Shar: Britney's not experienced enough to watch my baby

From Anne at BabyNames- I completely understand where Shar is coming from (although how will Britney learn if she can’t try?), but I really love the bit of a dis to Kevin at the end. Ha.

Britney Spears has been barred from looking after her eight-month-old stepson Kaleb, because she’s not "experienced" enough. Spears’ husband Kevin Federline welcomed his second child into the world just two months before he walked down the aisle with the beauty.

While Federline’s ex-girlfriend Shar Jackson allows the newlyweds to look after her two-year-old daughter Kori, she’s refusing to leave them with baby Kaleb until he’s much older. She tells America’s Star magazine, "As a mom, I won’t put my baby in the hands of somebody who can’t handle it. Britney has no experience with babies, and Kevin’s a great dad, but his only experience is with Kori, and he had my help the whole time."

Comments

Jennifer on April 7th, 2005

I don’t understand what the difference is. A two year old can’t tell you what is wrong with s/he any more than an infant. And to me, there are differences between the two, but just as much responsibility. Kaleb is eight months old. He’s more than likely through with colic and things that would effect a newborn. I mean, you have to feed, clothe, bathe, love, diaper (or potty train), put to bed, play, etc. with each of them. If Shar doesn’t think Britney is responisble enough to watch Kaleb, then she’s not responsible enough to watch either.

Oh, and IMO, judging from all the pics taken with Kori, I think Britney is able to take care of both of them. She seems to be very sweet and loving with her husband’s child(ren). And I’m not a huge Britney fan either.

B on April 7th, 2005

I don’t have any children, but I can see where Shar is coming from. However, I do think there is a difference between an eight-month old and an infant. Does Shar talk to Kevin or Britney friendly at all? Why can’t they all get together for an hour or two? I think Kevin should be able to spend time with his baby, even though I CANNOT stand him at all!

B on April 7th, 2005

I agree with Jennifer.. Britney does seem very loving and able of taking care of Kori.. I think she will make a good mother when it comes to that time.

Anonymous on April 7th, 2005

There is a huge difference between 8 months and 2 years. A two year old is less likely to fall off a bed or couch if someone isn’t being vigilant (which an inexperienced person like Britney might not be) than an 8 month old. At 2, Kori’s immune system is more developed than Kaleb’s so you don’t have to sterilize pacifiers and other things that go in the mouth. Brit wouldn’t necessarily know not to give honey to a baby or how to properly warm a bottle but a two year old can pretty much eat anything (even fast food in a pinch). Shar has instincts that Britney doesn’t and even a split-second can make the difference between a baby falling/choking/otherwise getting hurt. Most moms I know leap to their child’s aid much quicker than a non-mom and even a mom with a child the same age is not going to have the same reaction time. And when you don’t have a baby around full-time, you lose those “danger” eyes – the ability to see things that might be dangerous for a new crawler/walker. I absolutely would not leave my child with anyone in a house I could not baby-proof myself!

Stephanie on April 7th, 2005

Britney has a gazillion dollars, I think she can afford a nanny or two to look after Kaleb.

Anne on April 7th, 2005

I agree with Anonymous, there is a big difference between a 2 year old and an 8 month old. A two year old can communicate his needs verbally and is much more independent than an 8 month old would be.

Also, maybe Shar is worried that the baby isn’t being given the appropriate amount of attention that a baby that age requires–maybe Britney puts the baby in a crib or playpen instead of interacting with her. We don’t know the full story.

When it’s your child you have to be vigilant about who you leave them with. There are too many horror stories out there. Remember that poor little boy who drowned in Tommy Lee’s pool while under the care of a nanny?

Sam on April 7th, 2005

I can understand why Shar wouldnt let Britney around Kaleb. As for how can Britney learn, if she goes to a toy store she will see that they have doll babies that wet,cry, and need to be fed just like a real baby. Or maybe Britney should go to a parenting class. At that class they will teach her how to care for children and babies. Then after that maybe Shar will let her around Kaleb.

Anon on April 7th, 2005

Maybe Britney Spears doesnt’ care. I’m not trying be horrible, but maybe she really just wants to have her own children with Kevin and let him deal with his children with Shar.

