbering all over each other and announced their engagement like what 2 hours? after they got engaged…. How can this relationship work if they talk everything in public?

I am also totally not in favor of that whole Scientology thing…. Katie is really imature – she is just following Tom like a puppy. Seems like she has no principles or values to stand up for, and doesn’t think for herself.

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