Michelle Anne on April 7th, 2005

Sometimes I think of Britney as younger then she is.I keep forgetting she is in her 20′s .I dunno the circumstances but I think Shar is protective heck I would be to I mean she stole her boyfriend and father of her child and unborn child at the time.Wouldn’t doubt some animosity(sp?) between them.can’t blame her.

Jennifer on April 7th, 2005

Not trying to start an argument here or anything but:

I have a two year old daughter now. She needs just as much attention now as she did when she was born, only in different ways. THAT’S what I was saying above. I also have a step-daughter, who was 2 1/2 when my daughter was born, and I’m sorry, but I know she needed just as much attention from me and my husband as our own child did at the time. I also know that when my step-daughter falls and hurts herself, I leap right to her aid. I NEVER have treated her in any way different than my own daughter because I love them both. If you are a good mother, I don’t think it matters who’s child it is if you believe that they are part of your family. Also, do we know that Britney wouldn’t hire someone to baby proof the house? I’ve seen people do it all the time. My point is, unless we actually know the person, we can’t be making any judgements on their character.

Oh, and as for not giving a baby honey, warming a bottle, or making sure the baby wouldn’t fall, I knew none of those things until I was pregnant and read books. Books teach alot, and if a person is going to be a good mother, they will have the instincts with those other than their own children. At least, that’s how I was.

And seeing as though I have some experience with the ex and a step-child, I know that my husband would never let his ex dictate how and when he visited his child. So I feel that it’s Kevin’s fault that he only sees Kori frequently, not Britney’s. And Shar has every right to be protective of her children, I know I would be too given the fact that her ex left her while pregnant. But, again, that’s all Kevin and if he wants to see his son bad enough, he could’ve gone to court and gotten him. The judge may have thought that Shar was being spiteful.

Michelle Anne on April 7th, 2005

exactly my point..LOL

Nikki on April 7th, 2005

I have a 1 yr. old, and a 2 yr. old…and, I would definately say that it is easier to take care of an 8 month old, than a 2 yr. old. A 2 yr. old is all over the place, and trying to be so independant. They are very busy. At least an 8 month old tends to stay put, except for crawling, and you can keep track of them better. I just think if she can be trusted with a 2 yr., then she should be trusted with the baby too. And, besides…I would trust Britney with the kids anyday over Kevin!! He just looks less enthusiastic with the kids than Britney does. I tend to think she would be more responsible with them…and, they’re not even her kids.

Kori on April 7th, 2005

I think Britney would have very good maternal instincts. She grew up being kind of a second mommy to Jamie-Lynne, like most older sisters are. However, if I were Shar, I would not trust my 8 month old with a “stranger” either, even if she IS Britney Spears. I would be worried that she or Kevin would smoke around my baby first of all…..
Second of all, 8 months old is a weird age. It’s when a baby could start crawling and walking at any moment. It’s a stage where if you turn your head for one second the baby could have pulled up onto something, fallen and split its head open. I did not let anyone but my mom or my mother-in-law watch my son during the 7 month to 14 month period when he was literally a “bruiser”. Kori (who shares my name!) is 2, which is a huge difference. A 2 year old is quite self-sufficient and really knows quite a bit of right from wrong, what to touch and what not to touch, how to walk and run without falling every 3 steps, etc. Also, an 8 month old is still at risk for SIDS…..is new at solid foods and at risk for choking…all that stuff.

Erin on April 7th, 2005

Are you people who are saying that there isn’t a difference mental in the head? THERE IS A HUGE DIFFERENCE! 2 years old require less attention. Could you leave a newborn with a bunch of toys without touching them for an hour? No, I don’t think so. A 2 year old can tell you what he or she wants and is less fragile. Yes, they are still fragile but little babies are very much more.

nik on April 7th, 2005

Kori’s almost 3 and I think she’s definately capable of telling when something is wrong! An 8 month old can’t be compared to a 3 year old, i think there’s a big difference there and i totally see shars point. My heart breaks for her, she has been put in such a crappy position. It’s bad enough to have the man you love cheat on you but to have it done while you’re pregnant and with britney spears of all people! I can’t imagine going to the grocery store and having to see pictures of my ex and his new wife everywhere. And i know britney is the stepmom now and technically she should be able to spend time with the children but it has to be hard for Shar to have to watch brit and the moocher play house with her kids. In a couple interviews britney has been complaining about the responsibilty that has come with the kids which is ridiculous. she should have thought of that beforehand.

Dawn on April 7th, 2005

Maybe if Shar and Brittney attempted to spend some time together then Shar could give Brittney some pointers. They are going to be thrown together a lot over the next few years and they need to act like adults and try to make an effort to be friends for the sake of Kaleb and Kori. Plus,if Brittney is going to have kids then she needs to learn about babies. Besides,it’s hardly Brit’s responsibility to take care of Kevin’s children. Spending time with them is one thing but they aren’t her kids. Shouldn’t their father be the one whose taking care of them? Maybe I’m wrong but part of being a responsible parent is making sure you’re not slupping your kid off on someone else. If Kevin can’t take care of his own kids then he should have been more careful.

Michelle Anne on April 7th, 2005

Ahmen Dawn .I know my brother is in same situation has almost 5 yr old daughter with one girl(in relationship with her for 4 yrs) then they broke up and he was engaged couple yrs later to another girl.She tried to have a relationship with my bros daughter but the mom would have none of it cause my bros fiance was way younger then him.And of course spite thrown in..And the thing is she was good with her and my niece loved her.This ended up being one reason they broke off their wedding and stopped relationship all together ,My brother choose his daughter and the two ladies he dropped and only deals with the mom when he has to amicably on his part.Sad cause the kids are the ones who get hurt.

Mary on April 7th, 2005

A little unrelated, but my son’s name is Kaleb and in the four years he’s been alive, I’ve never heard of another kid with that name. Darnit.

Jennifer on April 7th, 2005

MENTAL IN THE HEAD? I DON’T THINK SO! Besides, Kaleb is not a newborn. I think holding a small baby and letting a baby play in a play pen or on the floor while you are watching him/her is much easier than worrying about whether or not your two year old has gotten into anything toxic, any medicine, or just plain old written on the walls. I am CONSTANTLY after my two year old. And, she’s a bear right now, since she’s going through the terrible twos. So, no, I’m sorry, but I do NOT think that an 8 month old is any more/less of a responisbility than a two year old. And also, my almost 5 year old step-daughter still struggles to tell me what she feels when she is sick. You think a two year old could do any better? I highly doubt it. SO I AM NOT MENTAL. And neither is anyone else who doesn’t share your opinion.

~melina~ on April 8th, 2005

I think Shar should get off her high horse and lighten up. It doesn’t take a genius to know that children at any age needs attention and love. Britney has at many times mentioned on her website how much her and Kori are becoming close. Plus, many step-parents love their step children just as much as they would their own biological children. Kaleb would be in good hands with Kevin and Britney. Shar should give him a bit more credit. I’m sure he has his children’s best interests at heart and trusts Britney.

And, another thing… so he left her … but it takes two. Their relationship couldn’t have been THAT strong if he could fall in love with another woman. I’m personally sick of this Shar the victim stuff.

But, hey it’s only my opinion.

Jen S on April 8th, 2005

I think I agree with Shar, and I kinda don’t…I dislike Kevin Loserline, I always have, he just looks like….well, a loser *L* Maybe I’m wrong, I don’tknow him afterall….basically I agree with Shar because I am extremely paranoid about who and where and what has to do with my son, who is also almost 3. I have ONE BABYSITTER, My mother. Just recently started to allow my husband’s Aunt (yes, aunt, NOT mother; Long story) watch him but not for more than a couple hours….I think most good mothers are a bit on the paranoid side….I still think Britney has more brains than her loserhubby. Again, JMO.

leslie on April 8th, 2005

i believe shar wants to do whats best for her kids, but she is also a woman scorned. every first time mom does not have expereience with children. so if oyu follow this line of thinking than none of us the first time around she be allowed long periods of time by ourselves with our babies. men are capable care takers, and kevin should pursue having his child more if thats what he wants.

Michelle Anne on April 8th, 2005

For someone like Britney who pulls publicity stunts like dressing up in alien costumes and hucking slurpees at photographers and running off and getting married in a stuper(her admitting that) I to would be alittle hesitant .or might think Publicity oppurtunity for her what a dream for paparzzi Britney holding baby Kaleb with Kevin..Keep her in the news hey.

Stephanie on April 8th, 2005

Sarah, the new pic of Shar and the kids is up at JBB.

Natasha on April 8th, 2005

I’ve worked in childcare for a long time. Toddlers keep your on your feet since they’re so mobile and active, but little babies I feel are much more demanding.

T L's Mum on April 9th, 2005

Maybe Shar is still breastfeeding.

nik on April 9th, 2005

I don’t think he fell in love with britney. Not in the way you mean anyways. I mean Britney is the one who proposed not him. I give that marriage 2 years tops. He was living off of shar before and now he’s living off of Brit. Did you all read his details interview? I’m not really a fan of Britneys actions but i feel bad for her, she can do so much better then him. They both dont seem too bright.

Mrs. Dusty F. Brown on April 9th, 2005

The comments posted concerning the lack of difference in caring for a toddler vs. a small infant are clearly posted by someone who is NOT a parent or close relative to a baby. If they are, God bless their poor children. An infant can smother, while a toddler generally gets up or rolls over if a pillow ends up over his or her face. An infants head is also soft and pliable, while yours or mine is hard and can take a short fall in most cases. The foot and a half fall off a couch could cause anything from a small bump to a severe head injury in a baby.

Having clarified the obvious, I do think that Britt would try to be responsible and I do think that she would do just as good a job as anyone with no previous experience. She would take it seriously that she was caring for a baby, people. She may not have experience and may need help form her mom or assistant in the beginning, but I imagine she has both. She has more resources than my friends with no children or nieces or nephews but who might have to care for my child in an emeregency.

Not that I’d want her or anyone else practicing on my child…

madori on April 9th, 2005

I am not a big britney fan, but lets be honest here people. None of us know Britney. She could be capable of handling children, she does have a younger sister that I am sure she helped take care of and babysit. She is not stupid, she knows what she is doing. We are not in her life we do not see her on a day to day basis and to pass judgement isn’t right. Nobody knew who this shar jackson lady was until britney so I think that it is safe to say without britney no one would know her, sounds like shes using britney for bad press.

Michelle Anne on April 9th, 2005

Madori I don;t think were passing judgement ,but would you leav eyour kids in “capible hands” of some one who stole your boy friend away from you when you were 8 months pregnant ? Common some anamosity reins there dont you think? And past is alway brought up with a person regaurdless of who nd what they are when children are involved.
She could quit well be the best mother on Earth but actions speak louder then words!
Walks like a duck ,sounds like a duck……
I would think Shar just wants proof ,more then she has givin I think she is being very protective of her baby,I mean she isn’t all bad she lets him and britney watch the daughter.I mean I woldn’t want my child to be in the spot light and you know that it would be because of how it came into the world.
I am sure Britney will make a fine mother someday but in my eyes she has alot of growing up to do.she has been in the spot light a long time and her perceptions may be a bit off?I personal woud let her get use to being with the older one try her out first.I mean I would just throw my kids with even a babysitter without checking how she is with kids alone.No nanny help ,no father help.There is alot of underlying thing all 3 of them have to concider.Sad situation And made worse by the paparazzi to.Plud I don;t think Britney needs nay help to get bad press she does that quit well on her own.(BTW I niether like nor dislike Britney )

sara on April 10th, 2005

Yeah, I was curious about that too, is Shar breastfeeding? Because I could understand where she’s coming from then.

May be she is bitter, yeah, but this is her kid. If you were in her position, would you want to hand your baby over to someone who’s pulled the stuff Britney has? And I’m sorry, but Kevin just doesn’t seem like that involved of a dad.

Does Shar have a nanny? I doubt it. Why would she want to give her baby to Briteny at this young age, especially with all the milestones she could miss, just so Britney could pass him off to a nanny whenever seh felt like it?

nik on April 11th, 2005

i knew who shar was before the whole britney thing as did a lot of others. She’s not a movie star but she’s done a lot of work. Shar has had more interaction with brit then any of us so if she feels a certain way its probably for good reason.

sarah on April 11th, 2005

In the pictures I’ve seen of Britney Spears with her stepdaughter, it looks like they have fun together, but doesn’t seem like Britney has hardcore childcare duties. She’s playing with Kori in the pool, buying her clothes, fixing her hair or something. It also seems that, while Kori’s with Britney and Kevin quite a bit, she doesn’t live with them. She sees them and have a good time with them.

Contrast that to other parents you know, and even many of the celebrities on this site. Sure, there are some nannies, but you also see pictures of people taking their kids to the doctor, to church, dealing with tantrums, and basically engaged in the harder tasks of parenting, rather than only fun activities.

Shar Jackson obviously encourages Kori to have a good relationship with Kevin and Britney, and has several older children who also spend time with them. It doesn’t seem like she’s trying to punish Kevin and Britney by denying them a relationship with her children.

However well-intentioned Britney might be, if she has never been around a young child, there’s no reason for Shar Jackson to allow Britney to practice on Kaleb. It doesn’t matter if Britney has a million people to help her – it’s better to leave your child with one person you trust than an army of people you don’t know, or are unsure about the abilities of.

To those who say Britney Spears was “like a mother” to her sister Jamie-Lynn – there’s only about a nine or ten year age gap between them. Although she might have helped out, it’s extremely unlikely she ever cared for her sister unsupervised.

Miss Annji on April 12th, 2005

First of all, I do not understand some of the posts here about Shar and her baby. First of all I am a mother, and Shar has the right to “guard” and protect her child. That is a mother’s first instinct to protect her baby. And just because Brittany has money and she is famous, we only see the “good” side, none of us really know her. I have read in newspapers where step-parents and girlfriends have abused their spouses children, heck even their own, fir whatever reason; some simply because they dont like the ex, or the baby/child is consuming too much time, or they are jealous. I am not saying that Brittany will do this, but who are we to say that she wont. Kaleb is not at an age where he can say, he or she was mean to me, or this happened to me. Kori is. Point blank bottom line. Brittany has never had to care for a newborn solely and what is she going to do hire a nanny? Just because she is nesting doesnt make her a fit parent. You do not practice on kids, and going on extravagant shopping sprees doesnt make you a great mommy. And as for the bitter comment, that was made. Shar has a right to be angry,he left her pregnant, that is a hard and vulnerable time; and she has the right to govern her kids. And your point was stupid, because if she was so “bitter”, Kori and Cassie (who is NOT Kevins’) would be allowed to be with Brittany. And looks to me that Kori has on a Brittany hat. So where’s the bitterness? It’s comments like that, that are ignorant. Shar is a down to earth celebrity and mother, and it is refreshing to see celeb mothers, with their own kids, more than 30-50% of the time. Working is one thing, just to have a nanny to have one is another. I applaude Shar for being strong and a good mother, and handling the situation in a mature manner.

tiara on April 23rd, 2005

you are right Shar. you stay strong for your kids. Britney problably won’t watch her own kids. she might hired a nanny. i agree with you on this one she shouldn’t watch baby boy Kaleb.

t young on April 23rd, 2005

My personal opinion is that Shar is right in many ways. First of it she is the sole provider of Kaleb and im sorry being a mother myself there is know way that brittany can have the instincts that a mother has no way and she is not being selfish by not letting britt practice on her child. Brittany has no clue what to do with an infant and secondly Books do not teach you everything about a child it takes experience. And let britt exp on her own child. As for hiring a nanny please that is so hollywood I dont need you to tend to my child if you need to hire a nanny. there is a big difference between a two year old and a 8 month old. though affection and love is need to both a baby is a big big responsibility Let Shar enjoy her baby and let brittany enjoy hers. Being a mother my instinct would be the same. As for shar being unheard of until brittany Shar was a co-star in Moesha for as long as it aired
this is just my opinion though

Miss Annji on July 7th, 2006

Shar was not on a high horse, she had good mothering instincts. i bet all of those who dissed shar and made negative comments, had a change of heart and attitude.